Should I Be Concerned?

My DD will be 5 next month. She is still not night time potty trained. She has many night accidents in her pull ups. I am going bonkers. Here are some facts:

-She was fully daytime potty trained since 2-2.5 years old.
-She has had no daytime accidents since 2.5 years old.
-She barely drinks liquids at all and at dinner def. drinks less than 15oz (that would be max, if even that. sometimes she has less than 6oz with dinner).
-She always pees immediately before going to bed.

Yes, every single night morning her pull up is still wet. Some nights she pees so much in the pull-up it cant contain it all and causes an accident.

ETA: yes, we have tried underwear under the pull-up, it did not help. and without pull-ups altogether. she might have a good night or two but then accidents a few nights in a row too.

I am losing my mind.

Should I be concerned? What else should or could I be doing about this?

Message edited 7/26/2017 9:55:53 AM.

Should I Be Concerned?

Have you ever tried to put her to bed without the pull up to see if she can hold it? Maybe she is going out of habit bc she knows she can.
I am in the same boat. My DS has been trained since 2.5. He is now almost 4 and still wears a pull up to bed. Im thinking he wakes up in the morning and goes instead of running to the potty out of habit. I might start putting underwear under his pull up so he can feeeeeeeeeel wet and if that bothers him maybe he will just stop? Only other thing i can see trying is letting him wet the bed a few times.... :(

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I am in the same boat. My son turned 4 in May and still wears pull ups every night. We have tried going without and he may have a couple dry nights but then the next will have an accident...so we start using pull ups again.

No advice - I'm personally not concerned. My pediatrician said its very normal for kids to wet the bed well into elementary school. I remember my sister was a big bed wetter - today she is a fully functional adult. It will be fine, haha.

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This was my DD.

I did finally get her night trained but I definitely had to work with her on it. She really wanted to once we started potty training my DS. I assume that she didn't want to be in pull up anymore since her little brother was going to be in them now too.

This is what I did. I try to limit drinks before bed and I made sure she peed right before sleeping (I wasn't doing this right away but I definitely should have). She went to bed with only underwear. I used those pads that put under you in the hosipital and gave her a separate blanket so when she has an accident it was easy to clean up.

I woke her up every night between 10:30-12 (rarely 12 but sometimes I frogt). Most of the time I was not too late and she would wake up pee go back to bed. Some nights I was too late and some nights she still had some accidents even after I woke her to pee.

I did this for a few months but one time she woke up on her own. I was out, and went to the bathroom. I tried to stop waking her then but she still has accidents I continued for I think a week or so more than she got it. She either stood dry the whole night or woke up. They key I think was that even if she feel asleep downstairs I would wake her up and make her pee before she was asleep for the night. She still had accidents once in a while but for the most part she was good.

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I wouldn't be concerned either. I've read it just takes some kids longer for nighttime training . My sister has that issue until she was like 9. She's totally fine right now too lol.

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My daughter just had her 4 year well visit and potty training came up...my daughter is not night trained (not for lack of trying, but I also don't believe in pushing it if she isn't ready...I don't wake her up to go during the night, etc.) but has been day trained completely since age 2. The doctor said at age 7 about 7% still have accidents at night and around then is when he would start thinking about investigating it more. He also said it goes down about a percentage point a year after that and there is often a familial history of bed wetting as children get older.

So no, I wouldn't worry trememdously...her body just might not be ready for it yet.

Should I Be Concerned?

I wouldnt be concerned. DD Is 5.5 and was the same scenario as your DD. A few months ago she finally started waking up with a dry pull up most days so i switched to underwear and she has been doing great so far.. My ped at her 5 year check up had said not to worry about it..

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I would not be concerned

It takes some kids way longer and it's totally normal

Should I Be Concerned?

i wouldn't be concerned. i've heard nighttime training is a biological thing... its a hormone that needs to develop to actually wake them up to go. thats why they make the night time pull ups in such bigger sizes.
My DS is 7 and i still put him in a pull up at night. granted, pretty much every night he wakes up dry at this point-- but its for my own sanity. HAHA he is completely off the wall energy during the day, and so i honestly think he just passes out at night and honestly doesn't wake up. BUT like i said at this point, he's holding it and waking up dry pretty much every night... but i wouldn't be too worried about it yet at 5.

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Please do not be concerned!
My DD just turned 7 and still wets the bed 6 out of 7 nights
I was getting so frustrated and I think she was getting embarressed
I spoke with my pediatrician and I decided to make an appointment with a pediatric urologist.
We just went and thank goodness anatomically everything is perfectly normal but I am still so glad we went
The urologist explained you can not night time train like you can day time train.
DD has been potty trained since 2 - never an accident after day 3
She explained that there is a hormone that produces urine and it regulates itself to produce pee throughout the day / night. In most people the hormone basically learns the differnce between day and night and adjusts its out put accordingly
However in some people this hormone takes longer to regulate than others. She said it can be typical for kids to not be able to stay dry through out the night until roughly about 9 and then it typically works itself out
However if you then combine a deep sleeper (which is my daughter too) or genetics (a family member who also was a night wetter) it makes it that much harder to stay dry throughout the night.
She told me she has seen children up to 18 years old
There are options -
1- just wait it out using a pull up or bed chucks etc.....
2-medication - it is not something that has to be taken every day or it can be if you want. She said some older chidlren who are night wetters will use it for the occasional sleep over
3- tens treatment - it is experimental but you basically use a tens machine/unit 30 minutes prior to bedtime - I was not interested so she did not explain the reasoning for this treatment
4- Night time alarm - an alarm that sounds off once the child begins to wet the bed - the alarms is suppose to wake the child and alert them they need to use the bathroom- it can take up to 12 weeks for the alarm underwear to train the child

She said it is helpful to cut back on liquids and wake the child at night to help on accidents but this wont cure the bed wetting problem.


HOpe this is helpful!

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Someone here recommended an alarm called WetStop. I got the WetStop3. I used it on my almost 6 year old who was trained since 2. It worked in less than a week and he just got trained on how to get up with the urge to go.

Doesn't hurt to give it a try (I still have mine in case #3 has this problem).

When talking with other moms... this seemed like a very popular device people just don't talk about. The Amazon reviews are great!

I just read the above post. We did have bed wetting in the family. We tried cutting back on water, making him pee before bed, we did this right before the evaluation age.

Message edited 7/26/2017 3:57:16 PM.