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nrthshgrl
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment: Next goal page 5
Bumping as a reminder.
If anyone is in, I'm going for 3 before Wednesday.
So far DH has been extra mushy. On Saturday, he went to my mom's house & weeded her horribly overgrown backyard and then instead of having dinner at our house, he asked me to bring the ribs he was making over to her house.
The little things I did were:
-Made his coffee on the weekend.
-Rave about his cooking (it was rave-worthy, but I often forget).
-Tell him he looked damn adorable in a new shirt he's wearing (also rave-worthy).
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment: Page 6 results
bumping because we could all use a reminder every now and then.....thanks Barb!!!!
my 3 things:
*1- not b*tch/nag about little things or be sarcastic
*2- give him a few days to quit smoking for new year's (his decision) before saying anything about it
*3- do laundry and make him dinner this week
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Porrruss
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment: Page 6 results
OK- I'm in.....
This week I VOW to:
Have the house clean by the time he gets home (if you saw the kind of housekeeper I am, you'd understand)
Initiate  at least twice
Set up his coffee for the next morning.
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| Posted 1/1/08 12:26 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Bumping because eh...I needed a reminder this week.
Ok here are mine for the weekend:
- Clean the house
- Make his coffee in the am
- Look into low-cholesterol options for dinner (not actually COOK them because that would be cruel, but I'll show them to him to cook)
- Load this stupid computer program & LEARN it so I can help him with something for his band
The last is going to be the bane of my existence considering I have more than enough work for my job this weekend, but I'll give it a shot - or at least fake it really well. 
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| Posted 2/8/08 10:01 PM |
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ziamaria
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
since this is our anniversary weekend - i really need to do my 3
-make him coffee on sat n sun
-give him a massage
-BD (been a long time now that we have a baby...)
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| Posted 2/8/08 10:44 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
bumping because we could all use a reminder every now and then.....thanks Barb!!!!
my 3 things:
*1- not b*tch/nag about little things or be sarcastic
*2- give him a few days to quit smoking for new year's (his decision) before saying anything about it
*3- do laundry and make him dinner this week
OMG...this post of mine is almost a year old and my three things are the SAME 
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:17 AM |
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
I was thinking about this this morning - I need to try this again!!!
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:22 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
i love this! i need to try it.
DH really does so much for me and because i am stressed i often find myself snapping at him or overreacting about little stuff that doesn't even matter. he NEVER complains about having to work tons of overtime or cooking dinner when i need a break - he offers to help more often than not. i really need to recognize his efforts, because he always compliments me on mine 
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:24 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
OMG...this post of mine is almost a year old and my three things are the SAME
Mine are the same too
I have to shake things up a bit.
etd. I do have to admit I flinched when I saw it was bumped again as I've debated deleting it numerous times, but am still resisting.
Message edited 12/11/2008 11:35:44 AM.
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:26 AM |
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1stimemom
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
I love this idea and I think I will try it. Thanks!
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:28 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
OMG...this post of mine is almost a year old and my three things are the SAME
Mine are the same too
I have to shake things up a bit.
etd. I do have to admit I flinched when I saw it was bumped again as I've debated deleting it numerous times, but am still resisting.
Please don't! Or just take out the personal information - I really needed to read this right now
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:46 AM |
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leighla
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Oof. This hit me kind of hard too.
I was upset about things being clean and him not doing things "my way" with DS.
When today I would give anything for him to be able to get off the chair on his own or even pick up DS.
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| Posted 12/11/08 11:50 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Posted by leighla
Oof. This hit me kind of hard too.
I was upset about things being clean and him not doing things "my way" with DS.
When today I would give anything for him to be able to get off the chair on his own or even pick up DS.
We all complain about the little things with our SOs. Just like having cancer doesn't nominate him for sainthood, complaining about the little things doesn't mean you loved him or appreciated any less during those easier times.
We are all praying that you'll be back to bitching about him not cleaning up after himself someday soon. In fact, we look forward to it.
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| Posted 12/11/08 12:14 PM |
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leighla
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Posted by nrthshgrl
We all complain about the little things with our SOs. Just like having cancer doesn't nominate him for sainthood, complaining about the little things doesn't mean you loved him or appreciated any less during those easier times.
We are all praying that you'll be back to bitching about him not cleaning up after himself someday soon. In fact, we look forward to it.
I totally agree.
I'm usually the first to say that whatever someone is going through is hard in their own life in that time.
And I remember being VERY VERY mad at the time.
But with some perspective on my own life, I really wish I had had more patience.
Someone said something to me the other day that I've been using to help me that may help all of us who are lacking in the patience department.
Before you blow up about something, stop and think:
"Will the thing that I'm about to get mad about matter tomorrow?"
And if not, let it go or at least speak about it calmly.
That's been helping me a tremendous amount lately with letting the "little things" go.
