I think I pizzed off my cousin

She's pregnant after IVF..BTDT type and telling me everything she knows which is great.

I told her that I wasn't 100% happy with the RE visit and some other things and she is telling me that I'm over-reacting basically.

she says I'm always thinking too far ahead..etc..

I have had other medical issues and have done my research..why wouldn't I do my research with this? She is trying to tell me that there will be no warm fuzzies with the RE but I'm more concerned with the care from my doctor and nurses.

I shouldn't have to remind the doc yesterday to do a pap and my DH shouldn't have been told he would go and give is SA when that wasn't happening.

The doctor seemed totally distracted. I felt that I got a 5 minute consult and a 7 minute exam and very little explained to us. I'm not nuts here..this is big and I want info and things explained to me. I realize that there's nothing yet to talk about but there were a lot of things that troubled me about my visit yesterday.

DH being stressed a bit about giving the sample while he waited for me for 30 minutes, no one came to get him..etc..it didn't happen.

She seems to think I'm not right about this and this is how the REs are. I mentioned that I may switch REs and she was all over me about how it's not the same as a regular doc office and when you get to the IVF part, you just have to follow the doctor's protocol and do what the nurse says when she calls at night..etc..

I'm not even there yet and I get a not so great feeling about this doctor even though DH thinks he's fine.

Am I nuts?

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No, you are not nuts. That RE isn't for you. There is nothing wrong with that. You are allowed to have different opinions and everyone can have different experiences. You need to be 110% comfortable with your RE, the nurses and the clinic. You are allowed to question them and your questions should be answered.

Not all RE's are alike!!! If you feel you need a different one, go out and find him or her.

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Hmmm...I'm thinking about what she says. Some of it is true. RE offices are crazy packed with people. Sometimes you do have to speak up or you'll get lost in the crowd. However, on your first consult you shouldn't feel rushed. But, you do do what they say when its time for your protocol. But, again that has nothing to do with your initial consult. I'm sorry I do not remember where you went again. The whole thing is very stressful and very personal. So, it's much easier to get more upset at these RE's than normal. But, you need to be where you are comfortable, but you also need someone that has the skills to get you what you want (a BFP). Its a hard call. If this RE was recommended to you and the office has great stats I would give it a try. For one thing I never see my RE when I go, it's whomever is on call that morning. I don't think i'm helping here. Sorry. I've had them forget to do the paps. I guess after all the time spent, I know they'll get it next time. I've also switched RE last November. So I do have two to compare to. Actually my first one, everyone knew me there (not sure if that was a good thing or not) and the new one is much bigger practice and they don't know me. but they have higher success rate. I don't want them to know me, I just want them to get me pg.

Good luck. FM me if you want.

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I realize she knows a heck of a lot more about this than I do but I know when a doctor is not right. This wasn't right. She doesn't think I need to see a few doctors about it..it's not like a disease that you need a doctor to treat you and you have to be 100% comfy with them she says..it's a quick hit to get you pregnant and that's that.

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I don't think you are nuts...you need to feel comfortable with a doctor. Some times people click with doctors, other times they don't.
If you are not comfortable or happy, I would definitely seek out a second opinion.

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well I guess there's nothing to talk about until I get the diagnostic work up with blood and the hysterogram..I had to find out by calling them that I need to schedule it once I have my period next time.


I'll see what happens after that.

I don't want to waste time with BS but I don't want it shoved down my throat without information.

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Sorry for the way things went. Maybe schedule a consult elsewhere and see how you feel there. In the meantime, get your testing done. Good luck to you!

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I don't know who you consulted with, but I will say that I went through one RE that I kept seeing (for lack of any further information) for a year and wasted my time. I then consulted with three different RE's amongst which is the one I am seeing now...In the midst of the year I was seeing my current RE, I consulted with two different RE's to make sure my RE was doing the right thing at that point. Since both confirmed my RE's protocol, I stuck with him because I truly like the way he is....and am still with him.

You need to trust your RE 100%, you will be spending a LOT of time with this Dr. if you plan on proceeding with this...you need to know that you can ask anything at any time and get honest, thorough answers to your questions.

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Bottom line is you have to feel comforatble with the RE you choose. Yes, sometimes the office feel like an assembly line because there are so many patients, but it is important that you know you are getting the best care you can get and that you trust your doctor. It sounds like the one you saw is not the right one for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, and you are not crazy.

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now Dh thinks I'm nuts and that I don't like what I heard so I want a new doctor. Yeah, I didn't hear anything...that's why i want a new doctor.

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I'm thinking you should meet with another RE, so you have a comparison. I would try another practice. Not sure how insurance handles that. They should let you get two opinions, right?

Basically, no matter what... you do not like this place. This whole process is stressful enough if you start off not trusting this place, you just don't need this. Plenty of other places.

Like i said I switched RE's last November. Just didn't get the vibe that they were on top of things. Then I came here (that is how I found this website) because I was so confused. And found others with the same thought. So, I moved on. I feel I wasted 5 months going to the old one. I don't want you to feel that. Every month you don't get pg is felt wasted.

Try another. Don't get discouraged.

Oh and your DH will think you are nuts the entire time you are seeing an RE...LOL... at least mine does. They don't understand us sometimes. And certainly not when we are confused. Good luck!!!!!!!

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he just thinks I'm nuts to begin with so no surprise. I can call my insurance co to find out. I have a 12K lifetime max for infertility, I wonder if that counts against it.