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Be able to live apart from DH for 6-8 months. DH and I have decided that we are going to be moving in like a year. Well he may have a great job offer but it would start in the spring meaning that we would be apart for like 8 months maybe seeing eachother like 3 times at most. I can't leave until end of December because I need to finish grad school. Would anyone be able to do this??

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If I knew it was going to be temporary (obviously) and that the outcome would be positive, yes I would.

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Yes - knowing that it is temporary is HUGE.

Rich and I did the long distance college thing - we were apart on and off for over 2 years, and it made us stronger. It opened up lines of communication, and made seeing each other even MORE amazing then usual.

I know you can't compare the 2 - a college experience and your marriage....but you can do it.

eta: it also depends how far away - we were 4-5 hours apart by car...not bad at all. We usually saw each other a couple days a month.

Message edited 1/10/2006 10:45:53 PM.

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Honeslty, I dont think I could....

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I could do it.

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I could do it. It would be hard, of course, but I lived alone for several years, so I am used to having to be on my own.

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I couldnt...I would miss him soooo much!

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Hypothetically speaking, no way! It is so hard to answer this questions though. You have circumstances that prevent you from moving right now and this seems to be an opportunity that DH can't pass up. My sister recently was faced with a similar situation. My BIL was given a job opportunity in London for 1 year to start up a new part of his company. He knew he would be working 60 - 80 hour work weeks including Saturdays and Sundays. When he and my sister sat down to discuss if it made sense for them to uproot them plus my 2 nephews (ages 6 and 2), they felt it didn't make sense. They said, why should my sister be alone in a foreign country without her frinds and family when she could be here with all of us. He came home every other weekend or so and hasn't missed a holiday or special event. My sister has flown out there a few times as well (once with the kids and a few times on her own for long weekends, etc.). It has taken a LOT of adjustment, bot for him to be away as well as each time he comes home. But, in the long run, she is glad that they made the decision for him to go alone. As it tunrs out for them though, what was supposed to be 1 year has turned into only 6 monts as he is wrapping things up there to come home next week.
DH and I have both said that for us, there is nothing here that would have kept me from moving with him. Again, every circumstance will be different though!

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If it meant a better future Yes I would definitely!!! Godd Luck and

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If we had no choice, I suppose I could do it. But it would be so so so hard.

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Thanks for the responses. We would be pretty far apart (5 hour plane ride---24 hour drive). I am not positive that he will get the job but it looks good. I think it would be worth it and it would definitely be temporary. Thanks again everyone.

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My friend just did this- and now they are together again. It will be hard, but if its better for your future, it may be worthwhile.

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I could. I hardly see my DH now as it is, he works all the time so I'm used to him not being around and doing my own thing most of the time.

I think for you as long as you know it's temporary and it's for your future (more money, etc) then try it.

I know for me, the rare time my DH does have off I treasure, and love spending time with him. We really do appreciate our time together since it's so limited.

good luck!

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It would be hard but I guess I could if we had to. It's hard but it can be done.

My BF and her DH were leaving in different cities for 8 months. She had to relocate to Louisiana for work, but her DH had a hard time finding a permanent job. So after a yr, he decided to start looking back in Memphis since they knew her assignment only had another year. He ended up getting a job at her company back in Memphis. For 8 months they saw each other at least 3 weekends a month, driving 5 hours to see each other. She just moved back to Memphis 2 weeks ago and she said even living together again is an adjustment.

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Nope...we couldn't do it. DH didn't handle sleeping alone for 1 night while I was in the hospital recovering from giving birth!

And when I went up to NY for a few nights....forget it...he doesn't eat or sleep when we are apart.

I love that about him!