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I just took a test and got a negative
My two weeks is technically up in Wednesday

This was my 7th IUI... now onto IVF

My problem is I don't think I am ready. I think I need time to myself.
Has anyone taken a few months off to just get their thoughts together?
I also don't ovulate on my own. So I am not sure what to do about that, should I put myself on birth control?
I made an appointment but its not for 2 weeks.

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I am sorry. I have taken time off. We have gone on a vacation, we have saved/spent our money, we spent time doing this for us. I think if you feel you need a break- take one.

I promise IVF is more mental/emotional then it is physical.

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Posted by 2BirdsofaFeather

I am sorry. I have taken time off. We have gone on a vacation, we have saved/spent our money, we spent time doing this for us. I think if you feel you need a break- take one.

I promise IVF is more mental/emotional then it is physical.

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Posted by whateverLOLAwants

Posted by 2BirdsofaFeather

I am sorry. I have taken time off. We have gone on a vacation, we have saved/spent our money, we spent time doing this for us. I think if you feel you need a break- take one.

I promise IVF is more mental/emotional then it is physical.

i completely agree with everything here. if you feel you need a break, take it. you need to be ready to take the next steps, maybe write down a list of all of your personal pros and cons so to speak. making the decision to go forward with IVF and waiting to start the injections was by far the hardest part of the entire journey.

good luck! we're all here for you!

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I took a break for Dec/Jan to enjoy the holidays and just veg. Don't worry about ovulating... it will happen when you get the IVF ball rolling. And wait till you see how fast it goes!

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Posted by 2BirdsofaFeather

I am sorry. I have taken time off. We have gone on a vacation, we have saved/spent our money, we spent time doing this for us. I think if you feel you need a break- take one.

I promise IVF is more mental/emotional then it is physical.

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Ita w the pps. There is nothing wrong with taking time! Have you met with an RE? Maybe have your consult to better understand what it is you'll need to do and that will help you decide 100% whether you are ready or not. GL!

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I was *never* a break girl... but over the years, I've definitely been forced to take breaks I did not want to take and it DOES help. I really think a break is what you make of it. If you spend your time counting down and obsessing over a cycle that's not taking place, you will go nuts. If you are determined to enjoy yourself.. your dh.. get involved in other things.. take vacations.. .then I think it can do you A LOT of good both mentally and physically.

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I took a break. I had a FET back and April and have since switched RE had to update some expiring tests such as pap, blood work etc. Took a couple vacations and here we are 6 months later cycling again.

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I was never a break girl until I started doing IVF. I do feel you need to get yourself feeling whole to manage all the emotional stuff that goes along with such a process, where so much is riding on one shot.

It does sound like you want to get off the ride. As far as BCP, I would ask what your doctor wants to do.

But don't just take a break and "wait" to do the IVF. Take the time to do something that makes you feel fortified, maybe something you haven't had the energy to do because of juggling treatments and the emotions that come along.

Like for me, I won't do IVF again until probably January because I feel like I need to focus on getting healthy and losing all the weight I've put on while riding the IFcoaster. Last time during the break, I spent a summer focused on creative writing, Broadway plays, a week at a beach house, etc.: fun in general, in addition to lots of yoga and meditation to get myself centered and heal. Maybe for you, give yourself the holidays, take a trip, start fresh.

It'll be okay.

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I did 6 IUI's....2 times it "took" but both pregnancies ended in miscarriages. Then it was time for me to move onto IVF. I was soooo nervous about the whole process because it seemed so completely overwhelming to me.....administering the shots, the constant appointments, the retrieval, the transfer, the "what-if's". I didn't think I was ready either. I had to take a break because the Dr. put me on bcp's for a few weeks. So that time gave me a chance to just "breathe" for a little while. Once I started the IVF process...I was ready. And believe it wasn't half as bad as I thought.
If you ever need anything or have any questions- feel free to shoot me an FM

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I think you have to be fully prepared physically, mentally and emotionally to move onto IVF...For some people they need the break to think about the next step..I was never the break person but if it helps you gain clarity and stability def go with it...I was so anxious about the IVF process but to be honest it was easier than the IUI's...less waiting and more getting things done which I am all about...good luck!!!