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by leighla
Oof. This hit me kind of hard too.
I was upset about things being clean and him not doing things "my way" with DS.
When today I would give anything for him to be able to get off the chair on his own or even pick up DS.
We all complain about the little things with our SOs. Just like having cancer doesn't nominate him for sainthood, complaining about the little things doesn't mean you loved him or appreciated any less during those easier times.
We are all praying that you'll be back to bitching about him not cleaning up after himself someday soon. In fact, we look forward to it.
Barb...this is the 2nd time I have bumped this thread and both times I asked myself if I should've FMed you first to ask if it was ok. I'm sorry that I didn't but I do know that indirectly, you have made my marriage a better one and for that I thank you I bumped this today to help Tilde (and myself).
Leighla.....I'm sorry if this made your day more difficult. It is a reminder to us all to not "sweat the small stuff" but I do  for the day where you are back to complaining
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| Posted 12/11/08 12:19 PM |
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partyof6
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
I dk what I can add to this or if people agree with me. If they do not its o.k. I am at peace with it.
Ii went into marriage with 2 eyes open and closed one after.
The lid on the toilet left up does not matter,
clothes on the floor do not matter.
bla bla
Mind you I will say something but I live thinking and maybe its morbid but we can all walk out the door angry and never see each other again.
Life is too short-smell the roses, appreciate the good the bad and the ugly.
I will apologize for petty things (not big things) because of this.
I live my life by "Paying it forward"
I try to make memories goos ones when I am ready to drop dead...like now..
I want my kkids and dh to love the smell of fresh cut grass and so on....
Am I making sense or rambling?
I try to to what I can for him-I love him more then 21 years ago---thats right...21 years...married 16.
ihe is my best friend.
This does not go without saying he has no problem tooting 24-7 which grosssssssses me out but.........its a small thing!
I try to make his favorite meals-get things for him Ii hear him mention during theh year yada yada..and he never asks for anything in return.
I gotta love this smelly man...lmao
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| Posted 12/11/08 12:41 PM |
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gottaluvmusik
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
I am in on this. I can be very self centered in our marriage. So this week I did
1. I didnt make a big deal about nye when we were supposed to have a big night and we are now going to his mothers.
2. I made a night away to Atlantic City
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| Posted 12/11/08 2:09 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
My husband should thank you bc after reading this I made my dh breakfast, put away the laundry and we did something that hasn't been easy to do having a baby around!
I am going to try to continue this experiment...
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| Posted 12/11/08 3:29 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
this topic is great...we actually did an experiment called "The Love Dare"..which is a movie experiment based on a book...the movie, was alil cliche, and kind of not our thing, the book, has changed our lives..
when the OP stated that the "love part comes later" thats exactly right...
when you married this person you loved them..you gotta put into it exactly what you wouldve put into it back then,
even without "talking about it, nagging about it, etc" your spouse is gonna see feel and notice a difference in you, and it can only beget good things for the two of you..
i STRONGLY recommend this book, it definately OUTLINES a way to make things work in the same way the OP explained..
its called "the love dare"
good luck to all of you, and God bless all of our marriages ;)
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| Posted 12/11/08 4:57 PM |
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shortypie15
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
yes, i do please tell me the 10.
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eddiesmommy
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
Just read this for the first time today and I think its a great idea!!!! My DH and I fight all the time over stupid sh*t, so this could be good for us.
1) not call him an @sshole in the middle of supermarket as I did today over pears
2) clean out the fridge (usually his job)
3) match up his socks (he usually just leaves his mismatched in a bag)
4) hug him more
5) BD and not begrudingly
6) Save the Suduko puzzles from the paper for him (he used to do them everyday before DS)
7) ATTEMPT to cook dinner
8) play with his hair - hes like a puppy, he loves that and I probably havent done it in 2 years
9) not be a b*tch for at least a full day
10) Just put his crap away in the bathroom that he leaves ALL over without making a big deal of it.
Really glad this was bumped 2 years after its OP.
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| Posted 5/17/09 10:03 PM |
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leighla
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
I'm bumping this because I think it would help a lot of people right now.
I hope you don't mind, Barb.
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maymama
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
great thread.
my 3 things -
1. no more bitchy sarcasim (even if he reallllly deserves it )
2. cook him dinner. (im starting tonight! he was SO excited this morning when I told him I was going to cook tonight  )
3. initiate DTD. maybe tonight. maybe
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| Posted 11/4/10 10:52 AM |
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Ophelia
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
I am sort of doing this right now.
I just started this week. I'm not going to post what I am doing b/c my dh is a lurker but I'll post if it works over the next month.
but basically, I am missing something from him, but I haven't been doing what I know I could be doing to get it....so I am starting with me.
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| Posted 11/4/10 10:56 AM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: The Husband (or Wife) Experiment - bumped, new posts start pg 6
i (we) could use it. thanks for bumping.
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