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Charly
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WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
Some of you may know my DD (she's 2.75 years old) started stuttering over the summer. SOme therapists have thrown up some red flags and my ped (who is NOT an alarmist) referred her for an evaluation. Red flags were about avoiding words, showing frustration, withdrawing socially, etc.
A couple of weeks ago we did a private evaluation and the therapist definitely recommends therapy and said she's borderline - meaning it may be something more than developmental.
Right now we are in the midst of the CPSC evaluation. She had her psychological, education and social evaluation today. There is no concern for her learning (which I had none either), however there is some concern with the social/emotional area. Part of the evaluation is done at preschool. What I learned today was my DD is having anxiety attacks and being "mimicked" by the other children. I know the other children mean no harm, but it's really hurting my DD. The psychologist said she's is highly self critical and this is causing her stress.
OK so finally the question - we don't get the "results" from all the evaluations until 10/20. Would you start therapy out of pocket privately while waiting for the results or just wait and see? Most people say she won't qualify because it isn't "behind" enough. I feel so bad for her. I actually want to take her out of preschool until she's doing better, but I'm not sure.
Please give me your opinion - I'm so emotionally involved I feel like I can't step back and think about it clearly. KWIM?
My insurance covers NOTHING. I've tried every angle and unless its due to head trauma or a congential defect there is zero coverage.
I was laid off in May and we are just making ends meet. This will all have to go on the credit card. I will do anything to help her - so can I do it, yes. Will it hurt us financially, yes.
It is so hard to see her so stressed out. My DH and I keep beating ourselves up over this. Are we too hard on her? Are we bad role models? (we are both "perfectionists")
ugh I just want to fix it already!!!
ETA she's been in part time daycare since she was 4 1/2 months old. She's been with most of these children for over 2 years. It doesn't get anymore "comfortable" than that. She used to play with them all the time. NOw she avoids them.
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
Does your health insurance cover anything? Maybe even the therapist to help her anxiety?
Poor baby, poor you
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
If you can pay out of pocket, I would
I would also try and see what you can get covered by insurance
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
first of all  for you and your DD.
while the other children mean no harm, i think it would help her to have someone other than her mother remind her of that and help her work through it. i would find someone on my insurance plan to do the appropriate therapy, and that way, if come 10/20 she doesn't qualify, she'll still be getting the benefits of the therapy - which, in your heart, you already know she needs.
i personally don't think you are overreacting or anything. i think the fact that her stuttering hasn't corrected itself with time is a sign that she needs more help.
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
I would do the therapy privately and see if it improves her anxiety with school. If it is still a problem after a few weeks I would pull her out of class and try another class and if that doesn't work then I would hold off school until she can handle being in a social environment.
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Charly
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
My insurance covers NOTHING. I've tried every angle and unless its due to head trauma or a congential defect there is zero coverage.
I was laid off in May and we are just making ends meet. This will all have to go on the credit card. I will do anything to help her - so can I do it, yes. Will it hurt us financially, yes.
It is so hard to see her so stressed out. My DH and I keep beating ourselves up over this. Are we too hard on her? Are we bad role models? (we are both "perfectionists")
ugh I just want to fix it already!!!
ETA she's been in part time daycare since she was 4 1/2 months old. She's been with most of these children for over 2 years. It doesn't get anymore "comfortable" than that. She used to play with them all the time. NOw she avoids them.
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
Posted by JerseyMamaOf2
I would do the therapy privately and see if it improves her anxiety with school. If it is still a problem after a few weeks I would pull her out of class and try another class and if that doesn't work then I would hold off school until she can handle being in a social environment.
I agree. I just wanted to give you and your DD too. Good luck!
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Charly
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
THanks Barb I will look into it
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
If you know she is going to need therapy and you know you are going to have to pay for it regardless of the reason this started, I would probably start it up as soon as possible and pay out of pocket.
Does your preschool cost? If you take her out will it off set some of the cost of therapy? She is so young, I might take her out of school, put her in therapy and then maybe 6 months or a year from now try again.
Good luck!
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
I would probably give her the month off, take her out of school, and wait until 10/20 to see if she will qualify.
Here is my reasoning...
If she is a little stressed than I would think starting something new right away might actually make it worse.
I would want to see how she did with a little time out of school. If it's purely emotional, all she may need is a change in environment.
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
What kind of therapy do they suggest? Can you speak with her pre-school teacher to try to stop some of the mimicking behavior?
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Charly
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
Posted by Merf99
What kind of therapy do they suggest? Can you speak with her pre-school teacher to try to stop some of the mimicking behavior?
SO far met with a private therapist who wants to do speech therapy 2x a week. We also met with a psychologist through the district (CPSC) who feels she may need some counseling for emotional issues. She suggested using role modeling as one way to help her learn to not panic or get anxious in certain situations. She also wants me to get a neurological exam, but I want to wait for all the results before I put her through anything stressful.
The teachers are trying to teach the other children that its not nice to copy her speech without making her feel bad about it. It's just hard, they are only 3 - they don't mean any harm.
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
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What kind of therapy do they suggest? Can you speak with her pre-school teacher to try to stop some of the mimicking behavior?
SO far met with a private therapist who wants to do speech therapy 2x a week. We also met with a psychologist through the district (CPSC) who feels she may need some counseling for emotional issues. She suggested using role modeling as one way to help her learn to not panic or get anxious in certain situations. She also wants me to get a neurological exam, but I want to wait for all the results before I put her through anything stressful.
The teachers are trying to teach the other children that its not nice to copy her speech without making her feel bad about it. It's just hard, they are only 3 - they don't mean any harm.
I know what it's like to deal with insurance companies. Mine won't cover anything unless like you said above it's an injury. DH's will cover it thankfully but it is VERY stressful. Can your doctor write a letter saying it's medically necessary? And I would start with speech therapy. I think you would want to start before it gets much worse. As far as anxiety, my niece is 4 1/2 and going through this. She has EXTREME anxiety and esp about doctors. She is actually seeing a child psychologist - i think it's helping but she's much older. Do they think she will be able to get antying out of seeing someone at not even 3? Not saying she won;t - i'm just wondering myself.
I can tell how stressful this is - don't worry, it will be okay! DD had an EXTREME speech delay plus sensory issues and I know what it's like!
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Re: WWYD I'm so confused...(kinda long)
Jodi, I just wanted to give you some more
My cousin is a child psychologist, she doesn't "practice" but works in a school, maybe I can ask her what a good course of action is?
Maybe there is a different preschool she could go to that would be able to help her more?
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