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Bridex100
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Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
A few of my friends are planning a small sprinkle for me and asking DH for assistance. They came up with afternoon tea at a very high end place. I know my friends are trying to make me happy but I much prefer something very low key. Most of my friends live in VA in the suburbs since that is where we live. It's kind of like asking your friends from Long Island to meet up at the Mandarin Oriental at Columbus Circle. I feel it is unnecessarily inconvenient and expensive.
Would you request new venue, something closer and low key or just show up and go with the flow?
I did tell DH to insist on picking up the tab, which he agreed to do.
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WannaBeAMom11
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Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Just show up. Don't stress yourself out. One of my best friends asked if I wanted one and I just said I don't care either way.
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| Posted 12/7/16 5:30 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Can dh maybe drop a few hints
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| Posted 12/7/16 8:54 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Posted by gina409
Can dh maybe drop a few hints
DH told me my friends are putting in a lot of effort and I should just go. I asked him if he suggested venue and he said no.
I had my original baby shower at Lady Mendyls in Manhattan and had afternoon tea. Not sure if it is coincidence that this sprinkle is also afternoon tea.
Guest list is completely different though. Not inviting any of my NY friends. These are all new friends I made in past 4 yrs we lived down in the DC area.
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| Posted 12/8/16 9:41 AM |
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
I'd just go with it.
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| Posted 12/8/16 10:22 AM |
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Summergrl14
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Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
I think you can tell them that you appreciate so much what they are doing for you and how hard they are planning, but you would prefer something much more low key and that they shouldn't feel that they have to go over the top.
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| Posted 12/8/16 11:18 AM |
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Budjeg11
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Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
If YOU really dont want to go and/or you really dont want DH to spend the money and they are asking DH or input then yes, definitely have DH tell them its not a good idea and he thinks you would prefer something more low key. However if you are ok with the idea and cost to your DH then I wouldnt worry that it is inconvenient for your friends- they may be looking forward to spending a day in the city- something they usually dont do! Especially if your DH is picking
up the tab!
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| Posted 12/8/16 4:39 PM |
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hmm
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Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
if they are throwing it why is your DH paying for it?
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| Posted 12/8/16 7:00 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Posted by hmm
if they are throwing it why is your DH paying for it?
Yes. And if he is paying and this is not what you really want, he should tell them to plan it someone you would feel more comfortable.
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| Posted 12/9/16 10:55 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Posted by hmm
if they are throwing it why is your DH paying for it?
For most group events paid for by others, I feel there is always a few in the group who complain about the cost. This can be for birthday parties, bachelorette parties, bridesmaid dresses, etc. Most of my friends have high HHIs but I don't want to burden the few who may feel the cost.
I don't think I even want a sprinkle. It's too late now. Pretty sure invites went out. It's only 8 people.
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| Posted 12/9/16 11:01 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Posted by Chai77
Posted by hmm
if they are throwing it why is your DH paying for it?
Yes. And if he is paying and this is not what you really want, he should tell them to plan it someone you would feel more comfortable.
The host originally asked me if she should have it at her house with kids or a mom only outing. I didn't want to inconvenience her so I said let's have a small gathering. Other friend (very high income) I think suggested the expensive venue. High income friend does not think about cost for others and usually that is fine for me but not fine for some of my good friends where money is tight.
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| Posted 12/9/16 11:05 AM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
I would let them plan it. It sounds like they love you and are excited to do something nice for you, so I'm sure they don't feel put out or inconvenienced.
While it is so nice of you DH to pick up the tab, I don't think it's necessary, and him doing that may actually make them feel self conscious about the expense. Just something to consider...
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| Posted 12/9/16 11:09 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Posted by Pomegranate5
I would let them plan it. It sounds like they love you and are excited to do something nice for you, so I'm sure they don't feel put out or inconvenienced.
While it is so nice of you DH to pick up the tab, I don't think it's necessary, and him doing that may actually make them feel self conscious about the expense. Just something to consider...
This whole thing is more trouble than it should be and is stressing me out!
