attending funeral while pregnant

i think its a Jewish superstition that you should not attend a funeral if you are pregnant
has anyone heard of this?
im very early (not public knowledge yet) and there is a funeral next week for someone i used to work with. My boss is making arrangements for coworkers to attend since it is during work hours so part of my concern is saying I am not going and not being able to give an explanation as to why i am opting to stay at work instead of attending.

attending funeral while pregnant

I'm not Jewish but have heard this superstition -- from ladies on here actually.

I attended a funeral with DS#1 and he's perfectly fine healthy and "normal". I attended another funeral with this PG too. Not worried about it.

attending funeral while pregnant

I actually attended 3 funerals while PG.

DS is almost 2 and healthy crazy active little boy.

attending funeral while pregnant

Jewish law is you can attend funeral just not go to the cemetery. Something with mixing new life and death. When I was 30 weeks pregnant with my son my husbands grandfather passed away. I went to the funeral home and skipped the cemetery. My son is 2.5 and totally normal 2.5 year old

attending funeral while pregnant

thanks all - i think i was looking for an excuse not to go

i cant really justify believing in the superstition under certain circumstances - if this was a close relative or friend i wouldn't hesitate going to the funeral. its just bc of my relationship wtih the coworker i think i was looking for an out

attending funeral while pregnant

Im jewish and I did not go to a funeral while I was pregnant for this reason. It's not the funeral tho it's the cemetery. It's superstitious to go to a cemetery while pregnant but a funeral service is different unless it is graveside.

Message edited 10/11/2013 4:16:20 PM.

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I'm not Jewish and never heard this before. My grandfather passed away while I was pregnant with DD1. There was no way that I wasn't going to not attend.

attending funeral while pregnant

A good friend passed away when I was 7 months pregnant; I attended all services and the funeral. DD is a happy and healthy 4yo. My gram passed away when my sister was 8.5 months pregnant and her DD is wonderful and healthy also. This is one superstition that I don't buy into.

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as pp mentioned the Jewish superstition is not to go to the cemetery. There is no reason you shouldn't go to the funeral. If you just don't want to the funeral that's your choice, but there isn't a JEwish superstition about that. I'm Jewish and have gone to about 3 funerals while pregnant and each time just skipped the cemetery.

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Not Jewish but when I was pregnant I would not go to a cemetary.

attending funeral while pregnant

If you don't want to go then don't. They can't make you attend a funeral. I would just explain you are not comfortable attending and would prefer to stay at work but you really appreciated that they were offering.

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When I was pregnant with my daughter, 2 close family members of my husband passed.. and a close friend of myself passed.

I went to all 3 funerals.. When I told a friend of mine she freaked out. Personally, I wouldnt dare to NOT pay respects to any of these people. Its really a personal decision.

If you had never heard of this superstition until now, then its not really something you believe in. However, if you dont feel comfortable in going.. that alone should be a good enough reason, and should be respected by your boss.

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I just attened one this past friday.

attending funeral while pregnant

I'm not jewish, but my cousin passed away when i was PG with DD1. I was only 12 weeks and went to every service there was because I was devastated and needed to be there for her. My daughter is absolutely fine.