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Since this gets more views- here it goes:

went for that interview 2 weeks ago this Wed.

I thought the interview went really well- and def. thought I wouldve heard from them by the end of the week...

I sent my Thank you letter out the very next day, and since I still havent heard anything- today I did my follow up call...

The women immediately was like "Oh Hi Marissa- its me So-so" (she knew who I was right off that bat- no need to look up my application or resume!) She said that shes been meaning to get in touch with me, and that Im her strong lead and shes leaning towards hiring me- She said that shes just waiting to set up a 2nd interview with the area manager (whose office is in Jersey) she then went on to say how she really likes X,Y,and Z about me...

She said she should know when the AM will be in NY, and an apt./ date for me sometime this week... and that she'll give me a call...

Of course I say great- let me know and we hang up...

I call DH to tell him- and he basically shuts me down- saying that I put her on the spot, not to get my hopes up blah blah blah....Basically she was just BSing her way off the phone with me

I was so excited and now he has me 2nd guessing myself...

I mean- would've she really went into so much detail with me- and make up such an elaborate excuse if she wasnt interested in me?

I would think if she felt uncomfotable and was looking for a "nice" let down- she wouldve said- Im still hiring- I let you know... thats it?!

What do you guys think?


I swear- I know DH just dosent want me to get my hopes up- but I think there was a lot of ways to better word things!

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I don't think they would talk to you so much if they weren't interested. Probably everything she said is true.

ITs just different ways people approach situtations. Your DH probably just doens't want you to be disappointed in case things don't work out. Things happen and maybe he is just being protective.

As someone who recently switched jobs, I know the game. My headhunter told me I had the job, but until I got the formal offer (10 days later ) I didn't think the job was mine. In fact, at Jordana's b-day party, my mom's friend congratulated me on my new job. I told him it wasn't mine yet, and my mom said "what. I thought you had the job." I told her until I got the offer, it wasn't mine. Well I did the next day, so it was all good

Good luck! They are definitely interested in you.

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I agree with Shelly that your DH probably just doens't want you to be disappointed in case things don't work out.

I would get very dissappointed when things didnt work out. I even had one place that I thought was great and the job was mine and when I did a follow up call he told me that I was over qualified for the position that I interviewed for, but he knows of another position that is just perfect for me and he was working with the regional manager on setting up a time for me to talk to him and he would call me.

That call never came.

I had another place that I went to 4 times for interviews with various people in the deparment. I think the only person I didnt meet was the cleaning crew. I was so excited and then I got the rejection letter. I was so miserable.

The job sounds great, but your DH will know you best and it sounds like he is trying to protect you in case it doesnt work out.

I too know the game, worked in HR and have conducted a few interviews.

It's great you are excited and definately be positive as it sounds very promising, just dont let your guard down and your DH is just wanting to protect you

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Yeah, they wouldn't have talked to you so much if they weren't really interested. There are plenty of ways she could have let you down if she wanted to, but she didn't. I think it still sounds good and positive.

DH is just trying to protect you, my DH does that all the time when I'm searching too.