I do like going to nice places and my DH and friends know that. I learned the hard way that not everyone can just spend money on outings. I used to be the one who suggested everything expensive whenever planning a group event. I always try to pick nice venues for celebrations for my friends.
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| Posted 12/9/16 11:27 AM |
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hmm
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Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
I still dont understand why your spouse is paying for it. If you're really that uncomfortable put a stop to it, esp if you are paying. If you let your friends pay, which is what they should be doing I would just go a long and enjoy.
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
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I still dont understand why your spouse is paying for it. If you're really that uncomfortable put a stop to it, esp if you are paying. If you let your friends pay, which is what they should be doing I would just go a long and enjoy.
Because I have never attended a baby shower, bridal shower or baby sprinkle where the guests pay for their own food.
Another reason is because 2-3 of the guests may not be able to afford the venue or if they do come, they will feel the financial burden of paying for an expensive venue and probably also buying a gift.
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| Posted 12/10/16 6:12 PM |
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hmm
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Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
I just read your post about you always picking $$ places. The showers I've attended as a guest I never paid, but the friends throwing the party did from what I know.
If this is going to cause you such stress, change venues to a less expensive, lower key place is what you should do. 8 people is not that large a number where a change would be difficult.
Make the change, reduce your stress and enjoy!!
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Posted by hmm
I just read your post about you always picking $$ places. The showers I've attended as a guest I never paid, but the friends throwing the party did from what I know.
If this is going to cause you such stress, change venues to a less expensive, lower key place is what you should do. 8 people is not that large a number where a change would be difficult.
Make the change, reduce your stress and enjoy!!
I am meeting 4 of the 8 friends next weekend. I am going to bring it up casually but stop stressing about it. People can always decline and not come. I know the core 4 who planned the shower will come and that is good for me. I did text the host about the venue and she said she and one other friend at least are looking forward to a long break from their kids. they are glad to go into the city for a change.
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by hmm
I just read your post about you always picking $$ places. The showers I've attended as a guest I never paid, but the friends throwing the party did from what I know.
If this is going to cause you such stress, change venues to a less expensive, lower key place is what you should do. 8 people is not that large a number where a change would be difficult.
Make the change, reduce your stress and enjoy!!
I am meeting 4 of the 8 friends next weekend. I am going to bring it up casually but stop stressing about it. People can always decline and not come. I know the core 4 who planned the shower will come and that is good for me. I did text the host about the venue and she said she and one other friend at least are looking forward to a long break from their kids. they are glad to go into the city for a change.
more to stress about in life :) ENJOY!
PS. I use to stress over little things in life, slowly learning not worth my time. Its nice you now realize not everyone can afford to drop $$$$ for a night out (excluding a shower). I have many friends who can afford much more than I. They know that and have more limitations and have always been considerate when it came to going out.
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| Posted 12/11/16 11:57 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you give input on friends throwing you a baby sprinkle?
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Posted by hmm
I just read your post about you always picking $$ places. The showers I've attended as a guest I never paid, but the friends throwing the party did from what I know.
If this is going to cause you such stress, change venues to a less expensive, lower key place is what you should do. 8 people is not that large a number where a change would be difficult.
Make the change, reduce your stress and enjoy!!
I am meeting 4 of the 8 friends next weekend. I am going to bring it up casually but stop stressing about it. People can always decline and not come. I know the core 4 who planned the shower will come and that is good for me. I did text the host about the venue and she said she and one other friend at least are looking forward to a long break from their kids. they are glad to go into the city for a change.
more to stress about in life :) ENJOY!
PS. I use to stress over little things in life, slowly learning not worth my time. Its nice you now realize not everyone can afford to drop $$$$ for a night out (excluding a shower). I have many friends who can afford much more than I. They know that and have more limitations and have always been considerate when it came to going out.
I almost lost a good friend over cost of going out. I thought she didn't want to hang out and was making excuses. She literally had to spell it out that not everyone can just spend $40-100 every night they go out. And I also learned being in bridal parties. I wished people stated up front they didn't want certain venues due to budget but in hindsight, it may have been obvious and I was the one who didn't realize why people were shooting down certain ideas and venues.
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