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"Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
ETA: I had no idea she didn't really raise her kids. Or change a diaper. Or was a mom to them.
I see that its about the spectacle and being in the spotlight. Not the loss of her child.
People mourn in different ways. Maybe for her she needed to be the center of attention.......But I agree that the nanny who raised her is probably heartbroken.
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There has been a lot of "controversy" surrounding the mothers actions at her daughters funeral.
Her actions might have been tacky.
Her actions (at the funeral) might be odd.
Her actions might make people go "WTF".
HOWEVER.
No one can tell YOU how to mourn. I'm actually OUTRAGED that people, news (etc) are attacking this poor woman for her actions at the funeral.
Everyone mourns differently. So she took a picture of the casket. Maybe for HER it helps.
I will NOT judge this woman who just lost her child on the way SHE mourns....even if its not the way WE mourn.
When you loose someone and its sudden and its NOT their time...well, you don't hink. You don't even KNOW how to act, or how to be. You just exist for a for a few days until the daze wears off....so I will NOT judge this woman on her behavior. She lost her 18 year old, have a little decency to let the family be.
Shame Shame on the news for even reporting it.
I'm HOT about this.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Her actions were disgusting. You're at your child's funeral, put the damn phone away.
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| Posted 6/12/15 11:24 AM |
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jellybean78
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
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Her actions were disgusting. You're at your child's funeral, put the damn phone away.
I don't think it was only this it was a combination of other things. She went public stating that she doesn't raise her kids..that's what she has staff for. Who says ish like that?
FTR I agree everyone mourns differently but taking pictures or your teenage daughters casket and posing for pictures smiling holding a iced drink in your hand doesn't scream I'm mourning. It scream's I'm sane enough to find a nice outfit, a cold drink and use my phone to take pictures including ones where I'm smiling. IDK but as a parent I can't even imagine being able to do any of those things during my kids funeral..especially not when the death was so sudden.
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NervousNell
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
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Posted by JennZ
Her actions were disgusting. You're at your child's funeral, put the damn phone away.
I don't think it was only this it was a combination of other things. She went public stating that she doesn't raise her kids..that's what she has staff for. Who says ish like that?
FTR I agree everyone mourns differently but taking pictures or your teenage daughters casket and posing for pictures smiling holding a iced drink in your hand doesn't scream I'm mourning. It scream's I'm sane enough to find a nice outfit, a cold drink and use my phone to take pictures including ones where I'm smiling. IDK but as a parent I can't even imagine being able to do any of those things during my kids funeral..especially not when the death was so sudden.
OMG if this is the case then yes, she's a POS.
Typical of today's vapid, reality show driven, social media, selfie, look at me, bullshyt culture.
Take a selfie smiling with your child's coffin.
Disgusting.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by JennZ
Her actions were disgusting. You're at your child's funeral, put the damn phone away.
And your t*ts! Her dress was ridiculous.
To the OP. Did you see her on Wife Swap?
I'm pretty sure that has a lot to do with it.
She admitted that she never changed any of her kids diapers. She handed them over to the staff as soon as she came home from the hospital. Never spent time with them.
If she knew all her kids names and ages I would be floored. Sorry..but she's disgraceful as a mother.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by MsSissy
Posted by JennZ
Her actions were disgusting. You're at your child's funeral, put the damn phone away.
And your t*ts! Her dress was ridiculous.
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To the OP. Did you see her on Wife Swap?
I'm pretty sure that has a lot to do with it.
She admitted that she never changed any of her kids diapers. She handed them over to the staff as soon as she came home from the hospital. Never spent time with them.
If she knew all her kids names and ages I would be floored. Sorry..but she's disgraceful as a mother.
Yeah, I hadn't heard about this story and when the OP posted about it, I looked it up. The first I noticed was that dress. Totally inappropriate and disgusting.
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cds58019
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Normally I would agree but this woman came out and said that her kids were all handed off to staff members as soon as they came home from the hospital. She never changed one diaper. Because their house is so large they could go for days without seeing any of their kids. Good for you if you have that luxury but why would you not make it a point to see your kids?? And at least have enough respect for your own daughter to keep your tits covered. This lady is beyond disgusting. The staff members that raised the kids are probably mourning more then she is.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
I had to google this since I don't know who she is, and first thing I see is a picture of this woman holding an iced drink, dressed in a very tight very revealing dress taking pictures of a casket.
Totally inappropriate.
