Sad about getting rid of baby items

So DD turned 2 and DS will be 5. DH and I have spoken about a 3rd child and I just don't think we can do it. For us, luckily it is not about money although it might stretch us with having 3 kids in daycare/aftercare. My job is crazy and I am the primary source of income. DH works a lot of hours and sometimes evenings. I travel for my job and 3 kids would be hard. We also had some medical scares with DD (she is healthy) and turning 40 is around the corner.

With all these reasons, I am donating all the baby items...stroller, high chair, swing.....we just are running out of space. It makes me so sad.....I feel like there should be 3 kids in our house and my heart can't settle it with my mind. Does that make sense? That I feel as if I am missing a child? I know it's crazy. I just feel so sad.

Sad about getting rid of baby items

maybe down the road you'd end up considering adopting a third child if the schedules would free up? If your not settled about it and fee like your missing a child maybe you two should consider looking for a job with less demanding hours so you'd be available?

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It sounds like you really want the third.

I put work first for a long time, but I always knew I wanted 3. Just had my second and when I did the math for the third it was daunting b/c two and full time job is hard enough.

I am not giving as much as I would like to give at work, but this is a time that I need to be home - and I know if I don't have the third I'd regret it. For me my family wouldn't be complete.

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Message edited 11/29/2012 12:10:52 AM.

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I spoke to DH again this morning. The donation truck is coming this morning. He told me to hold the stuff until I was ready. I actually decided to put the highchair, swing and stroller for donation....I kept the bassinet and pack and play. I told him if this feeling continues, then maybe we talk it through again in the spring. Worst case, I can borrow stuff from my sister that she has put in storage.....

I wish I could change my job. I have worked for the company for 15 years and have seniority that allows me to work at home as much as I want. It's a tough job - yes with travel required. But the flexibility of the job and the fact that I will never make as much money in another job causes me to stay put.

I wish there was an easy answer and maybe this feeling will go away when I don't have the baby stuff to look at constantly. It still hurts like hell

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I know how you feel I have two kids...wanted / want a third but after three consecutive miscarriages and my age I am beginning to second guess my decision to have a third. BUT when I go to sort through my baby stuff I can barely breathe and have to stop. My heart is still longing for a third but I dont know what the plan is for me.

I think you made the right decision and I am glad your DH is on the same page as you.

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Posted by babydreaming

I feel like there should be 3 kids in our house and my heart can't settle it with my mind. Does that make sense? That I feel as if I am missing a child? I know it's crazy. I just feel so sad.

This really struck me & I feel the same way.
We just had dc#2 6 months ago but was ready to start conceiveing a #3 a couple of months ago. DH says he is done but I still feel like a child is missing. I hope that you can figure it out.