Sleep Deprived...do you think this would be unfair of me to ask?

DH works nights and has been with me since I gave birth, and will be with me until the end of the month. While he has been VERY helpful (when he stays awake), I think it would be fair to both of us if we tried taking turns taking care of our daughter. She doesn't really sleep at night, and is up every 2 hours, and sometimes stays awake for 2 hours or more. I get up to feed her each time, and sometimes he'll take her, but for the most part it's been me. I don't nap during the day when she is sleeping, because I just can't. I've tried and I don't sleep.

Do you think it would be unfair if he watched her at night (like he's at work) and I'll watch her in the morning so that we both can get some sleep. He also needs to get used to sleeping during the day again since he'll be going back to work next week. I am running on E and am exhausted!!!!!

Re: Sleep Deprived...do you think this would be unfair of me to ask?

it certainly doesn't sound unreasonable. Ask him... the worst he can say is no and at that point you both need to sit down and find a solution that works best for both of you. You BOTH need

Re: Sleep Deprived...do you think this would be unfair of me to ask?

I think if you need help, asking is the way to go.

I don't see this about being fair. I see it more along the lines of you need help & you're a team. If he can't do it/doesn't want to, then discuss what he can do to help you out.

I was the one that got up at night because my DH is an electrician & being tired while working with volts of electricity wasn't an option in my book.

I hope he says yes & you're sleeping soon.

Re: Sleep Deprived...do you think this would be unfair of me to ask?

Posted by mrsv1015

it certainly doesn't sound unreasonable. Ask him... the worst he can say is no and at that point you both need to sit down and find a solution that works best for both of you. You BOTH need

Re: Sleep Deprived...do you think this would be unfair of me to ask?

Posted by nrthshgrl

I think if you need help, asking is the way to go.

I don't see this about being fair. I see it more along the lines of you need help & you're a team. If he can't do it/doesn't want to, then discuss what he can do to help you out.

I was the one that got up at night because my DH is an electrician & being tired while working with volts of electricity wasn't an option in my book.

I hope he says yes & you're sleeping soon.

Re: Sleep Deprived...do you think this would be unfair of me to ask?

It isn't unreasonable, but my DH works nights too...and honestly, it means that I take care of DS all the time. He even said to me when he was home when DS was about 2 weeks old that I need to get used to doing all the nighttime stuff myself. Then in the morning when he is asleep, I get up with him, even though I probably only get 3 or 4 hours sleep. I don't nap with DS either during the day, I clean, do laundry or hop on here.

He may go for it for the next two weeks, but I wouldn't ask him to do it on his days off, personally. Once you go back to work, you'll have to reevaluate.

Re: Sleep Deprived...do you think this would be unfair of me to ask?

Sounds good. MY husband always shares in household/children chores on his days and his nights off, vacation or other. Why shouldn't you get a break too, while he is getting a break....unless your taking some paid vacation from motherhood.

Message edited 8/22/2007 2:52:50 PM.