What would you do?

If you had no insurance coverage, would you pay $12,000 for one IVF cycle, or would you put that money towards adoption. The RE gave me a 40% chance at getting pg from IVF??

I am leaning towards adoption, because $12,000 is a lot of money, and I don't really feel that 40% is the best of odds. I am worried that if I pay the money and go ahead with the IVF and it is not successful, I will not be able to afford to adopt.

How do you feel??

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I think its a very personal decision

we have done 10 IVF's...7 of them out of pocket with much less of a chance than you

and 40% is VERY good odds

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it is a very personal decision. If you are 100% comfortable with adoption and know you have 1 chance to spend your money, adoption may be the right choice for you.

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I think 40% is good odds. We were given that same percentage and I was successful.

Its such a rough decision, I dont envy you.

We were faced with the face, we had to make a choice.

What I decided was that if it did fail , we would do whatever we had to do to get money for the adoption ( that was our plan as a next step)....You dont have to pay all at once like the IVF, its over a great deal of time and I would have gotten a second job, sold my car etc if I had to, if I really needed to.

You have to decide what you feel comfortable doing.

Good luck with the decision, Sorry you have to face ut,

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Our chances were MUCH lower - elevated FSH, Male factor, and my age (39 at the time).

We paid out of pocket for 2 IVFs. After the 1st, my RE suggested donor egg. But we wanted to try again. And I got pregnant.

BTW the clinic I went to was only about 8K for the IVF and they gave us a discount since we didn't have insurance coverage.

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Personally, I would try IVF.

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personally I would do the IVF but if you are comfortable with adoption did do it. But if I was in your shoes I would try till there is no trying anymore...before I would adopt and 40% is very high

Good luck

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Personally I would try IVF first but that is just me. I agree though that if IVF doesn't work I would find a way to get the money for adoption..even if it means 2nd or 3rd job refinancing my house etc. Good Luck to you!

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I just wanted to reiterate what the others said...40% is not bad odds at all and if you would really like to have your own child, give IVF a shot.
You can always look into adoption as the others said, and since it's a two years process you will have time to get the money together if necessary.

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I'm a gambling kinda girl....When I hear about all these percentages, I try to picture myself in Atlantic City....I walk up to the Roulette table and I hear..."Pick one....red or black....all or nothing....if you hit you get a baby..."

I'm putting my money on red

Dont mind me...I haven't had my coffee yet

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we were faced with this decision as well and like others have said, it's a very personal decision, and you have to weigh all factors. Here are some things to consider.

First of all, with adoption, you have to accept the fact the child will not be biologiucal. I know it's a no-brainer, but people have different feelings on raising a child that didn't "come from their loins". You both have to be on the same page regarding that.

Second with adoption, depending on the route you go, there could be a substantial wait. The plus is that no matter how long you wait, you have the piece of mind of knowing that eventually you WILL have a child - guaranteed.

Now for IVF

When it comes to adoption vs. IVF and money situations, I've always used the gambling analogy. Again, you have to make your decision, knowing that whatever you do - win, lose, or draw, you can be at peace with it.

40% odds are very good. IVF are the best odds you have out of all the procedures. But - there's no guarantee. Can you both come to terms with possibly going through all of the emotional, physical and financial stress that IVF involves, and coming up empty? If you take the shot, and you fail, will you still be able to have the money or raise the money to explore adoption?

I can't tell you what I would do here - everyone's situation is different - but I hope that some of my points above have given some food for thought.

best of luck in whatever you decide

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I just want to wish you the best in making what is a very personal decision.