Those who didnt tell until after 1st trimester...

How did you get through it? It's making me crazy. I feel like I'm lying to my family and friends (only my parents know) and I hate it. And I guess I'm being very quiet and subdued bc I'm afraid of giving anything away and now my SIL and two close friends are worried about me not being myself (although now I think my friends figured it out after my cranberry and sodas, no vodka last night!) . I wish I could tell them but DH is so adamant about nobody knowing and I guess I'm a little nervous about it especially since I havent had my first doctor's appt. Is anyone else having a really hard time with this?

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Well, I'm 10 wks & I'm telling my parents tomorrow so I almost made it through the 1st trimester. It wasn't that hard because I'm a pretty private person. Of course, I told alot of my friends so I could always talk to them.

I think you should tell when you feel comfortable. Try to talk to your husband & see if maybe he'll be ok with telling earlier. I wanted to wait as long as possible but once we went for the sono & then heard the heart beat, we felt comfortable enough to tell.

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It's killing me too....We told our parents and my 2 BILs. I cant imagine having to hold out another 6 weeks. My husband absolutely does not want me telling anyone and its driving me crazy! I just want to tell a couple really close friends.

Message edited 2/17/2007 10:25:41 AM.

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we told right away. All of our closest friends and family. We thought we would want them to be there for us if something terrible did happen. We knew we would want the support.

I was nervous after I started announcing, but that didnt last long. I'm really glad we did. We are going through a rough time right now, hopefully everything will be okay, but it's so nice to be surrounded by the people who care about us. I can't imagine feeling this worried without their support. If we do M/C that's something I wouldn't want to keep secret. DH says it's nothing to be embarrased about or ashamed of, so why would be hide it? Just thoughtI would share that.

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I am 8 weeks today and Dh and I have been VERY SELECTIVE about who we have told. We had an early m/c in the fall, which is why we are trying to keep quiet. We have told our best friends and my brother. No other family yet. We only told the people that we knew would help us through a tough time if anything went wrong again. For us, family isn't always most supportive. I also told the nurse at my job incase there is anything going around the building.

However, it is hard, you want to share the happy news right away......waiting is so hard. But I would rather share when I truly feel more confident.

I wish you lots of luck with the waiting.

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We are waiting until my first doc visit to tell the extended family and my job. It is getting harder though because I am so nauseous and look terrible all the time, I think people are starting to wonder.

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I told one friend at work & DH. It was definitely tough.

My twin & I went to lunch the day before we were telling everyone & she asked "Are you pregnant?" I answered, "I guess I'm gaining a lot of weight. I really need to start a diet." We told her & everyone else the next day.

I think the best way is to be able to talk about it with the person that does know. DH isn't a bubbly kind of person so for me, having someone to share the excitement with helped. It's like a huge bubbling inside you, ease the pressure by calling your mom to get it out.

Message edited 2/17/2007 1:49:34 PM.

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i told the parents right away, i waited till this week to tell everyone at work -- week 12, and my close freinds already knew.
i waited to tell aunt uncles and cousins, grandmothers till week 12 also

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I managed to not tell my parents until last night - today is the last day of my first trimester. My mom couldn't believe I kept the secret since Christmastime. I'm glad I finally told though - I sort of felt like I was going through stuff alone. A few of my friends figured it out...but other than them, no one knew.