| Posted By |
Message |
MissJones
I need a nap!
Member since 5/05 22150 total posts
Name:
|
When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
what do you write?
I know this couple (female) with kids who consider themselves married. One even took the other's last name. If you were writing a note, would you write Ms. X or Mrs. X? 
|
Posted 4/5/09 1:05 PM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
Superkat
More a stranger than a friend
Member since 5/06 9730 total posts
Name:
K
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
If you are unsure, you can just address it to their names. i.e. Janice Gray and Julie Cunningham or Janice and Julie Cunningham.
Message edited 4/5/2009 1:14:36 PM.
|
| Posted 4/5/09 1:14 PM |
| |
|
PumpkinGirl
:o)
Member since 10/08 1838 total posts
Name:
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by Superkat
If you are unsure, you can just address it to their names. i.e. Janice Gray and Julie Cunningham or Janice and Julie Cunningham.
not sure on what is proper, but that is what I would do too
|
| Posted 4/5/09 1:18 PM |
| |
|
Lisa
I'm a PANK!!!
Member since 5/05 22334 total posts
Name:
Professional Aunts No Kids
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
we have a gay couple that are friends of ours and whe I send them a card or letter I address it like this...
John Smith
Jim Jones
then the address
|
| Posted 4/5/09 1:31 PM |
| |
|
headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
Name:
LB
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
if they consider themselves married and have the same last name, i think you can address it like you would address a letter to any married couple. to me that shows consideration and thoughtfulness.
so instead of Mr. and Mrs. Jones, i would write Mrs. and Mrs. Jones.
ETA: but i so like the idea of using their first names also.
i invited a gay couple to my wedding and addressed it to "Mr. John Smith and Mr. Jack Jones"
Message edited 4/5/2009 1:53:21 PM.
|
| Posted 4/5/09 1:52 PM |
| |
|
butterfly20
Party of 5 - 2015
Member since 4/06 7390 total posts
Name:
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
when writing it to my aunt I put..
wifes first name & aunt first last name.
it includes them both but doesnt necessarily mean the wife took my aunts last name... since i wasnt sure at first
|
| Posted 4/5/09 2:18 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
If it's informal then I would do
Jessica & Stacy Smith
If it's formal I would do
Mrs's Jessica & Stacy Smith
Do it as if they are doctors with the same last name. That's what my brother prefers.
|
| Posted 4/5/09 3:03 PM |
| |
|
rojerono
Happiest.
Member since 8/06 13803 total posts
Name:
Jeannie
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by headoverheels
i invited a gay couple to my wedding and addressed it to "Mr. John Smith and Mr. Jack Jones"
This is what I do as well.
|
| Posted 4/5/09 6:23 PM |
| |
|
LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
Member since 8/06 12785 total posts
Name:
Bonnie-Jean
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by headoverheels
if they consider themselves married and have the same last name, i think you can address it like you would address a letter to any married couple. to me that shows consideration and thoughtfulness.
so instead of Mr. and Mrs. Jones, i would write Mrs. and Mrs. Jones.
I agree, especially since she took her last name.
|
| Posted 4/5/09 6:25 PM |
| |
|
irishbaby
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/08 582 total posts
Name:
M
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Ms. Stacy Jones and Ms. Wendy Smith - Jones
or The Jones Family
|
| Posted 4/5/09 8:05 PM |
| |
|
RadioLau
LIF Adult
Member since 4/07 2179 total posts
Name:
Laura
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by Lisa
we have a gay couple that are friends of ours and whe I send them a card or letter I address it like this...
John Smith
Jim Jones
then the address
I do the same
|
| Posted 4/5/09 8:34 PM |
| |
|
donegal419
St. Gerard, pray for us.
Member since 7/07 7650 total posts
Name:
K
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by Lisa
we have a gay couple that are friends of ours and whe I send them a card or letter I address it like this...
John Smith
Jim Jones
then the address
i've always done it this way as well.
|
| Posted 4/5/09 8:49 PM |
| |
|
sleepie76
enjoying every minute
Member since 12/07 3881 total posts
Name:
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
I would address it to the ____ family. since they all have the same last name.
|
| Posted 4/6/09 8:38 AM |
| |
|
DeniseMarie
<3
Member since 8/07 10682 total posts
Name:
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by Lisa
we have a gay couple that are friends of ours and whe I send them a card or letter I address it like this...
John Smith
Jim Jones
then the address
yep, me too
|
| Posted 4/6/09 9:11 AM |
| |
|
lucyloo
nope
Member since 1/06 9758 total posts
Name:
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
If they have the same last name then:
Mrs. and Mrs. Smith
ETA:
Also, Mrs. Pattie and Mary Smith
Message edited 4/6/2009 9:57:12 AM.
|
| Posted 4/6/09 9:22 AM |
| |
|
dpli
Daylight savings :)
Member since 5/05 13973 total posts
Name:
D
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
In this case, I would probably just use
Jane Smith
Mary Smith
or "the Smith family".
I did not take my DH's name, so I don't use Mrs., I use Ms., even though I am married. However, since we have a child, I will use "the Smith family" as a return address on correspondence with family and friends.
|
| Posted 4/6/09 9:48 AM |
| |
|
klingklang77
kraftwerk!
Member since 7/06 11489 total posts
Name:
Völlig losgelöst
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
I would do Ms. and Ms. Surname
They aren't anyone's Mrs. JMO.
ETA: Mrs. suggests you are married to a man, hence the Mrs., which to me equals Mister's Missus (or however you spell it).
Message edited 4/6/2009 9:57:42 AM.
|
| Posted 4/6/09 9:53 AM |
| |
|
lucyloo
nope
Member since 1/06 9758 total posts
Name:
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Just found this on frugalbride.com but I think it's a bit too formal:
Gay Married Couple with the same last name
Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John
Inner: The Messrs. John
Lesbian Married Couple with the same last name
Outer: The Mesdames Rosie and Kellie O'Donnell
Inner: The Mesdames O'Donnell
|
| Posted 4/6/09 9:59 AM |
| |
|
klingklang77
kraftwerk!
Member since 7/06 11489 total posts
Name:
Völlig losgelöst
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by dita
Just found this on frugalbride.com but I think it's a bit too formal:
Gay Married Couple with the same last name
Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John
Inner: The Messrs. John
Lesbian Married Couple with the same last name
Outer: The Mesdames Rosie and Kellie O'Donnell
Inner: The Mesdames O'Donnell
So in short form Mesdames could be Ms. ?
ETA: Ms. and Ms. ?
Message edited 4/6/2009 10:03:23 AM.
|
| Posted 4/6/09 10:02 AM |
| |
|
Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!
Member since 5/05 20046 total posts
Name:
Gerty ®
|
Re: When addressing (as in writing a letter/envelope) someone who is gay...
Posted by Lisa
we have a gay couple that are friends of ours and whe I send them a card or letter I address it like this...
John Smith
Jim Jones
then the address
That is exactly what I do...although if one took the other's last name, you might address it just to Ms. Janet Jones
|
| Posted 4/6/09 10:10 AM |
| |
|
