Why wont she let me put her down?!

DD is 3 weeks old and I think I formed some bad habits. From day one I've let her sleep on me or in our bed and now I can't get her to sleep in her bassinet or anywhere eles besides me. She will fall asleep on me or DH and when we go to put her down she screams bloody murder! We pick her right back up cause I think she's to little to CIO. I know its my fault for forming these habits but now what can I do to break them. I think she is a very fussy baby to so that doesn't help. I feel like the past few days all these things keep coming up with her and I don't know what to do to help her. I feel like a bad mom

Thank you for always helping me ladies! It seems like all the tips I get seem to help her and I'm praying someone can help me with this problem! I can't get anything done cause she's glued to me 24/7.

Oh one more question, how do I know if she has colic?

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this was happening w/ my ds around 3 weeks, I started to wonder what happened to my baby, this is not what I signed up for! turned out he had acid reflux and needed to be put on zantac, u may want to ask your doc about it and go to her w/ any other unusual symptoms

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You're not forming bad habits....she's a baby and likes to be held. Hold her. Get a sling and wear her if that makes your life easier.
We used a papasan swing with our daughter when she was young....it helped to rock her to sleep so we didn't have to.
Remember she was inside of you for 9 months, being held close to you and rocked constantly....that's all she knows!
You're not a bad mother and you're not doing anything bad by holding her! She's faaaaar too young to form any habits yet!

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Posted by Palebride

You're not forming bad habits....she's a baby and likes to be held. Hold her. Get a sling and wear her if that makes your life easier.
We used a papasan swing with our daughter when she was young....it helped to rock her to sleep so we didn't have to.
Remember she was inside of you for 9 months, being held close to you and rocked constantly....that's all she knows!
You're not a bad mother and you're not doing anything bad by holding her! She's faaaaar too young to form any habits yet!

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Thanks for the replies

I'm going to try a sling and see if that helps.

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First, you're not a bad mom. Second, you can't form bad habits at 3 weeks old. She won't let you put her down because you're a comfort to her right now and she needs you. Give her what she needs and don't worry about "spoiling" her or forming bad habits. She's too little for any of that. For the first 3 months all I did was hold my DD and let her sleep on my chest. It's what she needed. As she got older it got better. Don't worry about it, hold your little one and don't feel guilty and don't let anyone tell you differently.

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You're not forming bad habits!

It's sad that SO many of us have been taught that holding your baby and giving him/her extra attention contributes to the forming of bad habits. I'd like to biitch slap the person who came up with this!!!

YOU CAN'T SPOIL BABIES, NOR CAN BAD HABITS BE FORMED!!!

T

You can't tell that I'm passionate about this topic, can you?

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I really don't think you can spoil the baby, but if you are having problems getting her to go to sleep after you put her in the bassinet - try swaddling. It works like a charm every time for DS...even when I think he won't like it, we swaddle and he gets the most contented look and goes right to sleep.
Good luck!

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i had the same experience until we found out my DD had reflux and it got soo much better now that we switched formulas and shes trying out the zantac.

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Posted by waterspout4

Posted by Palebride

You're not forming bad habits....she's a baby and likes to be held. Hold her. Get a sling and wear her if that makes your life easier.
We used a papasan swing with our daughter when she was young....it helped to rock her to sleep so we didn't have to.
Remember she was inside of you for 9 months, being held close to you and rocked constantly....that's all she knows!
You're not a bad mother and you're not doing anything bad by holding her! She's faaaaar too young to form any habits yet!

Exactly!!!!

Way too young to form bad habits! (Just be careful not to fall asleep with a child that young in your bed. Smothering can easily happen at that age.)

Hold her! That's what they all want at that age. I used to sleep in the recliner with DS placed in my arms on top of the boppy. That was the first 2 months of his life. It helped us both get sleep.

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We used a Ring Sling from Birth and it was wonderful! Also a Mei Tei we loved after a few months old. Enjoy

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awww... its not bad habits... its what newborns need!! Get a sling! Just hold and love her... get help with house work and cooking! She is your priority

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1st love the name!
My little one is Brianna Rose (5 weeks now)
The sling helps...I have the bjorn which is great but its hard to do somethings but it helps.

What I do at night which seems to work for the most part is change her half way through her bottle (she falls asleep while eating) this wakes her up a bit to finish her feeding then immediately after the bottle/burp she normally falls asleep again I swaddle her (arms out...just the way she likes it) and she's normally good for 3-5 hours.