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DebG
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Situational Friends
Ever have someone that you share ONE important thing in common with...that's the thing that keeps you talking.
Well what happens when that one thing goes away, should you try to salvage the friendship on the premis of the friendship or just let it go?
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Posted 4/7/06 9:39 AM  |
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Shanti
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Re: Situational Friends
I find that friendships like that tend to fade away. If you really care for the person, you can try to salvage your friendship.
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:40 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Situational Friends
I don't think I have any of those. 
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:43 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Situational Friends
A lot of times the friendship fizzles -- this would mostly apply to say "work" friends. Not the ones you build real relationships from but the people you just basically share workspace with but are friendly with.
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:43 AM |
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DebG
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Re: Situational Friends
She's a good person both sweet and caring. I would hate for her to not be a part of my life but I just don't have anything else to talk to her about.
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:47 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Situational Friends
Can you find something else you can share or maybe take a class of some sort together? Like a cooking class or something like that?
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:52 AM |
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My2Boys
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Re: Situational Friends
Posted by Christine
A lot of times the friendship fizzles -- this would mostly apply to say "work" friends. Not the ones you build real relationships from but the people you just basically share workspace with but are friendly with.
ITA. I've lost touch with most of my work "friends" b/c we really had nothing else in common aside from our job.
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:57 AM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Situational Friends
Posted by Christine
Can you find something else you can share or maybe take a class of some sort together? Like a cooking class or something like that?
This is a great idea - espcially since you said that even though you feel you only had that one 'main' thing in common, you still think she is a sweet, nice person and would still like her in your life ??
I HAVE been in this situation, however, so I do understand. For me, inevitably the friendships DID fade over time once that common 'ground' we shared faded as well. Sometimes despite your best effots, that one "thing" really WAS the tie that connected you -- and despite feeling as though that person is wonderful, its hard to maintain ties nonetheless (esp. when life is so busy to begin with!) 
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| Posted 4/7/06 10:00 AM |
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KPsquared
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Re: Situational Friends
I would just let it go. I am going through this now as well with some friends from my old job. Went out to dinner and felt like we really had nothing in common and when they were talking about the old job I was 
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:40 PM |
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Tany
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Re: Situational Friends
it really depends though. do you care about her although you only share that in common? if yes, than keep her friendship.
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:44 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Situational Friends
Posted by DebG
Ever have someone that you share ONE important thing in common with...that's the thing that keeps you talking.
Well what happens when that one thing goes away, should you try to salvage the friendship on the premis of the friendship or just let it go?
i had that happen once...
we had only one thing in common, became friends and it was great while that lasted...
But once it was over and we got to know each other outside that situation...JUST COULD NOT WORK...
I had NOTHING in common with the person what-so-ever.
But i have also had co-workers who became life long, great GREAT friends....
And when the "work situation" changed...the friendship stayed.
SO i think in the end...what it comes down to is how the two of you are outside the situation...
Some work...some do not...
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| Posted 4/7/06 9:46 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Situational Friends
Posted by DebG
She's a good person both sweet and caring. I would hate for her to not be a part of my life but I just don't have anything else to talk to her about.
Then it would likly just phase itself out.
I only had this happen twice, and both times it was more that the situation made me see parts of the people I liked, or I never really got to know them as a real friend.. once the situation ended, I didnt really think I would be friends with them for any other reason and moved on. I have made lots of friends through situations who are now great long time friends, so I think it will either work itself out or not.
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| Posted 4/7/06 10:09 PM |
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