Spinoff to Forgiveness

Has anyone every REALLY wronged you and then your friendship changes as a result then after tried to pretend like nothing happened- without an apology.

This happened to me twice.

After my dad died, my best friend from college, who had already graduated, totally blew me off. For 6 months she didn't return my calls- even when I called her to tell her I Got into Law school, I picked a law school, etc...She had always planned to come to my graduation, but since we didn't speak for 6 months, she didn't. Then she e-mails me so sorry she couldn't come up - that her car broke down, but she would love to come visit me. I told her without discussing the fact she blew me off for 6 months despite my repeated calls during the worst time of my life, she was not welcome. I told her its forgiveable, but we needed to talk about it. Never heard frmo her and then 5 years later she sends my a x-mas card and says she wants to get back in touch. Needless to say, I didn't respond.

the other one was less dramatic. A girlfriend of mine who was 5 years older than me kept behaving inapporpriately with men- which wasn't a big deal, except she didn't live in NY and woudl bring back strange men to my house. Once I walked in on her in my living room having sex and told her the next day that if she couldn't enjoy my company wihtout men, I didn't want to be her friend anymore. Well... that ended it. Recently she got back in touch wtih me (mutual friends) and now tries to pretend like nothing happened. I am polite, but no chance of friendship again.

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yes and I made it known that the friendship would never be the same nor would I want it to be. I love it, thinks its hysterical when people "forget"...

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For the times I've felt really wronged, I've gotten an apology - and have pretty much let it go.

First was my twin sister - didn't speak to her for about 6 months.

Second was one of my closest friends/college roommate. Didn't speak to her for 3 months, got back in touch with her. When I was 7 months pregnant, she disinvited me to her bachelorette party BECAUSE I was pregnant! The following year, karma came around. Her MOH was getting married. She told my friend that she didn't think she should be in the wedding party since she's have a newborn but asked if she would like to walk her dog down the aisle at the wedding. She called me upset about it - and I said "I know EXACTLY how you feel"

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I have had friendships end over catty self centeredness. But no real hurt or betrayal

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Yes, hence the reason we are no longer friends