spinoff to question about IVF...if you had a C-section

do people ever make you feel bad about it? Like you did something the inferior way?

I had one friend who kept saying that she was so healthy and therefore would not need one. Stupid thing to say but she later ate her words b/c she had to have one. She was like, embarrassed to tell people.

I have another friend who had 2 C-sections and she feels like the other mothers give her an attitude like,"oh, you don't know what it is like to deliver a baby."

I am not pregnant or TTC yet but I already know that I will need a C-section b/c of prior surgeries that I had for fibroids and endo w/ complications. Because people know that I have not yet had children, and they don't know that I was told that I'd need a C-section, I've heard some odd remarks about C-sections. Will I continue to hear such remarks?

Message edited 9/12/2006 5:22:11 PM.

Re: spinoff to question about IVF...if you had a C-section

i have had two csections, one cause my first baby was breech at 40 weeks and was too big to be delivered vaginally, second was a repeat csection due to concern of uterine rupture. i have never received a negative comment from any family, friends or strangers cause i had csections. and if i did, i could care less, lol. i did what was best for my baby and myself. and if you get any more negative comments from anyone, i would tell them the same thing.

Re: spinoff to question about IVF...if you had a C-section

No one has ever said anything negative to me about it; if anything people were more sympathetic. To tell the truth, I think more girls I know have had c/s than "normal" delivery.

Wait, now that I think about it, a friend of mine whose wife had 3 "normal" deliveries and thought he was being funny, told my friend who had a c/s (this is before mine), "You're not a real woman; you couldn't push your baby out." She replied, "At least I'm still as tight as a 16 year old." hehehehe...that'll get 'em!

Re: spinoff to question about IVF...if you had a C-section

I opted for NO drugs or any intervention whatsoever and got all sorts of remarks that I was nuts, why would I chose that, etc... I think people will have something to say regardless of how our precious ones are born

Re: spinoff to question about IVF...if you had a C-section

Nope, never got any flack about my c/s at all. he was breech and that was that. No arguements from anyone.

I will say though that I was like this when I was chatting with a lady in my son's gym class last spring. She told me I was nuts to try to have a VBAC when I could easily schedule a c/s again. I just thought it was odd that she wanted me so badly to schedule my c/s.

Re: spinoff to question about IVF...if you had a C-section

I HAVE actually had adverse remarks about having had a c-section.

First, when my cousin and I were discussing our sections and the pain, etc... my uncle had the nerve to say, "yeah, but it's not like it was a big deal; I mean you only had a baby"

And just the other day, a woman told me that I can't say that I have really experienced labor pains and childbirth since I didn't go through all of it. She said that my "little back pains" (referring to my 22 hours of back labor) don't possibly compare to real contractions. She said "that is a pain that is like no other." I became so angry with her and told her that the 2 women I shared a room with who had vaginal deliveries were up and walking by the time they got to the hospital room, whereas I could not get out of bed for 3 days! I just told her that we all "pay" on one side of the threshold or the other! I really don't know how I resisted socking her in the nose!!! Next time I'm gonna use the 16-year-old remark above!!