You don't tell me you love me anymore...

That's what DH said to me today...and sadly, its true. I did not realize I have even been doing this...but I have after thinking about it

He will say I love you, either I smile or say olive juice.. weird

He says he understands since I tell the baby 50 times a day, I am probably tired of saying it.

To top it off, he works nights..so he woke up and me and the baby were out for a walk, we get home, I jump in the shower, Josh refused to be held by him. Isn't 1 month a little young to have seperation anxiety? So I don't tell him I love him and Josh cries when he holds him..

I have been lucky enough to escape all pp blues, totally bonded with baby..but being married is the hardest part of all this. 12 years together, we were best friends...now we are just passing each other in daily routines.

I finally started giving it up this week, maybe its just me, but at this point sex seems like a joke. Nipple pads on in my bra, still pp bleeding..tired, quick showers so my legs are hairy..then to want to get romantic

I am planning a trip up to NY in March. DH doesn't have the vacation time..so me and baby are going solo. I told him I feel bad taking baby away from him for the week, that I would not be able to last without baby for the week..he said he is more concerned with the fact that I can last the week without him.

my sister goes to school 2 hours away from us..I think I am going to beg her to visit next weekend..then DH and I can go out.

So I guess my full plate is just going to get fuller. I have to throw myself back into girlfriend mode

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I'll babysit so you can have a date night with DH

You have a lot on your plate right now Janice...new baby...new adjustments.

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I know, I really need to use you and Lisa(lvlz) 2 nice married women who offered

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Seriously!!!! I would love too!!!!!

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You are very lucky that you and your DH can communicate so openly and honestly about it. You definately need a date night

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Posted by rose825

You are very lucky that you and your DH can communicate so openly and honestly about it. You definately need a date night

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Posted by monkeybride

Posted by rose825

You are very lucky that you and your DH can communicate so openly and honestly about it. You definately need a date night

I agree. Our biggest problem is poor communication.

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thanks

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So sorry, but I agree that its great your TRYING to understand and fix it and great he can talk about it. IT means that things will get better b/c you have such great communication between you both.

Hang in there.

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Talking is the first step...I think everyone here can agree that after bringing the baby home things are a little off with DH...it is hard to get adjusted.

Now that you are conscience of his feelings you can work on reconnecting and DEFINITELY go out...enjoy and try not to worry about the baby. Thats a mistake so many make, try to go out with DH to work on the relationship than all you talk about is the baby...talk about each other again

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I know how you feel. DH still says this to me
Of course I lOVE him, but now that Im working Im tired and it is so hard because Im taking care of 2 boys, but maybe somone can babysit for the night and you 2 go out to dinner and a movie.
We do this every once in awhile, we do a date night...it really helps

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awww Definitely try to get out alone w/DH it will make such a difference. It took me til about 3-4 months before I felt anything like I did before I got PG. DH said we were more like roommates. Since then we've both made an extra effort and things are so much better.