Annnd

I just found out another cousin is effing pregnant.

I give up

Annnd

I know how hard it is when everyone around you is expecting. You'll get there one day, too!

Annnd

my favorite is that I just read the FB private message and smacked DH (very lightly) because we're on the couch next to each other and he gets all mad at me... That I NEED TO CALM DOWN... really?!?!?!?!

Annnd

Men are wired differently. I'm sure your DH is just confident that you guys will be there in time and doesn't understand.

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Annnd

I can't even tell u how many very close ppl to me are preggo - it sux! I'm happy for them and sad for myself. dH would've reacted same way as your dh!! They just don't have a clue...

Annnd

And I just apologized to him and said that it just makes me sad and he got so pissed at me. He said I shouldn't be sad, that I should be excited, that I need to stop feeling sorry for myself. I just said eff you and let him walk to bed. He said he didn't know what else to say to me, I just said he didn't need to say anything just listen.

I feel like I can't even talk to my husband about this now... I just don't get it.

Annnd

I am so there with you....totally understandable. This is the type of stuff that gets between a couple during all this crap....hopefully you guys will bounce back today with a little sleep.
Someone here had recommended couples therapy and we have started and it is helping. It's like we both live on two different planets and someone needs to translate the language!

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Annnd

We went through that too. Men are wired differently and as upset as he was we were struggling conceiving it just wasn't his body that was failing at it. As a woman it hits your so much harder bc your body is failing you at the one thing you were born to do. He was always confident it would work. We ended up seeing a therapist right after the first ivf didn't work and it helped a lot as much as I hated going.

Annnd

I'm just not going to say anything to him anymore, I'm not even going to tell him when I see an announcement because he legit gets happy and excited for the couple. I don't understand how it doesn't give him even the slightest pang of jealousy, and he'll never understand why I get so upset about it, so that's where it is. I'll just save my tears for you guys and one of my BFF's (one is just like DH).

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your time will come. I remember feeling the same exact way when I was TTC my first. All of my cousins announced they were pregnant within months of each other and I felt like "why not me"?

Annnd

All I can think is that that should be me - if I hadn't lost the first one I'd be about 7 months along at this point - and if the other stuck I'd be announcing now. It's so stupid to think but I feel like my babies are being taken away from me and are being given to everyone else.

I know it's horrible to think like that but that's how I feel.

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There are no wrong feelings.

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Thanks all!!! I hate feeling like this - I don't typically give in to the green eyed monster that is jealously but I have a difficult time with it regarding this. I have to just be careful about what I say around DH because while he snapped at me I know his biggest frustration is more that he can't help me feel better or happy and less at me. He does so much to make me happy and care for me, I think I'm going to do something nice for him tonight...