WWYD? baby names?

Ok so dh is a Jr
I love dh but I really don't love his name
especially the middle name!
I keep telling him if he really want a 3rd I would do it but he has to REALLY want it because I don't I asked if we could just change the middle name so he wouldn't be a 3rd but he would still be named after him.

I don't think dh really wants it, I know dh's father doesn't but MIL is insisting on it.

Im now 31 weeks and we never discuss names...I keep bringing it up and there are like one or two names that we both like but Im not 100% on either

What do I do here? Am I going to have to name my child something I really dont want...IDK if Im asking for advice or just venting

There is a huge part of me that hates the idea of it because MIL is being such a pia about it...I asked everyone to come up with a few names over the holidays and she just announces that there is only one name and ever since then no one would speak up and say any other name

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Is it your child or your mil's???? I think its yours (lol) so why are you allowing your mil to dictate what your going to name your child? Personally i would never allow it and i would speak up. Shes crossing boundaries in my opinion and your dh is allowing it as well...

I say sit your husband down whenever ypur alobe and tell him you need to discuss this now. No more avoiding it... You need to know what HE wants... And then you can find a compromise...

Not talking about it keeps you angry and upset and your baby will pay the price with a name you hate... I would never name my child a name I hate because my mil told me to... I also wouldnt do it for my husband, we would have to find a happy compromise...

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i can totally relate. my MIL is being a big PITA about the name thing too. DH is named after his father, who was named after his grandfather, etc. I do not want to name our son if we have one, after DH and want him to have his own name. MIL voices her opinion about this most every time i see her, that i "have" to name our son if we have one, after DH. I told her i'm not naming him that and I am sticking by my guns. I know its annoying but name your LO what you want! It may help to have you and DH go through name lists so you can narrow it down to a few you both like.

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I totally agree! When I ask dh about it he's just keeps saying he's not sure. He knows how I feel about it but I just don't know if he's not pushing the name becouse he knows Im not crazy about it...he knows I don't want a 3rd but its seems like we just dont discuss names at all now...

the only other name is Jackson...we both like it but my nephew is Jack and I think its too close...IDK


MIL always over steps...
DH is pretty good about it, MIL hated dd name and let everyone know it before she was born...which is why I wont tell anyone any names that we are thinking about (I just dont want to hear it) but dh tell me he didn't let her opinion influence dd name and he wont here

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I would do what you and your DH really want and if means breaking tradition, so be it. My best friend went through the same thing, but in the end, she decided it was her baby and her little family unit came first. They kept the tradition alive by using the name MIL wanted as the middle name instead of the first. Feelings were hurt before the baby came, but once he arrived, everything was entirely fine.

My mom also hates my name. Hates hates hates. My sister had to finally step in and say something because she criticized it so frequently!

I'm 28 weeks and just yesterday my mom asked if I had changed my mind. Um, no and too bad!

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I would go with what you and DH like. In my opinion your MIL has no say in what you name your child. If she doesn't like what you choose, too freakin bad! Get over it!! She had her turn with her her own kids. Now this is your time.
Problem is, your DH is not making a decision. Wait till your DD goes to bed and turn off the TV, computer, etc... Sit down and talk to him and really ask him what he wants to do. Maybe even write out a list of boys names that your like and ask him to do the same. Get out a baby name book, or look up a list on the computer.
I had no desire to name either of my children after my DH. I'm just not into the whole Jr. I would of only did it if DH had his heart set on it. Other then that, no one else would of changed my mind.
My DS middle name is my DH first name. DH has a nice name and it went well with our name choice. That is always a good option for you as well.

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I named DS after my FIL because my DH asked. I dont really like his name but I just agreed. It was really hard for me to finally be okay with it. I know my ILs and their traditions but since DH was asking me I said fine and he also said I could name the rest of our kids whatever I want. It's been 2 years and I definitely still don't love it, but I can't see DS as anything else. I would only do what you and your DH want, not what your MIL is asking. It would be completely different if my DH didn't want his FIL's name or didnt care. I totally rambled because I can't even think anymore but I hope you understood lol

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Although I'm not in the same situation, DH is not very helpful with choosing names. He'll just say no and offer no suggestions.

What I'm doing is choosing a name and he needs to have some realistic alternatives if he says no, otherwise he gets the last name...lol. He keeps jokingly suggesting super Italian names, although I do like them, my DDs name isn't and they wouldn't go well together.

I wouldn't even bring it up around your MIL, she had her own children she was able to pick names for. If she brings it up I'd just say we're still undecided even if you've picked one.

Good luck!!

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DH is a III. For a while, even before TTC, he talked about wanting a IV. I told him the only way I'd agree to a IV was if we found a nickname I liked. DH's first name can't be shortened and his middle name is terrible. We ended up finding a good nickname, but eventually DH decided he didn't want a IV. I was so glad he changed his mind.

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Thanks
Well yesterday we did discuss names a bit more...didnt get very far but at least it was more of a conversation

He still doesn't know if he wants a III or not so we are trying to make a list but neither one of us have found the perfect fit

He made the comment that it was so easy with dd....I had to remind him that I had my childrens names picked since I was 7 (including a boys name...but it wont work anymore) and with dd I was set on it unless he could come up with something better...

I think I may just have to give him my top 5 and tell him to pick what he likes out of them unless he can come up with something better....only problem now is I have to come up with a top 5

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It's not your mil's child so she has no right to insist on anything! And if she doesn't like it that's her problem. The name you choose for your child should 100% be up to you and your DH. If you decide together to go with a different name she should respect that and love her grandson just the same.