WWYD? Sort of parenting related..

So I posted a few months ago that we, the family were suppose to go to Europe for my cousins wedding. Well after figuring the cost for everything we are looking at about $7-$8K for 3 weeks and that doesn't include the gift! Now DH was just going to go for 7-10 days but it is still expensive but obvisouly less. Then I spoke to my mom and she doesn't think it is right that my faimly and my DH are their and I am here with the kids so she said that DH shouldn't go either and just send a gift. Now,DH doesn't want to go alone either but he is the best man. The wedding is in August so their is time for my cousin to ask someone else but I just feel bad. We are getting a refund on our taxes but I am putting that towards some debt which will hopefully be paid off by the end of this year and then we could go next year. I just feel like financially this is a better idea.
So what do you think?

Re: WWYD? Sort of parenting related..

As long as you are ok with it I'd say he should still go. I think it's a nice that your cousin thinks enough of your DH to have asked him to be best man. I wouldn't want to mess up that dynamic.

Re: WWYD? Sort of parenting related..

Ooh, that's a tough one. I think people need to keep travel costs in mind when they have destination weddings and how much they expect people to pay to attend.

If your DH was not the best man, I think the decision would be easy... send a gift. Since he is the best man, I am not sure what I would do? Is it much less expensive if he just goes for a few days? ... although would it be worth it to travel all the way to Europe for a few days?

Can you talk to your cousin and tell them that this trip for the wedding is a financial burden that you are not sure you can handle right now? Or is that tacky? Ask them what they think about the situation. It would be different if they were having a local wedding, but Europe... they have to understand that not everyone would have money to go.

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I think your DH should go. It's too expensive for everyone to go so it's nice that your DH can 'represent' your family. Plus being best man is an honor and he should go to be there for his cousin.

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This is your cousin? Not DH's?? If it's your cousin, I would say he shouldn't go without you. You could explain the situation to your cousin. If it's DH's cousin I would say he should go alone for a few days (not leaving you alone with the 2 kids for too long.) Can someone help you out if he goes?

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Re: WWYD? Sort of parenting related..

If this was me, I would send DH alone. Theres no way none of you can just go for the entire summer, and make a big vacation out of it? If not then I would just send DH alone.