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stargazerlily
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That was a sign that I'm dumb - Thanks everyone
So I posted earlier about a sign that my meds were thrown out by accident and maybe I shouldn't do IVF. Well I'm a moron. That bottle was never in the box that was thrown out. As a matter of fact, it hadn't even been delivered yet. It was waiting for me when I got home. IF sucks and makes you crazy apparently
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PennyCat
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Re: That was a sign that I'm dumb
I'm not one to read into the subconscious or anything.. but if you are looking for signs for why you SHOULDN'T be doing IVF, maybe THAT is a sign that you should be exploring your decision a little more before you jump into things without being thoroughly confident with your path! 
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gina409
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Re: That was a sign that I'm dumb
Posted by PennyCat
I'm not one to read into the subconscious or anything.. but if you are looking for signs for why you SHOULDN'T be doing IVF, maybe THAT is a sign that you should be exploring your decision a little more before you jump into things without being thoroughly confident with your path!
i have to agree
when we moved to ivf i was ready..so ready..was nervous but ready..i knew this is what we had to do
if i would have thrown out the meds i would not have thought it was a sign i would hve chased down the garbage truck
i think u have to be 100 percent sure this is what u want
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| Posted 5/11/12 12:04 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: That was a sign that I'm dumb
Posted by gina409
Posted by PennyCat
I'm not one to read into the subconscious or anything.. but if you are looking for signs for why you SHOULDN'T be doing IVF, maybe THAT is a sign that you should be exploring your decision a little more before you jump into things without being thoroughly confident with your path!
i have to agree
when we moved to ivf i was ready..so ready..was nervous but ready..i knew this is what we had to do
if i would have thrown out the meds i would not have thought it was a sign i would hve chased down the garbage truck
i think u have to be 100 percent sure this is what u want
ITA. I posted this on another thread as well, but it's worth reiterating...it might be worthwhile to speak with a therapist before beginning IVF. It's a really stressful few weeks and if you're not ready to do it, I recommend taking the extra time to sort out your feelings.
Plus, while doing IVF you really want to be as calm as possible to give it the highest chance of working...especially because you can't use your normal means of letting of steam like running or drinking heavily. 
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FlowerWife
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Re: That was a sign that I'm dumb
Posted by NYCGirl80
Posted by gina409
Posted by PennyCat
I'm not one to read into the subconscious or anything.. but if you are looking for signs for why you SHOULDN'T be doing IVF, maybe THAT is a sign that you should be exploring your decision a little more before you jump into things without being thoroughly confident with your path!
i have to agree
when we moved to ivf i was ready..so ready..was nervous but ready..i knew this is what we had to do
if i would have thrown out the meds i would not have thought it was a sign i would hve chased down the garbage truck
i think u have to be 100 percent sure this is what u want
ITA. I posted this on another thread as well, but it's worth reiterating...it might be worthwhile to speak with a therapist before beginning IVF. It's a really stressful few weeks and if you're not ready to do it, I recommend taking the extra time to sort out your feelings.
Plus, while doing IVF you really want to be as calm as possible to give it the highest chance of working...especially because you can't use your normal means of letting of steam like running or drinking heavily.
ITA with the girls.
if you are looking for "signs" you clearly aren't comfortable with your decision. it's extremely important to find acceptance and be comfortable with your decision. it was very hard for me to move to IVF considering i never did one IUI (did many medicated TI cycles). i used the three weeks on BCP to get mind straight and once i started stims i was in a much more accepting mindset. it's easy to get overwhelmed during IVF, especially with the amount of hormones you're dealing with, so i think you should take some time for yourself and figure out if you are ready. it's perfectly fine if you aren't!! for me when dr. B said it was time for IVF he did say that it was completely up to me and he would continue doing medicated cycles and tweaking my protocol if that's what i wanted, but he felt it was safer to move on to IVF since my stims were erratic as far as OHSS and hyperstimulating goes. i did end up doing IVF the next cycle and now I have a 1-year old (  ) DD and it was the best decision i ever made.
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stargazerlily
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Re: That was a sign that I'm dumb
Thanks for your input everyone.....I really appreciate it! This isn't really an emotional problem. I actually chose IVF because I felt I was emotionally spent from the BFNs and was not really willing to continue with something where the odds were going to go down, I need them to go up. I gave it a lot of though, checked my facts, spoke to the Dr, and I made my choice. I know it still might not work, but I'll handle it better if I know I tried. I know myself well enough to feel 100% confident in at least that.
My problem is spiritual, I have not come right out and said that because I don't want to open up a religious can of worms here. Besides, no one can really help me with that. I know it's important too....but I don't think the decision will get easier for me if I wait, which is why I am just trying to work through it. Thanks for helping me do that though!
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Journey33
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Re: That was a sign that I'm dumb - Thanks everyone
Posted by stargazerlily
Thanks for your input everyone.....I really appreciate it! This isn't really an emotional problem. I actually chose IVF because I felt I was emotionally spent from the BFNs and was not really willing to continue with something where the odds were going to go down, I need them to go up. I gave it a lot of though, checked my facts, spoke to the Dr, and I made my choice. I know it still might not work, but I'll handle it better if I know I tried. I know myself well enough to feel 100% confident in at least that.
My problem is spiritual, I have not come right out and said that because I don't want to open up a religious can of worms here. Besides, no one can really help me with that. I know it's important too....but I don't think the decision will get easier for me if I wait, which is why I am just trying to work through it. Thanks for helping me do that though!
If it helps any, I also struggled in a major way with the religious/spiritual aspect of it. Even a fter I jumped into it, I still had minor hestation. This isn't because you're not sure you want to do it.. I think its a major part of you as an individual coupled with the fear that it might not work, and if it doesnt, then maybe your inner voice was right? That's a scary thought.
Even after a BFP and finding out it twins, I felt guilty that I took it out of nature's hands... at 16 weeks pg, I m thoroughly excited about it but it took a long time to get here. IF messes with your head and made me doubt a lot of things and feel uncertain all the time. I know how you feel. If you ever want to talk, feel free to FM me.
I do agree with the other girls that meeting with a therapist might help sort out these feelings. Even if noone else can "fix it" for you, it might help you on your journey. GL!!!
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stargazerlily
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Re: That was a sign that I'm dumb - Thanks everyone
If it helps any, I also struggled in a major way with the religious/spiritual aspect of it. Even a fter I jumped into it, I still had minor hestation. This isn't because you're not sure you want to do it.. I think its a major part of you as an individual coupled with the fear that it might not work, and if it doesnt, then maybe your inner voice was right? That's a scary thought.
Even after a BFP and finding out it twins, I felt guilty that I took it out of nature's hands... at 16 weeks pg, I m thoroughly excited about it but it took a long time to get here. IF messes with your head and made me doubt a lot of things and feel uncertain all the time. I know how you feel. If you ever want to talk, feel free to FM me.
I do agree with the other girls that meeting with a therapist might help sort out these feelings. Even if noone else can "fix it" for you, it might help you on your journey. GL!!! [/QUOT
Yes! Thank you so much....you described me perfectly and that was so helpful to know that someone understood!!
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