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alnem
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Emily
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wedding in poughkeepsie
my sister and her boyfriend are attending a wedding in poughkeepsie this weekend and have no idea how much to give.
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- her boyfriend is a groomsmen in the wedding
- they are driving up and paying for a hotel for the overnight stay
- the boyfriend has known the groom since they were kids, they are very close
- the bride is telling everyone it is costing them over $150k for the wedding and reception
so how much should they give? i know everyone says to give what you can afford, but the boyfriend does pretty well and feels he should give them like $1k! i thought that was wayyyyy too much! but he feels its appropriate since the bride is telling him how much everything costs!
opinions?
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Posted 10/15/07 4:24 PM  |
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| Posted 10/15/07 4:27 PM |
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KGools
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Kim
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Re: wedding in poughkeepsie
Regardless of what the bride and groom paid for their own wedding shouldn't have any bearing on the amount you give them... THEY were the ones who chose to spend that amount, not the guests.
We have a few close friends getting married next summer upstate and considering the cost to get up there and pay for a hotel, we probably will be giving around $200-$300, which could change considering we have our own wedding to worry about and pay for in Oct.
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| Posted 10/15/07 4:27 PM |
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curliegirl
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Gina
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Re: wedding in poughkeepsie
This could go either way Em, but he shouldn't give based on what they are spending.
I would think $500 is a nice gift for a childhood friend, more is just being very generous.
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| Posted 10/15/07 4:30 PM |
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JennasMom
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does it matter
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Re: wedding in poughkeepsie
Posted by curliegirl
This could go either way Em, but he shouldn't give based on what they are spending.
I would think $500 is a nice gift for a childhood friend, more is just being very generous.
ITA what they are paying for the wedding should have no bearing on the gift. I think it was a bit tacky of the bride to be to inform them, what the wedding was costing
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| Posted 10/15/07 4:36 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Susan
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Re: wedding in poughkeepsie
Not my problem if the B&G want to blow a wad on their wedding, I give what I can afford.
So is he anticipating that everyone of the 150 guests is giving $1K?
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| Posted 10/15/07 4:46 PM |
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