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Strawberry2468
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What is considered self-soothing?
Is a pacifier self soothing? Or does self soothing mean calming themselves with no help? They lose the paci often and cry or whine. If they are just whining I let them and they calm down most times. The ped said we can CIO now (3 mo) but I dont like them to CRY cry that much just yet. Plus they are twins so one will wake the other so its CIO isnt so easy.
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wingsofsong
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What is considered self-soothing?
To me, self soothing means finding a way to soothe themselves without intervention from a parent/other person. That could be a pacifier, a blankie, finger sucking, rubbing their hair, etc, IMO.
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
Posted by wingsofsong
To me, self soothing means finding a way to soothe themselves without intervention from a parent/other person. That could be a pacifier, a blankie, finger sucking, rubbing their hair, etc, IMO.
That's what I always thought. I know she uses a blankie and daycare. At home she will suck on her hand pj.
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Strawberry2468
It's summatime
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
So if they lose the paci, they "should" be able to soothe another way then? Like eventually...maybe? lol (she types as they are both grunting in their swings because they both lost the pacis and woke up)
I feel bad that they cry each of the 400 times a day they lose pacis so I wish they had another way to calm themselves. I cant always get to them right away if Im dealing with the other, in the bathroom, shower, cooking, doing laundry, etc.
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Hofstra26
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
Posted by wingsofsong
To me, self soothing means finding a way to soothe themselves without intervention from a parent/other person. That could be a pacifier, a blankie, finger sucking, rubbing their hair, etc, IMO.
ITA! 
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justbeachy
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
My interpretation of 'self-soothe' is that they need to be able to soothe themselves without a binky. My ped said that by 4 months babies will really find their hands and fingers - which signals that they're ready to drop the binky.
I'm eagerly awaiting that one!!!!
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nov04libride
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
Posted by Strawberry2468
So if they lose the paci, they "should" be able to soothe another way then? Like eventually...maybe? lol (she types as they are both grunting in their swings because they both lost the pacis and woke up)
I feel bad that they cry each of the 400 times a day they lose pacis so I wish they had another way to calm themselves. I cant always get to them right away if Im dealing with the other, in the bathroom, shower, cooking, doing laundry, etc.
My 2 werent able to self-soothe another way. I don't think they necessarily "should"... It was a rough few months until 6 or 7 months when they learned to put it back in themselves, but then it got easier.
My older DS gets speech and his therapist said you'd rather they use a pacifier than the thumb, since you can get rid of a pacifier. Thumb suckers tend to suck much longer, and more hours during the day, and it has worse effects on speech and teeth.
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Champ
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
Posted by wingsofsong
To me, self soothing means finding a way to soothe themselves without intervention from a parent/other person. That could be a pacifier, a blankie, finger sucking, rubbing their hair, etc, IMO.
I would call this self soothing as well. IMO 3 months is way to young for CIO. 6 months is the norm. My girls were ready by 8 months adj age. and it worked like a charm. Not that we didnt let them cry at times and we definitely let them whine.. I just felt that they spent so any months screaming with colic and I couldn't console them that if I could I was going to.
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InShock
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What is considered self-soothing?
Yeah I'm surprised the ped said it's okay for CIO at 3 months. Anything I've read always says 6 mos. That aside, I think self-soothe means w/o any intervention, including a paci.
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iluvmynutty
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
Posted by InShock
Yeah I'm surprised the ped said it's okay for CIO at 3 months. Anything I've read always says 6 mos. That aside, I think self-soothe means w/o any intervention, including a paci.
ITA. Self soothing is without any intervention. Of they use a pacifier they are not self soothing. That's the purpose of using a pacifier because newborns can't self soothe.
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Re: What is considered self-soothing?
Posted by wingsofsong
To me, self soothing means finding a way to soothe themselves without intervention from a parent/other person. That could be a pacifier, a blankie, finger sucking, rubbing their hair, etc, IMO.
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