For those of you that have undergone IVF....

Just wondering- For those of you who have been unsuccessful so far w/ IVF- ...Does your RE give you the reason why it possibly didnt work (I hope this doesnt sound like a totally stupid question)...I'm so bad-I havent even started my 1st cycle yet and I'm already paranoid its not going to work- Im trying very hard to keep a positive attitude but it hard as you ladies all know

Re: For those of you that have undergone IVF....

In order to help you keep positive I am not going to answer this.



focus on all the ladies who made it off the board

Re: For those of you that have undergone IVF....

Yes he did - and he told me to go straight to donor egg. But we gave it another shot - and now DD is 7 months old.

It also has a lot to do with the cause of IF.

Re: For those of you that have undergone IVF....

I can tell you that after doing IVF and FET's for a year - every month....I was finally successful.
My doctor said it would be tough for me because of my age (41 when I started) but that it would work eventually. This kept me going through the year and lo and behold I am 13 weeks PG....

Re: For those of you that have undergone IVF....

There are lots of graduates here who beat the odds. Like Pauline said, try to focus on those!

I've had 2 failed IVFs, but I have a condition that causes me to make genetically abnormal eggs. I knew this from the start.

Best of luck to you

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Re: For those of you that have undergone IVF....

Thanks for all the input...You guys are very right- I really need to have the "it will work " attitude and stop worrying about what might make it not work until I have to...Im one of those people always preparing myself fot the worst which isnt always a good thing...I appreciate the honesty !!!!

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I too was convinced we would spend all the money we had in savings and be unsuccessful. I thought ti would never work after trying so hard and having a few different strikes against us.

I had hypothyroid, was overweight, had high FSH, a cervix that was scarred shut, history of M/c..and DH has ok count, but very low morphology ( almost non existent) ...

Long story short...DH would not let me believe it wouldnt work. he put ALL his faith in it and I had to try to think the same....And guess what, it worked..firsttry.

You have to believe, that hope helps...put it out there. NEgative thinking IMO brings negative thoughts.

Self preservation ( ie...thinking I will prepare for the worse) is easier to do, of course, BUT....I think its critical to believe you can and will have success.

WIshing you lots of luck!

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BOPS- i am alot like you, i am always thinking worst case scenerio..and i have fallen in the unlucky category for a few things but it is very encouraging reading what everyone has to say and i agree with trying to be positive..
I think IVF is pretty cool bc where else can you get a 50/50 shot per try to get a baby!! Thats what i keep telling myself lol..
When i came out of surgery last week, i swear i must have asked the doc 3 times while still in the OR, can i have babies!!!! He said, you will always have fertility options..thank god for that..
I lost my tube last week and found out i have endo..but i still have one that is kinda ok..so i may be heading to IVF this summer if i cant get preggo in the next 6 months...
good luck