My baby hates me

Well maybe doent HATE me but sure doesnt love me. I am the last one to get baby to look at me. Meaning baby would stare at everyone and literally avoid looking at me until recent. DH is the most important thing to baby and thats great. Sure im jealous but i can gt over that. My issue is i am with baby all day. I feed i change i play i do everything. When grumpy time starts i cant console baby. Husband comes and makes it all better. It breaks my heart. I do everuthing to be loved by my baby and fail.

Is there something in me that makes baby not like me? Will it ever go away or will i always be shunned?

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I feel like this sometimes with my son. I honestly just think I'm boring to him now. I would try not to get too upset about it.

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It sounds like your baby is very young. I wouldn't think that, baby is just taking in new faces and sensations. He probably just knows your face so well that someone else is 'new '. They go thru phases like that, where they prefer some things over others. Right now, my 6mo old hates when I give her to someone else to hold!

My baby hates me

I felt like this the first few months after my son was born. I felt he loved my husband and was just blah with me. I really thought it was bc he was with me all day long and just kind of got sick of me. The. When dh got home, it was almost like a breath of fresh air! That eventually stopped though. Now I'm the favorite. : ) ( for now)

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I promise you. Your baby does not hate you

Any person thing show whatever they don't see regularly will always be interesting to them

I use to feel this way too bc I was with the twins all day while Dh worked

They got so excited to see him

Now they are older and I can't pee alone. U will be peeling with a partner too. I promise

My baby hates me

Baby doesn't hate you! How old is dc? I had the same thing when dd was young and I was home on maternity leave. Daddy came home and it was all giggles, she got fussy and daddy held her and it was like he had the magic touch. That changed and now she's happy to see us both! I think dc is just so used to being with you he enjoys new faces

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Young babies have a preference for novelty. It's more interesting to them. They will glance at new things (like faces) longer. You didn't say how old the baby is, but I bet this is what's going on. The baby is used to you, that is all.

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I feel the same way! Actually, I think my baby is scared of me. He looks terrified when I come near him or pick him up. He's definitely more calm around other people. Also, he cries more when I hold him than anyone else. DH says it's in my mind, but I don't think so. Since I've noticed this, I've been trying extra hard to speak in a soft voice & stay calm & happy around him. I don't take it TOO personally though, because he doesn't know I'm his mother yet... I'm pretty sure at some point, he'll love me & won't be scared of me anymore.

Don't worry. Your baby is super young so things will definitely change! Also, I'm sure your baby doesn't hate you, even if it feels that way.

My baby hates me

I felt the same way for the first two months of ds life. I was definitely more anxious and a little depressed for a while and I think he felt that vibe. When I started feeling better and stopped beating myself up, he started being calmer with me.

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Maybe, the baby is picking up on your negative feelings? If you believe he hates you, you could be giving off vibes, maybe. I think you should relax and let things happen naturally. It is absolutely improbable that your baby hates you. Go to a music class and do something fun. Maybe, that will help.