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BA2008
Need to find some hope!
Member since 2/08 2485 total posts
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Beth -Ann
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Thought it was a good move
OK, need some opinions on this one.
So, I've been mentioning my friends baby shower for a little while on here. She and I used to work together and bonded when we were both dealing with IF. Well, she's also the one that got "lucky" right before IVF#2. They actually canceled her cycle b/c of a cyst and conceived the old natural way. I'm so happy for her. And she still checks in with me and really doesn't talk about her pregnancy to me and I try to make a point to ask her questions of how she's doing and she's also my cheerleader when I'm down.
So, I went to Baby R US this week. Bought the gift, I really think I'm OK or I'm forcing my self to be. This is not the problem.
So, its' Saturday and our business (landscape architect/build company) just got asked in on this charity project out east. Its going to be judged by Martha Stewart and there's a reception starting at 5pm. I'll be in Westchester just ending the baby shower. Now if I'd had a problem with the shower and didn't go I could be going with Dh to this great networking event.
Should I lie to my friend and tell her I have a problem going to her baby shower etc...
She did give me the out and said she'd understand. Though now its all paid for and I'd feel so bad canceling last second.
Why does everything have to be the same day?
What would you do?
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Posted 6/26/08 11:14 AM  |
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SweetTooth
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Lauren
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Re: Thought it was a good move
I would tell her the truth. I personally don't like using IF as an excuse for things, especially if you are just using it to get out of something you don't have any issues with.
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| Posted 6/26/08 11:26 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Gerty ®
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Re: Thought it was a good move
Posted by SweetTooth
I would tell her the truth. I personally don't like using IF as an excuse for things, especially if you are just using it to get out of something you don't have any issues with.
Ditto....
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| Posted 6/26/08 12:14 PM |
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BA2008
Need to find some hope!
Member since 2/08 2485 total posts
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Beth -Ann
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Re: Thought it was a good move
Posted by SweetTooth
I would tell her the truth. I personally don't like using IF as an excuse for things, especially if you are just using it to get out of something you don't have any issues with.
You're right...I'm just going to go. I also don't like being that person who cancels at the last minute.
Thank you both for keeping me from lying which I'm not good at either.
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| Posted 6/26/08 12:30 PM |
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MrsJoeG
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Amanda
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Re: Thought it was a good move
I agree with what was said about being honest but I also think that this sounds like a great opportunity for you and DH. I say you should tell her about it and then see what she says. it sounds like its worth missing the shower for it. May be you can go up and visit her one afternoon in the next few weeks instead?
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| Posted 6/26/08 12:43 PM |
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fullofhope13
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Re: Thought it was a good move
Posted by MrsJoeG
I agree with what was said about being honest but I also think that this sounds like a great opportunity for you and DH. I say you should tell her about it and then see what she says. it sounds like its worth missing the shower for it. May be you can go up and visit her one afternoon in the next few weeks instead?
I was thinking the same thing; even (if you're up for it) going to the shower for a little bit and leaving early.
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| Posted 6/26/08 1:30 PM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Thought it was a good move
I think you should go to the shower if you're okay with going. She seems like she's been a really great friend for you, and she would probably love to have you there.
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| Posted 6/26/08 2:17 PM |
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BA2008
Need to find some hope!
Member since 2/08 2485 total posts
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Beth -Ann
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Re: Thought it was a good move
Posted by JennyPenny
I think you should go to the shower if you're okay with going. She seems like she's been a really great friend for you, and she would probably love to have you there.
She has been through it all with me. She was who I talked to when I had my m/c. I don't get to see her much anymore b/c she's in Westchester. Though I try to see her when I have RE appointments in the city. Honestly, besides you all, she's the only one I talk to most of the time. I would feel bad not going, I think. But, that is me. Guilt woman!
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| Posted 6/26/08 2:45 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Susan
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Re: Thought it was a good move
I think you have to go. It's an act of solidarity and I do believe in Karma.
I know she would be very disappointed if you didn't go. As tough as it is, maybe go for an hour and then leave to go to the other event even if it's a big schlep.
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| Posted 6/26/08 3:50 PM |
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