How far along...

were your when you told extended family/friends?

I'll be 7 weeks on Tuesday and its getting hard not to tell people...I'm very superstitious though and it took 2 yrs to get here so I'm hesitant but I feel like I can't fully enjoy my pregnancy if no one else around me knows.

On the other hand I feel as though I'm jumping the gun and still so much can happen this early...I'm torn.

I think both of my parents my explode if they can't tell someone other than each other soon

eta: I realize its a personal decision but any insight would be helpful!! I'm just curious how you felt and what you did.

Thanks!!

Message edited 7/14/2006 11:27:53 AM.

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I think that is a personal decision. Everyone believes things differently when it comes to that. Personally, im telling people as soon as i get a positve blood test.

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I told on Christmas Day, I was about 7 weeks. It's really a personal decision.

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I told right away when I first got pregnant- I was so excited.

Then I lost the baby and had to UNTELL everyone and it was sooo hard.
I would wait to see the heartbeat at the first visit which should be very soon.

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Our families knew around Christmas and I was about 7-8weeks along. They came right out and asked since I wasn't drinking. Our friends, I waited til about 11w and everyone else I waited til about 16w.

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We told parents, siblings, grandma - 5 days after testing (my parents were away so we wanted to tell them all at the same time!). I was 5 weeks.
We told bestest (is that a word??) friends a few weeks later.
Rest of the world - at 11 1/2 weeks after we saw the 1st sonogram

We told our bestest friends early because if g-d forbid something were to happen, we would ewant them to be there for us anyway

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Posted by FelAndJon

We told parents, siblings, grandma - 5 days after testing (my parents were away so we wanted to tell them all at the same time!). I was 5 weeks.
We told bestest (is that a word??) friends a few weeks later.
Rest of the world - at 11 1/2 weeks after we saw the 1st sonogram

We told our bestest friends early because if g-d forbid something were to happen, we would ewant them to be there for us anyway

Message edited 7/14/2006 2:48:27 PM.

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Posted by alexadt


I believe bestest is NOW a word

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DH and I are not telling anyone till i'm about 12 weeks. we're being kind of old fashioned with the issue and don't want to jump the gun.

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I suffered a loss at 13 weeks before this pregnancy, so I was extremely leery about spreading the news when I got pregnant again.

Once I saw the heartbeat, I told our parents and inlaws, maybe 2 close friends and my bro/sil. Everyone else (including extended family), I generally waited until I passed the 12 week point.

As we've all said.. it was a personal decision, neither right or wrong. I just knew I could not bear to tell a LARGE group of people again if something went wrong this time, as I had to do the first time. So yes, I was probably overly cautious this go-around.

Message edited 7/14/2006 11:40:59 AM.

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i was 7-8 weeks along

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12 weeks (1st baby) & 10 weeks (2nd baby). My reasoning was that I didn't want to have my family excited and then disappointed if it didn't work out. I would have told them if I mc'd but since they wouldn't have known it wouldn't have been such a letdown.

Also my mother & MIL can't keep their mouths shut. For their own wellbeing & our relationship, I thought it was too much of a burden for them to keep it a secret. So I waited until everyone could know.

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We didn't tell extended family and friends until 12 weeks or so. I had a m/c before gianna and I didn't want everyone knowing god forbid something happened again.

My parents were going to explode too, but i kept reminding them they are adults and adults need to keep secrets. I also told them that if they didn't keep quiet, I wouldn't tell them until i was out of the 1st trimester with the second one.

It was hard but they kept their mouths shut until i gave them the okay, then they told everyone, including waiters, waitresses, their hairstylists!! It was quite funny

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I told my mom, mil, brother and best friend after I had a beta confirm the HPT. I didn't tell anyone else until 13 weeks! I had a lot of spotting throughout the 1st trimester and the doctor felt I was high risk for a miscarriage and strongly advised I don't tell too many people. I don't know if I would have told earlier if I wasn't spotting, I'm a worry wart and always expect the worst so I probably would have waited anyway.

Do what feels right!!!

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we told family and close friends right away. I told my boss when I was 10 weeks and the rest of my coworkers and other people that we knew at 12 weeks

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I was only about 5 weeks pregnant on Christmas Eve and wanted to tell everyone since we were all together.

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Before my m/c I told evryone that day i found out i was PG.
After that i waited 3 months

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Once I saw the heartbeat I couldn't keep it a secret. I was 8wks. The last people I told was work at about 11wks.

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My first pregnancy, we told people as soon as we knew (7 weeks). Family, friends, work - everyone! Unfortunately, it resulted in a MC, so I was mortified to have to tell everyone that I was no longer pregnant.

This time, I told my DH right away (obviously). Then at about 12 weeks, we told our parents (on Mother's Day), but asked them to still keep quiet. Then, a few weeks later, we allowed them to start telling family. Then we told people at church. Then, finally I announced it at work.

I liked doing it gradually because I felt like I was always walking around with good news. Try it that way - with telling your closest people first.

I am happily now 20 weeks and could shout it on a mountain!!!

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We told our parents at 6 weeks but swore them to secrecy.

Told everyone else around 9 weeks after the first appointment.

Told work at the 12 week mark.

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My sister and 4 friends (who knew we were TTC) as soon as I got my BFP, parents at 9 weeks, family at 12 weeks then everyone after that. Since we were having twins and it is so high risk I wanted to go for our sono at 11 weeks to confirm everything was ok before telling everyone.

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two seconds after my dr confirmed my beta.
It took two years to get there due to surgery to remove a cyst the size of a football where they had to remove and reattach an ovary. This surgery happened one month after my wedding!