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kahlua716
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
I don't think it's THAT bizarre to take pictures- I actually think it may be common in other cultures.
A mom of one of the kids in my DD's dance class broke out her phone one day to show me pictures of her niece's funeral (I did not ask to see them or even know that she took them) I was really taken aback, but she was so nonchalant about it- I figured it must be normal for her family.
ETA: After reading more- I guess I agree she was inappropriate.
FTR: I don't know who the hell these people are.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
She's an egg donor, not a mother.
She didn't raise her kids, she paid others do it. I would bet the nanny that raised that poor girl is the one truly grieving. This woman is just looking for attention.
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| Posted 6/12/15 1:39 PM |
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
I didn't know most of whet you guys said above (not changing diapers....not raising them..)
And I will give it to you that she is a POS. I don't disagree.
But EVEN with all of that, she should mourn the way she wants...EVEN if it means mugging for the camera, taking pictures of the casket, and dressing like wh0re.
My heart hurts for her and that she is so out of touch with reality that she cant even get how crappy she comes off. The spectacle is much more important than the mourning.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by SusiBee
I had to google this since I don't know who she is, and first thing I see is a picture of this woman holding an iced drink, dressed in a very tight very revealing dress taking pictures of a casket.
Totally inappropriate.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by Paramount
I didn't know most of whet you guys said above (not changing diapers....not raising them..)
And I will give it to you that she is a POS. I don't disagree.
But EVEN with all of that, she should mourn the way she wants...EVEN if it means mugging for the camera, taking pictures of the casket, and dressing like wh0re.
My heart hurts for her and that she is so out of touch with reality that she cant even get how crappy she comes off. The spectacle is much more important than the mourning.
Sorry I am going to judge.
No true mother in her right mind would be smiling for the cameras, taking pictures, wearing a tit bearing dress at their child's funeral.
I don't think I would even be able to function in any capacity if GOD forbid one of my children were taken from me, much less do ANY of the things this POS did.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
I just wanted to put this out there. My dh's best friend is Chineese. When Bf's father passed away, his family asked that I photograph the funeral, the processional, the burial, including taking photos of the deceased. At first, I was taken aback, but I did so at both his and his family's request. I took both formal and candid photos, as well as stylized photos of the entire event. I gave them to his family and they told me it was the single greatest gift they could have received and loved every photo. It was very difficult for me, but I treated the event with sympathy. Every time I see Bf's mother, even years later she still thanks me and tells me how meaniful the photos are. With that said, different people handle grief differently.
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summerBaby10
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by LSP2005
I just wanted to put this out there. My dh's best friend is Chineese. When Bf's father passed away, his family asked that I photograph the funeral, the processional, the burial, including taking photos of the deceased. At first, I was taken aback, but I did so at both his and his family's request. I took both formal and candid photos, as well as stylized photos of the entire event. I gave them to his family and they told me it was the single greatest gift they could have received and loved every photo. It was very difficult for me, but I treated the event with sympathy. Every time I see Bf's mother, even years later she still thanks me and tells me how meaniful the photos are. With that said, different people handle grief differently.
I was just going to post that we take wake & funeral pics in my italian family. Not, like, hire a prof photog & hold a photo shoot kind of thing but we take pics. I have pics of both my grandparents in their caskets & I find it calming to see them. We also have pics of ourselves as kids in front of their headstone. Hopefully, it's not until many, many years down the road but I will take pics of my parents in theirs as well. Prob sounds morbid to most but it doesn't upset me to have them. Anyway, this woman's dress is a completely inappropriate choice in clothing.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
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I just wanted to put this out there. My dh's best friend is Chineese. When Bf's father passed away, his family asked that I photograph the funeral, the processional, the burial, including taking photos of the deceased. At first, I was taken aback, but I did so at both his and his family's request. I took both formal and candid photos, as well as stylized photos of the entire event. I gave them to his family and they told me it was the single greatest gift they could have received and loved every photo. It was very difficult for me, but I treated the event with sympathy. Every time I see Bf's mother, even years later she still thanks me and tells me how meaniful the photos are. With that said, different people handle grief differently.
I was just going to post that we take wake & funeral pics in my italian family. Not, like, hire a prof photog & hold a photo shoot kind of thing but we take pics. I have pics of both my grandparents in their caskets & I find it calming to see them. We also have pics of ourselves as kids in front of their headstone. Hopefully, it's not until many, many years down the road but I will take pics of my parents in theirs as well. Prob sounds morbid to most but it doesn't upset me to have them. Anyway, this woman's dress is a completely inappropriate choice in clothing.
