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When did you...
start to feel connected to the baby?
I feel like I am having first trimester depression or something. I don't know if it is because I feel so miserable all of the time or what... but I never get depressed and all of a sudden, I just feel that way. I am not excited like everyone says I should be... and I don't really FEEL (besides the morning sickness and actual symptoms) but I mean I don't feel emotionally, connected to this pregnancy. I feel terrible about this already. Should I? Is this uncommon? Or will I start to feel connected at a later time?
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Posted 1/16/12 6:46 AM  |
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menmyboys
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During both of my pregnancies I never "felt connected" until I was out of the gross stage... once I felt better I started to show and felt like I really was pregnant. And once I felt the baby (babies) move, it was a major improvement in my demeanor.
It'll get better. You just feel poopy right now - all the time. It's hard to feel good when you feel like that.
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| Posted 1/16/12 7:43 AM |
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jam11308
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This is my 2nd pg & I haven't felt connected to the baby in either. In fact, it's my dirty little secret, but with the shock of being a new mom & the sleepless nights, I didn't feel really connected to my ds until he was a few weeks old. I thought I was terrible until I started reading on the Parenting board how common it is. I thought that it would be different this pg, but so far it's more of the same...I don't like being pg (it's a means to an end for me) & I can't wait for it to be April so that the baby can be born. I wouldn't worry too much about it; things are changing so much in your life right now, but you'll get there 
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| Posted 1/16/12 7:53 AM |
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randella
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I never felt connected with my first pregnancy, and now that I am pregnant again, and he will be here VERY soon-- I still don't feel connected. I thought things would be different this time since I am already a parent, but it's not.
I know that once the kid gets here, I will absolutely be connected since I am obsessed with DD-- I think some people just aren't into being prego. Try not to stress about it.
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| Posted 1/16/12 7:58 AM |
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LoveMyHubby605
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I think I really started connecting with the baby when I felt her moving. 
it's different for everyone though, I wouldn't feel guilty about it at all
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| Posted 1/16/12 9:13 AM |
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Googlybear
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i started to feel connected and real when i went for the nuchal scan. It was a baby in there, who moved adn did baby movements, not just a mass of cells. May sound heartless, but also with myexpanding waist line, it makes it more real and more connected. I also dont feel so crappy anymore. I read in one of my pregnancy books that if youplace your hand on your belly every night for like 5 minutes it will help connect you to the baby and use it as your bonding time.. dont know...just a suggestion. YOU are an amazing person, dont think differently..
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| Posted 1/16/12 9:42 AM |
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kimbalina
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When i really started to show and I felt the baby move often. Then I had this overwhelming joy and love.
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| Posted 1/16/12 9:53 AM |
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dazies827
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I started to feel alittle connected with this pregnancy when we saw him at the 1st real sono but more when he started moving around. With my 1st when he started moving around.
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| Posted 1/16/12 9:55 AM |
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Teach723
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Re: When did you...
Posted by menmyboys
During both of my pregnancies I never "felt connected" until I was out of the gross stage... once I felt better I started to show and felt like I really was pregnant. And once I felt the baby (babies) move, it was a major improvement in my demeanor.
It'll get better. You just feel poopy right now - all the time. It's hard to feel good when you feel like that.
This was me too. Also, at my 20 week sono we found out it was a girl. I was so convinced it was a boy that it took a few days for it to sink in. Once I knew the sex though I think that helped to give her more of an identity and really feel that closeness.
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| Posted 1/16/12 10:15 AM |
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Thanks everyone for the responses. You really helped cheer me up a little.
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| Posted 1/16/12 10:50 AM |
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MrsMo
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I was excited but I didnt feel connected until i started actually feeling the baby which was late second trimester.
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| Posted 1/16/12 10:52 AM |
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LoveMyHubby605
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Posted by Teach723
Posted by menmyboys
During both of my pregnancies I never "felt connected" until I was out of the gross stage... once I felt better I started to show and felt like I really was pregnant. And once I felt the baby (babies) move, it was a major improvement in my demeanor.
It'll get better. You just feel poopy right now - all the time. It's hard to feel good when you feel like that.
This was me too. Also, at my 20 week sono we found out it was a girl. I was so convinced it was a boy that it took a few days for it to sink in. Once I knew the sex though I think that helped to give her more of an identity and really feel that closeness.
ITA with this too! I felt the first distinct movements a few days before we found out the sex. Both knowing it was a girl and feeling HER made her seem like a real person and helped me connect.
DH I've noticed also became more excited/involved/curious after the 20 week scan when we found out the sex together and after he's felt her kick.
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| Posted 1/16/12 11:02 AM |
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Posted by LoveMyHubby605
I think I really started connecting with the baby when I felt her moving.
it's different for everyone though, I wouldn't feel guilty about it at all
Same here. WHen I felt baby moving around thats when I really really connected and protective of this other life inside me 
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| Posted 1/16/12 11:05 AM |
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