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Would you be hurt?
My cousins sent out a family holiday newsletter 2 weeks ago and didn't send us one. My mom was like, "so did you get the newsletter?" Um, No!  Last year my cousins used a pic of their kids from out wedding and mentioned that the kids were the flower girl and ring bearer for our wedding. But they didn't send us a newsletter. We had to ask for one after we heard about it.  So this year, we know they have our address, and they didn't bother to send one. I'm so hurt.  We haven't sent out our cards yet, but I bet we'll send one to them and a week later we'll get our newsletter. I guess since we're in MD, out of sight, out of mind. And my family isn't the mushy talk about our feelings type. So the only thing I could do is ask for one like last year. But its just hurtful to not be included, no? Just because I live far away I'm not in the family? 
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KPtoys
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Re: Would you be hurt?
Maybe it was an oversight.
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| Posted 12/10/07 9:53 AM |
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Re: Would you be hurt?
Posted by KPtoys
Maybe it was an oversight.
I'm sure it was, but 2 years in a row? And we have a very small family. So its more hurtful than if we had a huge family where multiple were forgotten.
Message edited 12/10/2007 9:55:18 AM.
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| Posted 12/10/07 9:55 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Would you be hurt?
Can you send a light hearted "What am I chopped liver?" email asking them for a copy of the newslette?
I'd feel slighted - I love getting stuff like that with cards.
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| Posted 12/10/07 10:01 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Would you be hurt?
I would ask them about it ...
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| Posted 12/10/07 10:04 AM |
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TreAnt427
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Re: Would you be hurt?
I think I would be a little hurt, if it was two years in a row. Maybe they did send it out to you and you haven't gotten it yet??
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| Posted 12/10/07 10:05 AM |
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MrsMessina
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Re: Would you be hurt?
In my Christmas card to them I would write "Heard great things about your newsletter, but still haven't received ours. I hope it wasn't lost in the mail- we've been checking our mailbox for it."
Give them the benefit of the doubt (or pretend to anyway) though I would be hurt also!
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| Posted 12/10/07 10:07 AM |
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Maybe I should add something in their card like "We heard there was a newsletter sent out and would love to receive a copy." Is that too forward?
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| Posted 12/10/07 10:13 AM |
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KPtoys
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Re: Would you be hurt?
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
Posted by KPtoys
Maybe it was an oversight.
I'm sure it was, but 2 years in a row? And we have a very small family. So its more hurtful than if we had a huge family where multiple were forgotten.
Oops sorry, missed that part. I have a cousin in VA who I sent Christmas cards to, presents to their kids and I have never once received anything from them from a birth announcement to present for my kids so I have stopped sending them anything. It sux.
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| Posted 12/10/07 10:36 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Would you be hurt?
Posted by Christine
Can you send a light hearted "What am I chopped liver?" email asking them for a copy of the newslette?
I'd feel slighted - I love getting stuff like that with cards.
I like this..
...chopped liver...
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| Posted 12/10/07 11:08 AM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Would you be hurt?
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
Maybe I should add something in their card like "We heard there was a newsletter sent out and would love to receive a copy." Is that too forward?
Honestly, I wouldn't say anything in your card to them.
I would either call or shoot off an email asking them about it. I know you said your family isn't the type to talk about their feelings but that doesn't mean you can't. I would put it out there and let them know how you feel. MUCH easier said than done, I know, but I think you'll feel better.
If you want, keep it light and go the "chopped liver" route! I love that phrase!!!! 
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| Posted 12/10/07 11:13 AM |
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Posted by Jennie0898
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
Maybe I should add something in their card like "We heard there was a newsletter sent out and would love to receive a copy." Is that too forward?
Honestly, I wouldn't say anything in your card to them.
I would either call or shoot off an email asking them about it. I know you said your family isn't the type to talk about their feelings but that doesn't mean you can't. I would put it out there and let them know how you feel. MUCH easier said than done, I know, but I think you'll feel better.
If you want, keep it light and go the "chopped liver" route! I love that phrase!!!!
Maybe...I could just send an email saying that I heard there was a newsletter. Could they send us one? We would love to hear about the family. How's that?
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| Posted 12/10/07 12:29 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Would you be hurt?
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
Posted by Jennie0898
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
Maybe I should add something in their card like "We heard there was a newsletter sent out and would love to receive a copy." Is that too forward?
Honestly, I wouldn't say anything in your card to them.
I would either call or shoot off an email asking them about it. I know you said your family isn't the type to talk about their feelings but that doesn't mean you can't. I would put it out there and let them know how you feel. MUCH easier said than done, I know, but I think you'll feel better.
If you want, keep it light and go the "chopped liver" route! I love that phrase!!!!
Maybe...I could just send an email saying that I heard there was a newsletter. Could they send us one? We would love to hear about the family. How's that?
I think that's fine... But if you're really bothered by not being included, I would say something. Not accusitory, but let them know how you felt. They're family. If you can't tell them how you feel, who can you tell?
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| Posted 12/10/07 1:02 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Would you be hurt?
I would think that's really weird, that they're sending out a newsletter and picking and choosing who to send it to... 
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| Posted 12/10/07 1:19 PM |
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