My Mother is Unreal

I don't know if this belongs here or not but I need to VENT!!

My mom and I do not really get along. I tolerate her.
So I invite her up today to visit. She asks what time to come and I said well soon would be good since Miranda just woke up this wake she'll be in a good mood when you get here. She says she's leaving in 15 min which would have had her here about 10am. Well she shows up at 11am and Miranda has been cranky since 10:15 but I was trying to hold out.
She walks in and I said OK I have to put her down for a nap. She gets all ****** off and says you can't wait until I see her. I said NO you were supposed to be here an hour ago. So she starts going on and on about how I hurt her, yada yada and storms off.
I go out to the driveway and say you could have at least called and said you were late. You are always late and never call and that's so inconsiderate. So she then says Oh yeah and you're never inconsiderate or hurt anyone. Ummmm hello this isn't about me right now its about you. Then she gets mad because I tell her to stop yelling in my driveway and causing a scene.
I really can't stand her 99.9% of the time!!!!!

Am I totally wrong? If I would have kept the baby up she would have been a nightmare and never have gone down for her nap.


ETA: She was coming up to get money that I give her every month because she doesn't get enough social security (well it could be enough if she knew how to manage money). I mean how ungrateful is she that we give her $$ every month for nothing. She doens't babysit or anything because I don't trust her with my child.

Message edited 1/12/2006 1:17:46 PM.

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Im all about respect and consideration for you, your home, and your child.....

I think people forget how important a babys schedule is, and when the are invited somewhere or to do something at a certain time it because thats when it works into your childs sched.

My Il's (extended family) always forget this when the come to visit.... they want us there to all hours of the night, and dont understand my child sticks to a sched.

I dont think your wrong at all!!!

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so sorry that you have to deal with this.

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I agree with you I don't think your wrong at all.

Your mother could o f stayed while you put the baby in for a nap and spent some time with you and waited till the baby got up again. Thats a logical thing to do.

People do tend to forget what its like to have an infant. Like my IL's and some extended family

Sorry you have to deal with this

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I don't think you are overreacting at all. People just don't get it that a baby, especially a newborn is on a schedule! My mom can be so dramatic sometimes, she gets offened over the smallest things even things that are not meant to offend her...

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I think your mom should have kissed the baby, enjoyed her for 5 minutes and then visited with you during her nap. I am sorry she didn't want that.

Perhaps this money is getting in the way too?

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Message edited 12/16/2011 5:56:26 PM.