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shazza211
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Sharon
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Vent:Reasons my MIL
drives me crazy! 2 weekends ago we waited around the whole day because she said she was stopping by in the early afternoon, then shows up a dinner time with another family member, we feed them, and they stay until 11:30 at night. She kept telling me how tired I looked, and I told her I usually go to bed at 10:00 or earlier, and she kept insisting she was leaving but never did. I finally went to bed because I couldn't stay awake any longer. Then on Mother's Day she tells me how my *** is getting big...and no she wasn't kidding...my Mother was standing there with her mouth hanging open because she couldn't believe what she said to me. And finally, she has taken to calling our  "my baby"! Really, is she carrying the baby and what exactly makes it hers? Maybe I'm being to sensitive but I'm ready to ship her off far far away.
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wannabemom
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
yeah, I appreciate a certain distance between us and all relatives...
your MIL obviously skipped class on the day they taught social graces..... 
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| Posted 5/14/08 7:01 PM |
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
I'd be annoyed too! Does your DH stick up for you? You should tell him to take charge and make her leave when it gets too late and to defend you if she makes comments. 
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| Posted 5/14/08 7:05 PM |
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shazza211
My life is complete
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Sharon
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
DH does stick up for me with her rude comments...they occur just about everytime I see her, even before I was PG, however he was in the shower when she made this comment. As for putting his foot down in other areas, no. He's an only child and often feels guilty if she starts giving him a hard time about us spending time together. He also grew up with an open door policy that family can drop in whenever and your supposed to accomodate them. In fact, he's having dinner with her as I type this and I'm just glad he didn't insist I go with him.
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| Posted 5/14/08 7:13 PM |
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pixie
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Eww. I dont like her. 
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| Posted 5/14/08 7:51 PM |
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pumpkinpye517
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Tiffany
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
how about you take my MIL and ship her with yours and they could live happily ever after really far away on a desolate island..
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| Posted 5/14/08 9:41 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
The LAST thing you need right now is to feel that way from your MIL. Dh needs to know what she is saying and must put a stop to it now.
If he doesn't shut her up...then feel free to do it yourself.
Furthermore...I would refuse to go over to see her if she's going to throw nasty comments at you.
You don't deserve to be disrespected like that.
Message edited 5/15/2008 12:02:52 AM.
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| Posted 5/15/08 12:00 AM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Posted by shazza211
DH does stick up for me with her rude comments...they occur just about everytime I see her, even before I was PG, however he was in the shower when she made this comment. As for putting his foot down in other areas, no. He's an only child and often feels guilty if she starts giving him a hard time about us spending time together. He also grew up with an open door policy that family can drop in whenever and your supposed to accomodate them. In fact, he's having dinner with her as I type this and I'm just glad he didn't insist I go with him.
I also hope that you nip the open door policy in the bud immediately. I would NOT want my MIL stopping by whenever she wants.
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| Posted 5/15/08 12:01 AM |
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sunflowerjesss
Mommy to 3!
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Jesss, duh.
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
I can empathize. My mil NEVER thinks before she speaks. And although DH is amazing at defending me, her head is as hard as a door knocker and nothing regarding etiquette or respect ever seeps in.
At 33 weeks I told DH I'd be content if I didn't see her again until after the birth of the baby, because if I see her before then I smack her into next Tuesday!
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| Posted 5/15/08 6:56 AM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
OMG. I couldn't help but laugh at your post but really..she is out of line. On so many levels. "My baby" takes the cake on stupid MIL comments.
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| Posted 5/15/08 7:02 AM |
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twinkletoes807
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
That totally sucks!! I am very lucky that I adore my MIL...actually I prefer her over my own Mom! But I agree with Stefanie- if DH does not say something about the nasty comments then you should. And b/c MIL had an open door policy at her house, that does not mean that you have to as well. Talk with DH about people [esp. family] respecting your home and your privacy. If anyone drops by my house unannounced, they will be left knocking at the door. Stand up for yourself sweetie!!
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| Posted 5/15/08 7:17 AM |
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aliwnec10
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Ali
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Posted by pixie
Eww. I dont like her.
what a jerk! But honestly, i would have said something back if i were you. 
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| Posted 5/15/08 8:32 AM |
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steph7308
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
it sounds like her and my mom could be great friends lol
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| Posted 5/15/08 1:26 PM |
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Katie111806
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
do we have the same MIL?
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| Posted 5/15/08 1:37 PM |
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Hershey
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
I'd be annoyed too. I would hope DH would speak up. I find my husband never speaks up to his mom about things that bother us or me. So finally when it gets me to point where I cant take it anymore I will tell her.
MIL-ugh!
I hope I'm never that way with my kids.
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| Posted 5/15/08 4:21 PM |
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hmm8191
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Posted by pumpkinpye517
how about you take my MIL and ship her with yours and they could live happily ever after really far away on a desolate island..
ooohhh take mine too! PLEASE
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| Posted 5/15/08 4:33 PM |
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shazza211
My life is complete
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Sharon
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Thanks for letting me vent ladies! Don't get me wrong, I do speak up for myself, I'm no shrinking violet but she's so thick her inappropriateness doesn't sink in no matter how many times it's brought to her attention. As, for the open door policy, I'm still working on that! Perhaps what I really need is a trap door policy...that when I push a button...poof she disappears.
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| Posted 5/15/08 6:53 PM |
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pixie
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Posted by aliwnec10
Posted by pixie
Eww. I dont like her.
what a jerk! But honestly, i would have said something back if i were you.
I hope your not implying that Im a jerk. I was only trying to state that it was not nice to say in less words...
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| Posted 5/15/08 7:34 PM |
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GaknTak
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Ew I dont like her either. Nip it in the but now while you can before it gets even worse one day
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| Posted 5/15/08 8:43 PM |
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pixie
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Posted by GaknTak
Ew I dont like her either. Nip it in the but now while you can before it gets even worse one day
Im glad someone feels the same!
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| Posted 5/15/08 10:39 PM |
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msbree825
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Re: Vent:Reasons my MIL
Posted by sunflowerjesss
I can empathize. My mil NEVER thinks before she speaks. And although DH is amazing at defending me, her head is as hard as a door knocker and nothing regarding etiquette or respect ever seeps in.
At 33 weeks I told DH I'd be content if I didn't see her again until after the birth of the baby, because if I see her before then I smack her into next Tuesday!
i can totally relate!!! my MIL is the same way. she always says & does things without any thought whatsoever about how it would make u feel. sometimes she just gets under my skin. somedays more than others- i have been feeling pretty edgy today, and have been thinking about my shower next week and some of the prblems that MIL caused with my sis since she couldnt have her way. i just told DH a lil while ago today on the phone that i have had it with her already, and she is going to drive me to tell her one of these days exactly what i think! he was like, what is wrong with u today? i am just in no mood for her bs!!!
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