Re: How would you feel if your mom said this to you?

oh Noreen, I can imagine how devastating that must have been for you but I'm assuming right now she is going to the grief process and just missing her mom so much

Re: How would you feel if your mom said this to you?

Posted by longford73



Sorry.

I'm sure she's just depressed. Maybe she should talk to a Dr.

Re: How would you feel if your mom said this to you?

Posted by CoopersMom01

Remind her that she has grandbabies to live for... and her own babies.

Re: How would you feel if your mom said this to you?

I'm sorry

It sounds to me like you need to concentrate on your grief right now. Try to put your feelings first. Your mom is going to grieve her own way no matter how much you try to make her happy.

Is she seeing a therapist? Can you suggest that to her? It doesn't seem fair to you that you can't grieve properly because of her issues. Perhaps you can look into family counseling and you can all go together.

Re: How would you feel if your mom said this to you?

I remember when your stepfather died.. I think your mom is suffering from depression, and your grandmother's passing is only compounding that. I completely 100% understand why you are hurt by what she said, but try, for your own well being, to look at it in a different light.

My dad is very a serious and practical person, so he has always talked to me about the 'natural order' of things, meaning that parents should die before children. I think that's where your mom is coming from - that it is unnatural for a child to die before her parent, rather than a rejection of you.

I definitely think that she needs to speak with someone, because she does have so much to live for in your family, she just needs a little help realizing it. It's not an easy role to step into, being 'promoted' (for lack of a better word) to the role of elder in the family.