babies

Did having a baby affect your relationship with your friends?

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Some of them weren't "Grown up" yet.. lol..

I had just turned 21 when I had my son, and I was the oldest out of most of my friends, and then the other group of friends I hung out with were all married and starting their families..

The single people, that were bouncing around from partner to partner, pretty much slid away.. a couple of close girlfriends stayed in touch, but not as close as we used to be. And my "other group" of friends I ended up becoming more close with.. we had more things in common.. we took the kids to playdates and to restaurants, and shopping-- and they didnt mind as much...

---Now that most of the girls I used to be close with are gettting engaged, a couple ofthem have gotten back into the picture again...

Its kinda liek freshman year in HS... The close ones stay, and you make new friends, from the other schools.. HTH

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It didn't affect my relationship with my friends as much as when they had kids.

I had a close friend who would only talk about her child. I realize that we all do that to some extent - whether it's asking for advice, etc but she was consumed. I make a conscious effort to not have my conversations peppered with child anecdotes.

On the other hand, we see everyone a lot less as they grow older since they're involved in other activities. You also expand your circle of friends to parents of your children's friends.

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Most of my friends had babies 10 years ago and it did affect my friendships with them because I hung out mostly with friends who didn't have children because we were into different things. I was in my 20's and I wanted to go out to bars and party. I didn't lose any friendships over it and now I have a baby and their kids are approaching teenage years. We are all as close as ever. I think it is hard when you have a baby and your friends don't. Now that I look back on it, I understand why my girlfriends with kids hardly ever came out to the bars, it is tough.

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Alot of my friends have gotten married and started families befre I have and it didn't affect anything Instead of going out all the time like we use to we would gather at someones house and talk and have a little cocktail party then once a month go out. I know that it was hard for the friends that had children to get out all the time so I kept in touch with them went to their houses and yes I even babysat for them so they can go out and party. We are all still close the single ones with no children still stay in touch but not as much as before