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Sneezy
Thankful for my miracle!
Member since 5/05 1939 total posts
Name:
Jen
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Pity Party
I’m having a rough night. Week actually. Not sure if it is the culmination of work stress, being swamped with tasks for the THIRD baby shower I’m throwing within a year or the fact that my “shoulda been due date” is next week.
(After being told we wouldn’t conceive naturally, we did, but it was ectopic.)
DH and I are stuck in the middle somewhere between TTC and waiting to resume testing and starting meds. Since we conceived naturally, they want us to keep trying, but because I have only one fallopian tube left, only every other month really counts.
I’m just sick of this. After two years, I don’t feel as though I am any closer to having a child than I have ever been. Part of me wants to stop TTC and just forget about it for a while, but I’m almost 33 and am afraid to get any older. We may have years of IF ahead of us.
I’m tired of being patient, I’m tired of TTC, I’m tired of being the only childless couple we know. I am dreading the two baptisms and the baby shower I have in the next two weeks. I secretly hate the insensitive friends who send emails with “look how our lives have changed” in the subject line and baby pictures in the body of the email.
We even had houseguests for two months (temporarily homeless cousins) who accidentally conceived a second child they can’t afford in our spare bedroom six weeks ago!
I’m tired of putting on a brave face for the rest of the world (and not posting because LIF isn’t entirely anonymous) and I just want to scream.
Thanks for letting me vent. Only you ladies could possibly understand this.
   
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Posted 9/27/07 11:29 PM  |
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Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!
Member since 5/05 20046 total posts
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Re: Pity Party
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| Posted 9/28/07 12:13 AM |
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jules227
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/07 527 total posts
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julieann
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Re: Pity Party
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| Posted 9/28/07 6:55 AM |
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Carolyn
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Member since 5/07 5351 total posts
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Twin mommy
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Re: Pity Party
I'm sorry you're feeling down...vent away!
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| Posted 9/28/07 7:50 AM |
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CookiePuss
Cake from Outer Space!
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Re: Pity Party
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| Posted 9/28/07 10:58 AM |
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Red
spring is in the air
Member since 11/05 2688 total posts
Name:
helen
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Re: Pity Party
 I am so sorry - you really are having a rough time of it - I wish there was a magin pill
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| Posted 9/28/07 11:03 AM |
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MEWF
LIF Adolescent
Member since 4/07 503 total posts
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M
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Re: Pity Party
im so sorry you are going thru this. it does seem very unfair.
i too had a MC and some other bad things happen recently and i got a lot of wonderful support from these boards which was a comfort. hopefully you find the same.. dont give up. thinking of you and sending 
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| Posted 9/28/07 11:35 AM |
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imyself
Member since 10/06 2938 total posts
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me
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Re: Pity Party
no words just
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| Posted 9/28/07 11:58 AM |
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hopin4baby
LIF Adolescent
Member since 4/07 759 total posts
Name:
Allison
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Re: Pity Party
I am so sorry you are having a rough week!
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| Posted 9/28/07 12:36 PM |
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NShoreMommy
LIF Infant
Member since 12/05 128 total posts
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Re: Pity Party
I am so sorry. Nobody really understands except the people on these boards. People can be so insensitive. A couple of months after I had the first of one of my many MCs a family member gave a gift to another family member who was obviously TTC and said "for the mother-to-be" as I sat there like an idiot. People just do not think of your feelings and what you are going through. It is so hard.
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| Posted 9/28/07 1:20 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
Member since 5/05 20223 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: Pity Party
Posted by Sneezy
Since we conceived naturally, they want us to keep trying, but because I have only one fallopian tube left, only every other month really counts.
You'll be happy to know this is not true. You do not alternate every other month-it is hit or miss. Even if you O from the bad side the other tube can reach out and pick up that egg. I have researched this extensively as I am in the same situation
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| Posted 9/28/07 3:12 PM |
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MrsMessina
Thankful for our miracles!
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Re: Pity Party
Hey, I'm joining you in your pity party now. Just heard from the dr. I updated my post. I feel like this is so unfair for all of us. Lets hang in there as best we can as hard as I know it is.
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| Posted 9/28/07 3:14 PM |
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lemonlime
Member since 1/07 1226 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Pity Party
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| Posted 9/28/07 8:12 PM |
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Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
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| Posted 9/29/07 1:36 AM |
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ihilani
LIF Adolescent
Member since 9/07 858 total posts
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alias
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Re: Pity Party
Back before I met DH and was 30+ and chronically single, I would decline invitations to non-essential showers and even weddings. It was just too hard and took so much out of me, so I chose to stop. Avoidance is no cure-all, but it sure helped me not bring my spirits down for a few Saturday afternoons.
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| Posted 9/30/07 10:22 AM |
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angel7
LIF Adolescent
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Re: Pity Party
So sorry!
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| Posted 9/30/07 11:05 AM |
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skygirl
Our prayers were answered:)
Member since 6/05 4919 total posts
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Erica
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Re: Pity Party
Sorry you are feeling this way, fertility issues really suck.
I hope things change for you soon 
Vent away
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| Posted 9/30/07 12:56 PM |
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MrsPornStar
Partners in crime
Member since 10/05 14656 total posts
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Mama
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Re: Pity Party
I just wanted to send some hugs your way.
I can understand how you're feeling. This is so hard and at times make you want to give up.
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| Posted 10/1/07 9:57 AM |
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tricey32
LIF Zygote
Member since 5/07 13 total posts
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Tricey
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Re: Pity Party
Dont you ever give up!!!!!!!
Trust in God that he has perfect timing , I know its hard to believe when everyone around you is having babies, its just not your time yet! have faith, and dont give up! you will have your moments, as we all do , just take courage that you are not in this alone. vent when you need to, and we are here for you! God bless you!!!!!!  keep your head up!
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| Posted 10/1/07 2:33 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
Member since 5/05 20223 total posts
Name:
Melissa
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Re: Pity Party
Posted by tricey32
Dont you ever give up!!!!!!!
Trust in God that he has perfect timing , I know its hard to believe when everyone around you is having babies, its just not your time yet! have faith, and dont give up! you will have your moments, as we all do , just take courage that you are not in this alone. vent when you need to, and we are here for you! God bless you!!!!!! keep your head up!
I know you were trying to be nice but it is very annoying when someone new posts on here and talks about how God has a plan for us. I personally find this offensive and for those that know me, I don't find much offensive
Please realize that this is not helpful. Thanks. Good luck
FYI If this is true God's timing has really really really SUCKED for my DH and I. I think it IS my time after 4 pregnancy losses and removal of a fallopian tube
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| Posted 10/1/07 3:36 PM |
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Sneezy
Thankful for my miracle!
Member since 5/05 1939 total posts
Name:
Jen
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Re: Pity Party
Thanks everybody. I'm doing better for now, but am planning my day tomorrow (my due date) very carefully. When I lost the pregnancy, I dreaded this date, but thought I would be okay because for sure I'd be pregnant by now. We all know how that goes...
Anyway, I really appreciate your support. You are all awesome. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have these boards.
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