Waiting for something to happen?

Honestly, I have a big, dysfunctional family, have always had a stressful job, had IL issues and there is always some kind of drama in my life. I am an emotional person and for what seems like my whole life there is always SOMETHING out of balance. Not that I am not happy, because I am. I married a great guy and have a little clone of a daughter who I adore.

But for the very first time ever, everything seems to be, for me, blissfully OK. DH and I are both content with our, at this moment, steady jobs. MY ILS don't bother me anymore. I still worry incredibly about family members, but thanks to the help of DH, I don't take it on as my own as much as I used to.

I literally smile when I think about my life and where it is right now.

Is it ridiculous that I am waiting for something bad/drama to happen? And how can I stop doing that?

Re: Waiting for something to happen?

Just enjoy being in such a great place right now...You have a beautiful family, and deserve it.

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I'm sorry you have been through so much I think keeping a positive attitude does a world of good.....keep it up!!!

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you are programmed. It's part of anxiety.

Change the channel. When you start to think that way, change the channel and watch something else..it took some time, but it works for me.

You don't have to wallow in the what ifs. They will happen or not happen and you have no control over it. Let it go..work on it. It won't happen overnight.

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Posted by Blu-ize

you are programmed. It's part of anxiety.

Change the channel. When you start to think that way, change the channel and watch something else..it took some time, but it works for me.

You don't have to wallow in the what ifs. They will happen or not happen and you have no control over it. Let it go..work on it. It won't happen overnight.

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Oh boy- I could have totally written this myself. You kind of feel like-everything is going right SOMETHING must bewrong, right?

Well...

The only thing I can tell you is to enjoy the way your feeling now & try to remember how you feel today when something DOES go wrong again. Most of the things us as women worry about are things that are wayyy out of our control- and trust me, theres no worse feeling then not having control of certain situations- especially family issues.

2007 was the worst year of my life for many reasons. I can tell you though... of all the drama I went through, last year. it made me a stronger person today. I'm sure the same is for you. Try to remain positive & if things go wrong, try to differentiate what you do have control over & what you dont. Take things one step at a time.

btw- I am the queen of dysfunctional families.

Message edited 7/7/2008 1:14:41 PM.

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As someone with anxiety, I totally understand this. It's almost uncomfortable to NOT have a worry because my mind usually always races with negative and scary thoughts (and what ifs). Try to just shake that feeling off and concentrate really hard on how good you are feeling and how content you are. Try to stay in the moment.

I've missed a lot b/c I spent so much time obsessing and worrying over things that never happened, or if they did, weren't as bad as I imagined. I hardly ever lived in the present and enjoyed things, and I'm finally learning to.