Anyone getting GRIEF for wanting to BF?

yes...despite this being #3, and the fact that I BF #2 for 2 months.....

MY GRANDMOTHER is wrinkling her nose and saying "how can you tie yourself down with BF?"

It's really upsetting to me.....

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Wow, that is so archaic in thinking, no offense to your grandmother. Most people, if anything, frown upon not BFing. I guess that is part of the thinking from that generation of moms.... my grandmother is gone, but I suspect she would feel similarly.

Sorry!

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It's funny you bring this up b/c my mom actaully said she was surprised that I was going to try BF and actually said it's going to hurt. I was like okaaaay. Usually my mom is pretty open minded and keeps opinions to herself so I was so surprised she said this.

ETA: My mom did not BF either of her babies and I think it was the "norm" for her era.

Message edited 8/18/2008 3:59:15 PM.

Re: Anyone getting GRIEF for wanting to BF?

Your kid
Your boobs
YOUR decision.
Who cares what others think, when they poop the kid out they can do what they want. JMO.

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Nobody has said anything to me. My Mom BF 7 kids in the 60s and 70s when BF wasn't as common, she totally understands why I want to BF.

I agree with the PP; your baby, your boobs - who cares what other people think.

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Sort of. I think some people just have their own issues and they try to somehow make me feel bad about wanting to do it. A friend of ours DH said to my DH, "Why is she bothering? Doesn't she have any idea how hard it's going to be?". Ridiculous comment coming from someone whose wife has NEVER even tried with either of her kids.......ummmmmm, hello clueless.

Then my BIL is like, "Well that will be hard, you're always going to have to leave the room to feed the baby.". Ummmmm........no I won't. Don't get me wrong, I'm modest and not one to just whip out a boob for all to see but I'm not going to constantly be MIA because my baby needs to eat. I plan on using the nursing wraps I bought or a blanket so I can cover myself when feeding the baby but I'll be darned if anyone thinks I'm leaving the room because they are uncomfortable with me feeding my child.

I don't get it really, you would think most people would think BF'ing is the nurturing and natural thing to do but for the most part people get all weird and judgmental about it. My feeling is.......screw 'em!! I'm doing what's best for me and my baby and if you're uncomfortable with it then that's for YOU to deal with, NOT me.

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that's terrible that she is saying that, IMO it's the best thing you can do for your baby and you should tell her so

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I'm not letting it affect my decision to try (DD never latched) because I am going to try.

It's funny b/c SHE was a nurse and my aunt BF all 5 of her girls in the 70's.

She said back in HER day, they discouraged BF and even bound the women around the boobs to dry them up and prevent engorging.

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I get the opposite. Why aren't you going to BF? You are not even going to try again?

Mind your business people!!!!!!!! I am already raising a healthy 2 yr old!! I don't need your input on what I should feed my child.

Move on!!!

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My mom seemed shocked as well that i wanted to BF. and both her and MIL both said it didnt work for them it prolly wont work for me. Im a different person!!

Re: Anyone getting GRIEF for wanting to BF?

My mom seemed shocked as well that i wanted to BF. and both her and MIL both said it didnt work for them it prolly wont work for me. Im a different person!!

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With my DS, my mom could not believe that I pumped in front of DH... she said "isn't he repulsed by that?"

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Posted by computergirl

With my DS, my mom could not believe that I pumped in front of DH... she said "isn't he repulsed by that?"

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Comments like that make me at peoples ignorance. Pay no attention.

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Don't worry about what ANYONE says!!!!!!!!!!! You do what you think is best for you and your baby!!!!!!
XOXOXO
BOTB

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DO NOT listen to anything that ANYONE has to say about your decision to BF!
it is such a wonderful thing to do for your child. i cannot believe anyone would say that!

good luck!

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I did when I didn't want to and I did now that I do. You can't win.

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Posted by 5ofClubs

I get the opposite. Why aren't you going to BF? You are not even going to try again?

Mind your business people!!!!!!!! I am already raising a healthy 2 yr old!! I don't need your input on what I should feed my child.

Move on!!!

Message edited 8/19/2008 6:45:10 AM.