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What do I say to MIL
I just finished up my registry, and my DH tells me that his mom bought us a bedding set...now although i think it was so sweet she thought of us, she did not ask us if we already registered for one, and I love the set I registered for....I feel like bedding is so personal, i was kind of annoyed, and it is totally not my style, I kind of told Dh that I am keeping my other set on the registry, I am thinking I should not bring it up that I dont like it and just say "oh we will use both" what do you think????
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Posted 10/31/08 10:50 AM  |
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rmdrn125
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Maybe you could just say that to your MIL. Tell her that you really are touched that she would buy the bedding set for you, but you "had your heart set" on the one you registered for. Hopefully she understands. GL
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| Posted 10/31/08 10:54 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by rmdrn125
Maybe you could just say that to your MIL. Tell her that you really are touched that she would buy the bedding set for you, but you "had your heart set" on the one you registered for. Hopefully she understands. GL
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| Posted 10/31/08 10:56 AM |
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Lucky
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by rmdrn125
Maybe you could just say that to your MIL. Tell her that you really are touched that she would buy the bedding set for you, but you "had your heart set" on the one you registered for. Hopefully she understands. GL
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Good idea. Were you going for a theme? You could also tell her that you had already selected one that you thought would go perfectly with the theme.
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| Posted 10/31/08 11:02 AM |
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Re: What do I say to MIL
NO clue what to do.. i told my mil the other day i already had two winter coats for dd after she told me she bought her one.. and got an attitude... from this i learned just take the item and return it myself.
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| Posted 10/31/08 11:03 AM |
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randella
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by rmdrn125
Maybe you could just say that to your MIL. Tell her that you really are touched that she would buy the bedding set for you, but you "had your heart set" on the one you registered for. Hopefully she understands. GL
I agree-- and say that you planned the whole nursery around the bedding you selected.
In all reality, she probably bought it because she thought it was cute. But, picking out the bedding is like the most major decor item in a nursery. You and your DH should be doing that.... it's like her buying you your wedding dress without consulting you, in a weird, totally reaching, kind of way.
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| Posted 10/31/08 12:55 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: What do I say to MIL
WHAT? She bought you bedding just out of the blue that you didn't register for? That is weird!
I would have V tell her nicely that you guys have a theme and picked out a specific bedding, that it's on your registry and she can buy that one for you.
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| Posted 10/31/08 1:13 PM |
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by Diana1215
WHAT? She bought you bedding just out of the blue that you didn't register for? That is weird!
I would have V tell her nicely that you guys have a theme and picked out a specific bedding, that it's on your registry and she can buy that one for you.
ITA-I registered for a certain thermometer on mine and then my MIL bought me a different one becasue she thought it was better! I would say exactly what Diana said.
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| Posted 10/31/08 1:25 PM |
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by randella
Posted by rmdrn125
Maybe you could just say that to your MIL. Tell her that you really are touched that she would buy the bedding set for you, but you "had your heart set" on the one you registered for. Hopefully she understands. GL
I agree-- and say that you planned the whole nursery around the bedding you selected.
In all reality, she probably bought it because she thought it was cute. But, picking out the bedding is like the most major decor item in a nursery. You and your DH should be doing that.... it's like her buying you your wedding dress without consulting you, in a weird, totally reaching, kind of way.
I agree, I know I must sound weird but i felt like it is such a personal item
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| Posted 10/31/08 2:09 PM |
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Posted by Diana1215
WHAT? She bought you bedding just out of the blue that you didn't register for? That is weird!
I would have V tell her nicely that you guys have a theme and picked out a specific bedding, that it's on your registry and she can buy that one for you.
I asked him about it and of course he got defensive...so im just gonna drop it and use mine and if she asks then have him tell her ours goes with our theme.....
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| Posted 10/31/08 2:11 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Am I being ignorant in thinking that you will need more than one set of bedding?
Could you get the bedding set you want and then use the set your MIL got you as a backup for when you do laundry?
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| Posted 10/31/08 2:15 PM |
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Posted by Bridex100
Am I being ignorant in thinking that you will need more than one set of bedding?
Could you get the bedding set you want and then use the set your MIL got you as a backup for when you do laundry?
No not at all, thats probably what i will do just keep it for a backup, I just felt bad that she was spending money on something I dont like
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| Posted 10/31/08 2:16 PM |
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by secretbabymaker
Posted by Bridex100
Am I being ignorant in thinking that you will need more than one set of bedding?
Could you get the bedding set you want and then use the set your MIL got you as a backup for when you do laundry?
No not at all, thats probably what i will do just keep it for a backup, I just felt bad that she was spending money on something I dont like
The only part we ended up using from our bedding set was the sheet... and always need more sheets.
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| Posted 10/31/08 2:21 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: What do I say to MIL
You will never need a full bedding backup -- just lots and lots of sheets.
I spent a ton of money on my bedding. We don't use the bumpers anymore. The crib is so low that I took out the bedskirt. The quilt is draped over my glider where I sit on it 
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| Posted 10/31/08 8:16 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: What do I say to MIL
if your child is going to daycare you can use that set there.....
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| Posted 10/31/08 11:01 PM |
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StressedNoMore
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Re: What do I say to MIL
to be honest I would say thank you and keep it... Even though you may have a theme, as I did with DS other bedding I received that I did not register for came in very handy.... If you only have one bedding set trust me you will be doing laundry like everyday... Just something to think about
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| Posted 11/1/08 9:40 AM |
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by randella
Posted by rmdrn125
Maybe you could just say that to your MIL. Tell her that you really are touched that she would buy the bedding set for you, but you "had your heart set" on the one you registered for. Hopefully she understands. GL
I agree-- and say that you planned the whole nursery around the bedding you selected.
In all reality, she probably bought it because she thought it was cute. But, picking out the bedding is like the most major decor item in a nursery. You and your DH should be doing that.... it's like her buying you your wedding dress without consulting you, in a weird, totally reaching, kind of way.
I don't think that is a far reach at all. I get the similarities. And yes, I agree that it is too personal for her to just buy some random bedding for you. Sweet and generous, but a little over the top.
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| Posted 11/1/08 11:18 AM |
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Re: What do I say to MIL
Posted by randella
Posted by rmdrn125
Maybe you could just say that to your MIL. Tell her that you really are touched that she would buy the bedding set for you, but you "had your heart set" on the one you registered for. Hopefully she understands. GL
I agree-- and say that you planned the whole nursery around the bedding you selected.
In all reality, she probably bought it because she thought it was cute. But, picking out the bedding is like the most major decor item in a nursery. You and your DH should be doing that.... it's like her buying you your wedding dress without consulting you, in a weird, totally reaching, kind of way.
totally agree
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