Secret Delivery?

Anyone thought of not telling anyone when they are in labor and just calling everyone when the baby arrives? Originally we were going to tell close family and friends, but lately I have just been wanting it to be DH and I. I have just been feeling not really supported by friends and especially my mom. My mom has been so involved with her personal life that she has not asked me once how I was feeling, how the doctors appts have been going, results back from blood work,nothing.... So I figure if people are not that interested now, why would they be interested later.

Now I'm upset, thanks hormones.

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I can definitely understand how you feel, and ultimately, it's your and your DH's decision to make. I haven't thought about it much, but I assume we will text family, but tell them not to come until after. I do not want to see anyone besides DH until we are cleaned up and done lol

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Ha! I'm tempted to have my parents keep the fact that the babies were born a secret. Either that or not tell them what hospital I'm in. I'm not one for lots of visitors at the hospital. I have no problem with immediate family or close friends but the thought of everyone just walking in bothers me and I'm certainly going to have my hands full. I hope everyone has the courtesy to at least call me before just showing up to any visiting hours.

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We did that for DS. Left for the hospital at 7:30 at night and called them in the morning and told them we had a baby. They didn't miss anything and all had a good night sleep lol! I would p having to have an emergency section so it was better off that no one was there and stressing out.

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I keep thinking about this. When SIL had her baby we sat around the apt waiting for her to tell us to come up. Then we went up there and sat around for what felt like forever. I said to my dad that when we have the baby we'll tell them I'm in laborious but not to come up. He said that it wasn't my decision if he wants to see his daughter and wish her luck

Being that my parents and in laws don't believe in boundaries, I keep thinking about just giving birth and then telling them I'm done and hes here. I just wish people would respect our wishes and not make me feel like its dramafilled when its supposed to be one of the happiest days of our lives.

Thank you for posting this. It made me feel a little ok if that's what we decide.

Message edited 2/10/2013 12:24:47 PM.

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I said the same thing to DH and he pretty much thought I was nuts. Then again, that's DH's reaction to a lot of my thoughts/feelings.

I told him we should just go to the hospital and let everyone know after the baby is born. That may be a bit difficult with my mom because she's always checking up on me, but I think we can pull it off.

I really don't want anyone hanging out at the hospital. What's the point really. No one will be coming into the room with us, with the possible exception of my cousin who is a dr and I'm not even sure about that.

I totally get where you're coming from. I just think it makes sense to let everyone know when the baby arrives, rather then when I go into labor.

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my best friend asked me how i would feel if she did this and honestly i told her I would be crushed I think its ok to tell them not to come and that you will let them know when you had the baby but I think maybe at least a text saying you are on your way to the hospital and an update or two would be nice at least for your very close family and best friend
but it is your baby and your experience so you have to do what makes sense for you and your husband your friends and family will get over it if thats what you decide to do...if my friend decides to do this i know i will get over it and respect her wishes