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missfabulous
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Colleen

Staring problems

It's really embarrassing but sometimes I stare and I don't mean it.

If I'm tired or thinking, I just stare off into space. But sometimes, without realizing it I end up staring at people. Once at a bar, a girl wanted to fight me because I had a "staring problem" and another time at the gym someone turned to me and asked "Um is there a problem" I wasn't intentionally staring either time I just stare off into space because I get lost in my thoughts.

I never stare at people on purpose because of how they look, or if they have a handicap, or anything.

I was just wondering if anyone else has ever been caught accidentally staring.

It's kind of embarrassing to admit, but some women have been ready to FIGHT me because they thought I was staring at them. I hope I'm not completely abnormal. Chat Icon

Posted 10/27/10 2:23 PM
 
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headoverheels
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LB

Re: Staring problems

I am the same way. I do it ALL the time. I call it "spacing out" Chat Icon

No one has ever wanted to fight me (that I know of) but I have caught myself staring at someone many times. I never realize I am doing it!

Posted 10/27/10 2:25 PM
 

Cacarina
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Cari

Re: Staring problems

Wow, my friend has this problem as well. She just stares at people and many times she actually has a judgemental look on her face when she does it. I am not sure if she means it or not. I was with her this weekend and we were on a crowded subway and she was just STARING at the girl standing next to her. You could tell the girl was getting uncomfortable. I whispered to my friend, "Stop staring at that girl, it is weird!" She was just like, "Oh, I know I have a staring problem, I can't help it!"

SO you are not alone! Chat Icon

Posted 10/27/10 2:27 PM
 

MRsFaTThead
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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!

Re: Staring problems

girls can be reall poopoos head.

i stare all the time. if some twit gets nasty about it im usually polite about it

if someone stares at me i really dont care cause most of the time i look like poo so they have every right to stare

Posted 10/27/10 2:29 PM
 

Sunday
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Re: Staring problems

Posted by MRsFaTThead

girls can be reall poopoos head.

i stare all the time. if some twit gets nasty about it im usually polite about it

if someone stares at me i really dont care cause most of the time i look like poo so they have every right to stare



I don't think someone is necessarily a "twit" b/c your staring at them elicits a response. If someone is staring at me for a few seconds I would never say anything. If someone is staring at me and minutes are passing you bet your a$$ I would say something like, "Do I know you?" or "Can I help you with something?". I think that's a pretty normal reaction.

I also don't think that you "look[ing] like poo" gives someone the "right" to stare at you.

To the OP, if you were staring at me long enough and intensely enough to elicit a response if you said to me, "I was really just zoned out in my own thoughts- sorry if it seemed like I was staring at you" or "Sorry if it looked like I was staring- I was just spacing out" I would think nothing of it and just move on. Chat Icon

Message edited 10/27/2010 2:41:44 PM.

Posted 10/27/10 2:41 PM
 

HeathKernandez
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Re: Staring problems

I do it all the time... No one ever wanted to "fight" me, but I did receive some awkward looks, etc.

Posted 10/27/10 3:31 PM
 

HeathKernandez
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Re: Staring problems

Posted by BrinaEsq


I don't think someone is necessarily a "twit" b/c your staring at them elicits a response. If someone is staring at me for a few seconds I would never say anything. If someone is staring at me and minutes are passing you bet your a$$ I would say something like, "Do I know you?" or "Can I help you with something?". I think that's a pretty normal reaction.




i agree. I also don't know anyone's mental status either and I have learned that ANYONE can fly off the handle for no reason, etc.

Posted 10/27/10 3:34 PM
 

Jenn627
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Member since 5/08

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Jenn

Re: Staring problems

I do the same. I usually stare at objects not people though. My DH calls it Jennifer space

Posted 10/27/10 3:37 PM
 

StaceyWill
It's a girl!!!

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Stacey

Re: Staring problems

I do it all the time...My coworker sits directly across from me and she always laughs and says- what the heck are you staring at!
One time at a bar a loooooong time ago a girl wanted to fight because I was staring at her, but I just totally zone out.

Posted 10/27/10 3:38 PM
 

Sunday
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Re: Staring problems

Posted by HeathKernandez

Posted by BrinaEsq


I don't think someone is necessarily a "twit" b/c your staring at them elicits a response. If someone is staring at me for a few seconds I would never say anything. If someone is staring at me and minutes are passing you bet your a$$ I would say something like, "Do I know you?" or "Can I help you with something?". I think that's a pretty normal reaction.




i agree. I also don't know anyone's mental status either and I have learned that ANYONE can fly off the handle for no reason, etc.



I should have also mentioned that if someone who is clearly insane is staring I don't say anything (like on the train) lol. But also looks can be deceiving and you never know so I probably do take a chance when I ask, "Can I help you with something" or, "Do I know you?"

Posted 10/27/10 3:51 PM
 

missfabulous
#mommyneedswine

Member since 6/09

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Colleen

Re: Staring problems

Thanks for the responses- its good to know I'm not the only one!

Brina- I usually pretty say the exactly thing, I apologize for staring and just explain I was zoning out..because like I said- I don't mean to!! Unfortunatly not everyone was always so willing to accept.

Posted 10/27/10 6:56 PM
 

DiamondGirl
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Member since 7/09

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Re: Staring problems

I have been known to stare Chat Icon I can't help it! PLUS I kind if think it is a compliment...obviously you are good to look at if I am staring Chat Icon

The fighting over staring is hysterical. When I was younger I had a cple of those run ins...those people need to get a grip Chat Icon

Posted 10/27/10 7:00 PM
 

EBet724
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Re: Staring problems

Aw LOL Colleen!! I do the same thing sometimes Chat Icon Chat Icon and I feel sooo stupid when i make eye contact and realize i was starring Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 10/27/10 7:01 PM
 

Mrs213
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Re: Staring problems

Sometimes I do the same thing...

Posted 10/27/10 7:10 PM
 

Alexandra17
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Member since 4/09

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Alexandra (ali)

Re: Staring problems

I do this too..when I am tired I do it a lot

Posted 10/27/10 7:12 PM
 

drpepper318
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Member since 6/07

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Name:
me

Re: Staring problems

I do this all the time!!!!! Never on purpose, but I know I need to be more careful about it.

Posted 10/27/10 7:43 PM
 

Bearcat
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Member since 6/10

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E

Re: Staring problems

yeah i've had that problem too Chat Icon

Posted 10/27/10 8:42 PM
 

racheK
Hudson's Momma

Member since 10/10

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Name:
Rachel

Re: Staring problems

This is funny! Today on the subway a girl was staring at me--I kept glancing at her to see if she was still staring and each time, her eyes were still on me! I thought maybe I had boogers or something---I wasn't ready to fight her, I just assumed I had something on my face!


I do it a lot too and then get embarrassed when they catch me.

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Posted 10/28/10 9:53 PM
 

BsMomma2014
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Member since 6/10

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nicole

Re: Staring problems

i always stare! i just can't help it

dh always makes fun of me

Posted 10/28/10 10:05 PM
 

MrsSpring
I'm a lucky mama

Member since 1/10

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L

Re: Staring problems

you are one of the nicest people i have ever met. i doubt you give that impression!
i have not great vision and i never wear my glasses so i squint all the time and i always thought people thought i was giving them dirty looks.

Posted 10/28/10 10:17 PM
 

fujamaga
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Member since 5/10

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Cathy

Re: Staring problems

hahah I have this problem too and I can't always blame it on spacing out, I just take a really long time looking at things Chat Icon

Posted 10/28/10 11:43 PM
 
 

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