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keepingsecrets
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by TryingSoHard
Posted by MrsPorkChop
my question is...once we do get pregnant and have a baby- does the pain and jealousy ever go away?
Can I please answer this for you? Even thought I didnt go through IVF I still had my problems. Now being almost 17 weeks its still a bit hard seeing others that have recently had their babies. So many of our friends just gave birth. I look at them with jealousy still because they didnt have to try as hard or for so long or have the multiple MC or Negatives. I still fear that something could go wrong and and I wont get my happy ending. That positive is such a great feeling but it's not 100% there for me yet. I dont think it will be until I am holding my LO and they are safe and sound. I still think about my MC and how they made me feel. Everytime I go to the BR, I check the TP to make sure there's nothing on it. It's so stressful. I feel robbed of the relax feeling that so many others have. Our family is so excited for us but it's hard knowing that inside I have my concerns. I am going to cherish every cry and diaper change every sick day they may have because I wanted it so bad and we tried for a long time. "...in the end it will all be worth it" I hope this is true.
thnak you fpr sharing that...i am sorry that the pain doesnt go away- that is what i am so scared of too...
i hope you are able to finally be at peace with your pregnancy being successful and that you are able to enjoy all those moments....as you very much deserve them !!!!!
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Shelleybean11
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PennyCat
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by MrsPorkChop
Posted by TryingSoHard
Posted by MrsPorkChop
my question is...once we do get pregnant and have a baby- does the pain and jealousy ever go away?
Can I please answer this for you? Even thought I didnt go through IVF I still had my problems. Now being almost 17 weeks its still a bit hard seeing others that have recently had their babies. So many of our friends just gave birth. I look at them with jealousy still because they didnt have to try as hard or for so long or have the multiple MC or Negatives. I still fear that something could go wrong and and I wont get my happy ending. That positive is such a great feeling but it's not 100% there for me yet. I dont think it will be until I am holding my LO and they are safe and sound. I still think about my MC and how they made me feel. Everytime I go to the BR, I check the TP to make sure there's nothing on it. It's so stressful. I feel robbed of the relax feeling that so many others have. Our family is so excited for us but it's hard knowing that inside I have my concerns. I am going to cherish every cry and diaper change every sick day they may have because I wanted it so bad and we tried for a long time. "...in the end it will all be worth it" I hope this is true.
thnak you fpr sharing that...i am sorry that the pain doesnt go away- that is what i am so scared of too...
i hope you are able to finally be at peace with your pregnancy being successful and that you are able to enjoy all those moments....as you very much deserve them !!!!!
This reminds me a little of when I was pregnant with the triplets a few months ago. I saw a cousin who was pregnant at the time (had her baby two weeks ago) .. and the entire time I knew she was pregnant, I was SO jealous  I thought when I was pregnant too, it wouldn't be that way anymore. Well.. I was pregnant with TRIPLETS and being around her still bothered me. I was jealous of how easy her road was... how her biggest bruise was on her arm when she had some routine bloodwork taken and my stomach was totally bruised up and purple from Lovenox... I was jealous she had no reason to worry about a loss while I was worried sick.... I was so jealous of how carefree she could be and that she could actually ENJOY her pregnancy when I felt like I could not.
I feel like a part of the nightmare sticks with you forever...
Thank you ladies  It's just been one of those days..............
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marriedandttc
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lauren
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KMCGK
Gotta have faith
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Re: I hate this.
"This isn't something you get over. It's just something you get through, and then you carry it around with you for the rest of your life. It's part of your story now. Part of your history. It'll always, always hurt. Just not quite as bad someday." from Lucious Lemon by Heather Swain
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| Posted 7/25/11 7:24 PM |
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Ready4aBaby
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PennyCat
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by KMCGK
"This isn't something you get over. It's just something you get through, and then you carry it around with you for the rest of your life. It's part of your story now. Part of your history. It'll always, always hurt. Just not quite as bad someday." from Lucious Lemon by Heather Swain
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| Posted 7/25/11 7:29 PM |
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KMCGK
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I know its perfect.
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beanie571
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InShock
life is good
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by KMCGK
"This isn't something you get over. It's just something you get through, and then you carry it around with you for the rest of your life. It's part of your story now. Part of your history. It'll always, always hurt. Just not quite as bad someday." from Lucious Lemon by Heather Swain
Wow. So true.
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| Posted 7/25/11 9:10 PM |
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aim
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Re: I hate this.
I hope tomorrow is a lighter day
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| Posted 7/25/11 10:51 PM |
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prunepie
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Re: I hate this.
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| Posted 7/25/11 11:06 PM |
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RGEC47
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Re: I hate this.
I hope you have a better day today.
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by KMCGK
"This isn't something you get over. It's just something you get through, and then you carry it around with you for the rest of your life. It's part of your story now. Part of your history. It'll always, always hurt. Just not quite as bad someday." from Lucious Lemon by Heather Swain
Love this!
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Lola
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by MrsPorkChop
my question is...once we do get pregnant and have a baby- does the pain and jealousy ever go away?
For me, the pain and jealousy went away completely once my son was here. If anything, now I can say, I am very happy and thankful for what I went through. It makes truly appreciate what a miracle my son is and not take one second of time with him for granted. I really believe that God has a plan for us and if I had gotten pregnant 2 years earlier when we started trying a different sperm and egg would have met and I would not have my son.
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Jax430
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Re: I hate this.
Agreed. There is nothing to like about it, except for the fabulous ladies that I've met.
I think I'm slowly becoming numb...that is until my next breakdown, of course. 
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PennyCat
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by Jax430
Agreed. There is nothing to like about it, except for the fabulous ladies that I've met.
I think I'm slowly becoming numb...that is until my next breakdown, of course.
That's how I feel! I'm normal between the crazy 
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Jax430
Hi!
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by PennyCat
I'm normal between the crazy
That just made me laugh. I might quote you on that. It's sooooo true for most of us, I think!
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quierounotro
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Re: I hate this.
Posted by Lola
Posted by MrsPorkChop
my question is...once we do get pregnant and have a baby- does the pain and jealousy ever go away?
For me, the pain and jealousy went away completely once my son was here. If anything, now I can say, I am very happy and thankful for what I went through. It makes truly appreciate what a miracle my son is and not take one second of time with him for granted. I really believe that God has a plan for us and if I had gotten pregnant 2 years earlier when we started trying a different sperm and egg would have met and I would not have my son.
I have to say that I feel the same exact way. I'm happy when I see other people get pregnant now and I love to be around babies. I don't feel any jealousy or bitterness at all. I feel completely at peace and so happy to have my DC who is everything in the world to me. Everything we went through brought us this incredible child who makes me smile every single day of my life.
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