Its customary in my culture to take pics as well... I have a ton from my dad's funeral . Obviously no one is in them posing or anything but we have pics of the casket, funeral parlor, flower arrangements etc
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by Paramount
I didn't know most of whet you guys said above (not changing diapers....not raising them..)
And I will give it to you that she is a POS. I don't disagree.
But EVEN with all of that, she should mourn the way she wants...EVEN if it means mugging for the camera, taking pictures of the casket, and dressing like wh0re.
My heart hurts for her and that she is so out of touch with reality that she cant even get how crappy she comes off. The spectacle is much more important than the mourning.
I suppose...but if my uncle rolled into my dad's funeral wearing a Hawaiian shirt and drinking a martini...then said "this is how I mourn"... I'd think he was an asshole. There is still appropriate and inappropriate behavior.
If this woman wanted pics I'm certain she would have hired a photographer. She barely wipes her own ass, I can't imagine she'd take it upon herself to capture these photos from her cell phone if she wanted to treasure them.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
I swear these people have no concept of reality. Life is one big publicity stunt and they are just twisted. This is NOT typical behavior of a mother whose teenage daughter has just died suddenly. I can't even imagine. Thats the problem with people like her..Its all disconnected from reality. What a shame.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by MsSissy
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Her actions were disgusting. You're at your child's funeral, put the damn phone away.
And your t*ts! Her dress was ridiculous.
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To the OP. Did you see her on Wife Swap?
I'm pretty sure that has a lot to do with it.
She admitted that she never changed any of her kids diapers. She handed them over to the staff as soon as she came home from the hospital. Never spent time with them.
If she knew all her kids names and ages I would be floored. Sorry..but she's disgraceful as a mother.
I happened to see this and I was disgusted by her and her husband. Those children are so sad and know that money and things are more important than they are. These people make me sick. The mentality of buying bigger than anyone and the more expensive the better is ridiculous. They said their homes (more like hotels) are so big they can go days without seeing other members of their family. I get that people ,mourn in different ways but this woman is just out of touch and has no bond with her children. Very sad.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Posted by Paramount
I didn't know most of whet you guys said above (not changing diapers....not raising them..)
And I will give it to you that she is a POS. I don't disagree.
But EVEN with all of that, she should mourn the way she wants...EVEN if it means mugging for the camera, taking pictures of the casket, and dressing like wh0re.
My heart hurts for her and that she is so out of touch with reality that she cant even get how crappy she comes off. The spectacle is much more important than the mourning.
You are 100% right. I was going to post exactly what you wrote. Whether she was a good mother has NOTHING to do with what you wrote.
The funeral was for HER and HER family. To catch her at random moments, to PHOTOGRAPH someone at their child's funeral...to PUBLISH those pictures? DISGUSTING!!!!
I saw the NY Post headline "#mydeadkid" and I thought--they've gone too far. I don't care who she is. Someone should lose their job. I can't believe that there was no fallout.
That was one of the most disgusting things I have ever seen. Catching someone with a random expression on their face during an hours-long funeral and burial and judging them for it on the hardest day of their life is SUBHUMAN.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
And I will add that I have no idea who this is--she could be the biggest POS on earth. I don't care.
It is easy for people to say what they would do if the unthinkable happened. But that's just it. It's unthinkable.
We might be seeing a psychotic break. We might be seeing things taken out of context. it doesn't matter. Unless the family released it, we never should have gotten to see it.
Some things are sacred---no matter who is at the center of them.
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Re: "Queen of Versailles" Daugter died.
Am I the only dummy who thought she was actual Queen from the title.
Any who.. I think everyone mourns differently but I think she look unphased. And coupled by what people posted about how she is I can see that the death of her kids will have little affect on her. It seems like she didn't have a connection but idk, I'm only doing by what I saw on here since I had no clue who she was.
We have a picture of my mom in the coffin during her wake and my uncles and aunt who passed away as well. Idk why my grandmother did it, but I think it was their last picture before closing the casket and never seeing them again. I will say we don't have a pic of my uncle who passed away 4 years ago and I think that's because no one had a camera and no one wanted to have it on their phone. No one wanted to deal with the digital aspect of downloading it printing I think.
Eta: I also think the news being reported on this is wrong and gross. Welcome to what sells now a days as entertainment.
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