| Posted By |
Message |
-Lisa-
---------------
Member since 5/05 6530 total posts
Name:
Lisa
|
Sitting Shiva -help?
Can someone tell me what is customary when going to visit those sitting shiva? Do we bring something (what?), what type of attire is appropriate? how long do we stay?
Our friend's grandmother passed, and we're going by there later today.
Anything else I should know?
TIA!
|
Posted 12/2/07 12:25 PM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
mrswask
Pookie Love
Member since 5/05 20229 total posts
Name:
Michal
|
Re: Sitting Shiva -help?
Most people bring food items - bakery, fruit, etc. Just make sure the food is kosher.
Pants are fine to wear.
|
| Posted 12/2/07 12:27 PM |
| |
|
evnme
My little lamb
Member since 8/05 12633 total posts
Name:
aka momma2b
|
Re: Sitting Shiva -help?
dont ring the door bell, just walk in.
you can bring food- but make sure it is kosher. cookies or a bagel platter is always good.
dont bring flowers.
dress conservatively. you can stay as long as you can or feel comfortable.
depending on what time you get there, there may be a shiva minyan going on (it's a service). even if you are not jewish, you can participate if you're comfortable or just hang out in another room while it is going on. (but if they are more traditional, then women may not count for a minyan, so then you can be in another room with the other women).
|
| Posted 12/2/07 12:30 PM |
| |
|
-Lisa-
---------------
Member since 5/05 6530 total posts
Name:
Lisa
|
Re: Sitting Shiva -help?
Thank you! This is very helpful.
They're not a very traditional/religious family, but I wanted an idea of what is customary.
|
| Posted 12/2/07 12:52 PM |
| |
|
bklyngirl
COULD THIS BE MY YEAR??
Member since 6/05 15758 total posts
Name:
Gail
|
Re: Sitting Shiva -help?
a food platter is fine. the people that are grieving shouldn't be cooking(that's how it was explained to me). you could stay 30 min or 3 hours. that's up to you
|
| Posted 12/2/07 12:54 PM |
| |
|
mrswask
Pookie Love
Member since 5/05 20229 total posts
Name:
Michal
|
Re: Sitting Shiva -help?
Posted by -Lisa-
Thank you! This is very helpful.
They're not a very traditional/religious family, but I wanted an idea of what is customary.
I
I have found that most people are traditional when it comes to following shiva customs.
|
| Posted 12/2/07 2:08 PM |
| |
|
LiPo
:(
Member since 9/06 1864 total posts
Name:
Lisa
|
Re: Sitting Shiva -help?
By the end of shiva I'm usually hoping for something healthy because of all the cakes and cookies that people bring.
|
| Posted 12/2/07 6:30 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Re: Sitting Shiva -help?
We have always brought/appreciated hummos and veggies - so will lots of other people!
|
| Posted 12/3/07 6:56 AM |
| |
|
