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WannaBeAMom11
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Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
I tried but I have a big mouth. So when someone asks when are you going to have a baby I tell them we are working on it and if they ask more I give them full detail. It actually makes me feel better, didn't think it would.
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Posted 5/6/12 10:14 PM  |
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gina409
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
i am not shy about anything..i hate that it is a taboo subject..i think more people should talk about it so we can all help each other
i wish i had someone to talk 2 in the beginning who really knew what i was feeling
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| Posted 5/6/12 10:27 PM |
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stargazerlily
LIF Adolescent
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
Yes, I keep saying I am not going to tell anyone, or if I have already told them that I won't give any more details. But it just comes out.....every time. It's so weird.
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| Posted 5/6/12 10:37 PM |
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keepingsecrets
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
Posted by gina409
i am not shy about anything..i hate that it is a taboo subject..i think more people should talk about it so we can all help each other
i wish i had someone to talk 2 in the beginning who really knew what i was feeling
this exactly. i'll tell our story to whoever will listen. i don't understand why it's something so hidden in our culture. infertility is so common and yet women aren't talking about it. it doesn't make sense to me. and even when i see that people are uncomfortable, i tell them, it's ok, i don't mind talking about it, and then they usually ask tons of questions.
i seriously think i would've lost my mind by now if i hadn't been talking about my struggles.
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| Posted 5/6/12 11:12 PM |
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PennyCat
Just call me mommy :)
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
I am very open about everything we are going through. I wasn't as open at first.... but when we lost my first baby in the 17th week, I decided I didn't care who knew what at that point.
Besides, if I didn't tell people that we are going through surrogacy, they would be REALLY confused at my baby shower!! 
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| Posted 5/6/12 11:18 PM |
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AngnShaun
Sisters
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
Its not secret no. But I dont really 'like' talking about it because having to explain every little thing is so annoying.
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| Posted 5/7/12 9:16 AM |
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moonmist09
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
my family knows, but no one at work knows. I'd rather them not know all about my business at this point
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| Posted 5/7/12 9:18 AM |
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caps612
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
I am an open book.... our families and close friends all know what is going on and they have all been super supportive so far, so I am glad they know.
When people have asked in the last year when we were gonna have a kid I would always answer "we're working on it"
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| Posted 5/7/12 9:30 AM |
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GoodThoughts
Dreams do come true
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
We're not really telling people. My immediate family is aware, as is my supervisor (we're very close). Two of my colleagues know, but that's because they're going through IF treatment as well; We've formed our own mini support group.
I don't feel embarrassed about seeking treatment. I just don't think TTC is really anyone's business. Heck, people know more because of the IF. If we could conceive naturally, we wouldn't have been telling anyone anything at all.
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| Posted 5/7/12 9:31 AM |
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JulieLO
LIF Adolescent
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
Posted by gina409
i am not shy about anything..i hate that it is a taboo subject..i think more people should talk about it so we can all help each other
i wish i had someone to talk 2 in the beginning who really knew what i was feeling
I feel the same way...Infertility and MC are SO TABOO ... If I wasn't so open about both I wouldnt have the support system I do...and I think that when people know what your going through and how difficult it is they can be even more supportive. Of course, you get the few that shy away bc they are uncomfortable.
I also find that people are so interested in becoming educated on this process...becuase it truly is an amazing.
As much as it sucks the end result is so worth every injection, $1, 6am appointment and 4763 times getting probed with a TVS... thats why we are all doing it!!
I respect those who chose not to discuss it with others, I just don't feel that I, myself, could be that way.
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| Posted 5/7/12 9:39 AM |
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FlowerWife
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
we kept everything a secret until my second chemical. we still believed that one day we would have that "we're pregnant" moment and surprise everyone. after the second chemical we decided to tell our family and closer friends. after that we were pretty open about everything. when we did IVF pretty much everyone close to us knew. i def felt better being able to talk about it.
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| Posted 5/7/12 10:11 AM |
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CindySN23
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
I havent really told anyone...a co-worker knows...SIL knows a little...I dont like too many ppl knowing my personal business...I wouldnt tell ppl that we were TTC so I wouldnt share that I am having IF treatment...I guess I come on here for the support I need...I am not ashamed of what I am going thru but I would just prefer to be private
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| Posted 5/7/12 11:58 AM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
Not too many people know, they may suspect, but I have not confirmed. More because I don't want to answer the 'how's it going?' questions for each month that passes and I am not pregnant. I had to finally tell me boss because of all the Dr. appt's, she thought I was sick or something. One co-worker has a vague idea, and I have one friend who is also TTC right now that I talk to. Thats it really.
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| Posted 5/7/12 12:18 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
Our immediate families know, as does one of my friends. Some of our other friends know something is going on, but not specifics. I haven't told work, though I do say I have medical things going on b/c I have to go to so many drs appts.
It's hard and unhealthy to keep it a total secret so it's good to have a friend or two to use as an outlet when things get rough.
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| Posted 5/7/12 1:36 PM |
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PitterPatter11
Baby Boy is Here!
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
At first, we were not telling anyone. Since we are dealing with MF, I respected my DH's desire to not discuss the fact that we were undergoing IVF. After the ER, my DH said he wanted to tell our families. So our immediate families know. I also have one friend who knows since she is also TTC and can relate. Other people know we will need to undergo IVF to conceive, but they do not know we have already gone through a cycle.
I am a blabber mouth so the fact that I have told virtually no one is a big deal. Since we are trying another round in June, I may need to be upfront with my boss since at this point, he must think I am dying...
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| Posted 5/7/12 2:26 PM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
Posted by gina409
i am not shy about anything..i hate that it is a taboo subject..i think more people should talk about it so we can all help each other
i wish i had someone to talk 2 in the beginning who really knew what i was feeling
I agree that it should not be taboo. Dh and I are more open about it now with family and friends when the subject comes up. We don't go into full detail, but let's face it..we are older and married almost 2 years so I think everyone knows we are trying anyway. My family and a few close friends know everything more in detail. I don't feel ashamed about it and don't mind sharing our expereinces. I just don't like when people give their opinions by playing doctor saying what we should and shouldn't be doing. That annoys me.
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| Posted 5/7/12 8:23 PM |
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wantabuninoven
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Re: Anyone not keeping all of this secret?
You need a support system. Everyone is different but, sometimes it helps to talk about it. There is no reason to be ashamed. It is a medical condition.
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