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Bridex100
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Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
I am friends with a mom who has a son who is 1 month older than DS. When they were younger, they'd parallel play and everything was fine.
The last 2 times they were together, her son hit DS with a metal train and left a huge gash on DS's head. Then last week, he gave DS a bloody nose. We didn't see what happened but I'm assuming her DS hit DS again.
Would you keep playing with this other child or stop?
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
I would. What did the mother say when it would happen?
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:17 PM |
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TZ0624
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Does he do this in front of your friend? I would watch them next time they play together and see with your own eyes.
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:18 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
I would probably be more on top of their play and watching them better, especially if I was the mom of Boom Boom Mancini over there.
It would also depend on my friends reaction to my sons injuries. if she poo pooed it or didn't talk to her son in a way I thought was sufficient/approrpiate, I would say something and then rethink how often we got together.
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:18 PM |
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
For me the answer would depend- how old is the child? Are they old enough to understand that they are doing wrong?
And also, I would need to see how the mom reacted- if she took action (assuming the kid is old enough)- either time out, grounding or whatever, I would still allow my dc to place with the other kid.. and assuming my dc has fun with the other child
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:18 PM |
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bicosi
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
was the child spoken to with regards to what happened? I'd let them continue to play but I wouldn't keep my eyes off of my kid so I can be sure to see what is going on and if his mother doesn't say something to the kid, I would. I know kids will be kids but I'm sorry about your little guy!
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:19 PM |
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Posted by Ophelia
I would probably be more on top of their play and watching them better, especially if I was the mom of Boom Boom Mancini over there.
It would also depend on my friends reaction to my sons injuries. if she poo pooed it or didn't talk to her son in a way I thought was sufficient/approrpiate, I would say something and then rethink how often we got together.
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:21 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Maybe I'm overprotective, but I don't really let Sean run off and play out of my sight yet ........
So in your situation where no one was around to see what happend and/or reprimand the kid - I'd continue to play with them but I'd suggest staying in the same room to supervise.
If the MOTHER continued to let her child hurt mine and never said anything, I'd stop our playdates -
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:23 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Posted by TZ0624
Does he do this in front of your friend? I would watch them next time they play together and see with your own eyes.
We are always just a few feet away.
The first time seemed like a simple frustrated hit because they both wanted to play with the same train. We actually didn't witness the hit. They were holding trains and then DS started crying. About 2 minutes later, we saw the gash on DS's head.
The second time, we also didn't see exactly what happened. All we know is that DS started crying and had a bloody nose.
The mom of course apologizes. She takes her DS away and gives him a talk. I'm sure she isn't happy that her DC is hitting.
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:24 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Posted by MarisaK
Maybe I'm overprotective, but I don't really let Sean run off and play out of my sight yet ........
So in your situation where no one was around to see what happend and/or reprimand the kid - I'd continue to play with them but I'd suggest staying in the same room to supervise.
If the MOTHER continued to let her child hurt mine and never said anything, I'd stop our playdates -
We were always in the same room, just a few feet away. Our play dates are always at her apt or mine. They are never out of our sight but we aren't staring at them the entire time.
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:25 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
For me the answer would depend- how old is the child? Are they old enough to understand that they are doing wrong?
And also, I would need to see how the mom reacted- if she took action (assuming the kid is old enough)- either time out, grounding or whatever, I would still allow my dc to place with the other kid.. and assuming my dc has fun with the other child
They are 2yo. DS will turn 2 in 2 weeks and her son just turned 2 two weeks ago.
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:26 PM |
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TZ0624
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by TZ0624
Does he do this in front of your friend? I would watch them next time they play together and see with your own eyes.
We are always just a few feet away.
The first time seemed like a simple frustrated hit because they both wanted to play with the same train. We actually didn't witness the hit. They were holding trains and then DS started crying. About 2 minutes later, we saw the gash on DS's head.
The second time, we also didn't see exactly what happened. All we know is that DS started crying and had a bloody nose.
The mom of course apologizes. She takes her DS away and gives him a talk. I'm sure she isn't happy that her DC is hitting.
Oh ok...I would still let them play together however I would monitor them closely next time to make sure that your son isn't always getting hurt..poor kid!
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MrsScott
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
I would stop. Have you spoken to your friend about this i would address this issue asap
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:34 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Posted by MrsScott
I would stop. Have you spoken to your friend about this i would address this issue asap
I am not sure how to address it exactly. My friend apologizes.
DH and I are upset about it. No one wants to see their DC hurt. It only happens with this one child.
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| Posted 3/8/11 2:39 PM |
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
I would but just watch them closely. Kids fight
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| Posted 3/8/11 3:02 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Would you stop making play dates with a child who hurts your child?
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
For me the answer would depend- how old is the child? Are they old enough to understand that they are doing wrong?
And also, I would need to see how the mom reacted- if she took action (assuming the kid is old enough)- either time out, grounding or whatever, I would still allow my dc to place with the other kid.. and assuming my dc has fun with the other child
They are 2yo. DS will turn 2 in 2 weeks and her son just turned 2 two weeks ago.
I think it is on par with the age. As a mom of boys, I've been in both your place and your friends place. They need to be supervised more during playdates.
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| Posted 3/8/11 3:41 PM |
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