What do I do????

My best friend just called to tell me she miscarried at 8 weeks. We just cried and cried. I wish I could give her a hug, but she's upstate. I told her I was sorry and I don't know what else to say or do. I feel horrible that I didn't know she was pregnant and that I sent our sono pics to her right after she miscarried. Another close friend just had a baby and I know she's overwhelmed with her mixed emotions. Have any of you had friends miscarry?

They are planting a small orchard in the Spring on their property in honor of their child. I thought this was an amazing thing to do.

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I miscarried around 8 weeks as well. All I can say is to just be there for your friend. It is a healing process and it will take time to deal with. She may have days where she is fine, and others when she is so sad....just be there for her when she needs you. I know it was hard for me to hear when friends were getting pregnant when I had just miscarried, but when I got PG again, my friends were more excited for me!

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I havent had a friend miscarry- but I was in a similar situation. My BF and I got PG at the same time- we our due dates were 1 day apart- we were thrilled. I ended up miscarrying at 6 weeks. It was devastating. I really wasnt sure how I was going to be able to be around my best friend. She was totally great about the whole thing.

I think its great that they are doing something to honor their child.

I think the best thing that you can do for your friend is just be there for her- maybe send her something to let her know you are thinking about a her- a card, flowers, something like that.

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take cues from your friend. I miscarried in June at 10 1/2 weeks & I can tell you that for me, I didn't want to talk to anyone about it for a few weeks. I would just call to "check in" and if she wants to talk she will.

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that is SOO sad (and scary)... all you can do is lend a sympathetic ear and let her know you're there for her if she needs you

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Thank you ladies for sharing your stories with me and sending hugs. I'm forwarding on the hugs to my friend. I would appreciate any more words of wisdom as everybody acts differently at this time.