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cateyemm
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this is bullshyt!
Do you ever wonder why you were put on this journey of IF and/or loss? Anyone come up with a good reason and care to share? I can't think of any reasons worth all this pain and suffering.
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Posted 12/26/11 5:57 PM  |
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I cant think of any other reason other than that life suucks and is not fair.  
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| Posted 12/26/11 6:01 PM |
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MrsMessina
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Re: this is bullshyt!
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right. 
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| Posted 12/26/11 6:30 PM |
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01ellie
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Re: this is bullshyt!
I don't know why some of us have to go thru IF while others don't....I'm hoping that all the struggles this journey brings me will lead to me being a better and stronger person.
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| Posted 12/26/11 6:39 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
That's what people tell me too.. but my feeling is.. Why does it have to take years of struggle and heartache to meet the baby I was "meant" to have? Why wasn't I meant to have my first baby? 
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| Posted 12/26/11 6:44 PM |
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MrsKelly
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
That's what people tell me too.. but my feeling is.. Why does it have to take years of struggle and heartache to meet the baby I was "meant" to have? Why wasn't I meant to have my first baby?
whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right?
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| Posted 12/26/11 6:49 PM |
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cateyemm
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
That's what people tell me too.. but my feeling is.. Why does it have to take years of struggle and heartache to meet the baby I was "meant" to have? Why wasn't I meant to have my first baby?
Yeah, it doesnt really work for me either. I guess once youre holding a baby in ur arms, it doesnt really matter anymore so its much easier to say "it was all worth it!" i truly beleive i mustve done something bad to deserve this. Just not sure what...
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| Posted 12/26/11 6:52 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
That's what people tell me too.. but my feeling is.. Why does it have to take years of struggle and heartache to meet the baby I was "meant" to have? Why wasn't I meant to have my first baby?
Yeah, it doesnt really work for me either. I guess once youre holding a baby in ur arms, it doesnt really matter anymore so its much easier to say "it was all worth it!" i truly beleive i mustve done something bad to deserve this. Just not sure what...
For a while I grappled with a painful list of reasons why I "deserve" this path.. but what it all comes down to is I think it's just a random trail of events that I consistently get the shittty end of the stick on..
We'll all get there eventually, it's just a matter of how.
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| Posted 12/26/11 6:59 PM |
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Posted by cateyemm
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
That's what people tell me too.. but my feeling is.. Why does it have to take years of struggle and heartache to meet the baby I was "meant" to have? Why wasn't I meant to have my first baby?
Yeah, it doesnt really work for me either. I guess once youre holding a baby in ur arms, it doesnt really matter anymore so its much easier to say "it was all worth it!" i truly beleive i mustve done something bad to deserve this. Just not sure what...
I often think that I MUST have done something wrong to deserve this, but then I see nasty and evil people all around with their perfectly healthy, easily conceived babies. Maybe we should be nasty biotches and we will become fertile. 
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| Posted 12/26/11 7:53 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by bringonthebaby
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
That's what people tell me too.. but my feeling is.. Why does it have to take years of struggle and heartache to meet the baby I was "meant" to have? Why wasn't I meant to have my first baby?
Yeah, it doesnt really work for me either. I guess once youre holding a baby in ur arms, it doesnt really matter anymore so its much easier to say "it was all worth it!" i truly beleive i mustve done something bad to deserve this. Just not sure what...
I often think that I MUST have done something wrong to deserve this, but then I see nasty and evil people all around with their perfectly healthy, easily conceived babies. Maybe we should be nasty biotches and we will become fertile.
Ok ok... You STINK!! Sooooo bad  
There. Am I pregnant yet??
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| Posted 12/26/11 7:56 PM |
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cateyemm
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by bringonthebaby
I often think that I MUST have done something wrong to deserve this, but then I see nasty and evil people all around with their perfectly healthy, easily conceived babies. Maybe we should be nasty biotches and we will become fertile.
Im willing to give it a go but im already a bitter old hag!
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| Posted 12/26/11 8:09 PM |
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gina409
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Re: this is bullshyt!
i have no idea why...
i mean i am bad luck..if u saw me in real life u would understand..
i am the person the bird shiits on..the one the cofee machine at 7 11 explodes on..the one the car splashes with a huuuge puddle while waiting in the street..one time i was at the racetrack and i hit a trifecta for a whole whole lot of money..dh and i jumped like lunatics..went to cash it in and she gave me a exacta box...
ever see the movie pure luck with martin short..that was a nickname of mine
there was another thread but i have broken multiples bones,stitches galore..finger sliced off on a meat slicer and arm burned on a grill
i figured this just went along with it
maybe we r just stronger and we can handle it..maybe our timing would be better at a diff time..maybe life is just unfair..i really have no clue
all i know is that it suucks and has changed me in every way a person can be changed
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LIRascal
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Me too- I'm the klutzy unlucky one. On Friday morning, I dropped a hot, just-out-of-the-oven cookie sheet ON MY CHEST and burned it. I was like fmlfmlfml.... why me?
Needless to say I'm burnt and had to wear ugly clothes on Christmas to cover it up. I told my therapist that this whole IF thing is just my dumb luck. She asked me if I felt jinxed. Yep. 
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by cateyemm
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
That's what people tell me too.. but my feeling is.. Why does it have to take years of struggle and heartache to meet the baby I was "meant" to have? Why wasn't I meant to have my first baby?
Yeah, it doesnt really work for me either. I guess once youre holding a baby in ur arms, it doesnt really matter anymore so its much easier to say "it was all worth it!" i truly beleive i mustve done something bad to deserve this. Just not sure what...
I told DH this. I said God hates me...I did something BAD! He said if he hates anyone it is me....which made me laugh... but seriously I don't understand why! I am entering a fresh cycle today...and PRAYING it goes my way! I told DH I am even going to church! Just so I can tell God in his house that I need his help!
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| Posted 12/27/11 7:42 AM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: this is bullshyt!
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
Several people have told me this too... and i think its a load of shyt to be honest... im sure they are thinking it will make me feel better... sort of like telling someoneto relax and it will happen... but it never does...
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Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by MrsMessina
ALL the time. and I have NO ryme or reason, except from others who have gone on to have/get their children. what I have been told is without going thru all of THIS, we wouldn't have gotten that specific child that we're supposed to have.
They've assured me that once we hold our child/ren in our arms, it all makes sense... I hope they're right.
Several people have told me this too... and i think its a load of shyt to be honest... im sure they are thinking it will make me feel better... sort of like telling someoneto relax and it will happen... but it never does...
ITA! We wouldn't know the difference if we had a child 2 yrs ago or in a yr from now. I hate the crap people say. It's just better if they keep their mouths shut.
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