People touching your tummy

How do you diplomatically tell people you are not okay with this?

Certain family members are touching my stomach as soon as I walk in the door (and I am not even showing yet!). I'm sure some people might be more comfortable with this.....but I am just not. I sort of feel violated. Is that weird?

I mean, once I am further along and can feel the baby kicking - I am certainly going to tell people, especially close family "oh give me your hand - feel the baby kicking!!". But I am just not okay with people taking it upon themselves to touch me.

Any ideas??

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Oh my gosh, I was wondering about this also. I'm sorry I have no advice for you, I'm having the same problem.

Some of the oddest people have done this actually, coworkers I barely know. I wouldn't mind if it is family member or close coworker, but it's odd when it's someone I'm not that friendly with!

One woman actually asked me after touching my belly, "How did this happen?" My reply, "The usual way!" Too funny! She has boundary issues though, so it didn't seem so odd from her.

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People are nuts at my job about touching my stomach. I get belly rubs all the time. I dont think anythign of it. As long as they dont try to rub my belly after the baby is born....

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I have the same problem. It is my MIL. I told my DH how much it bothered me and he said something. Since he said something it has gotten better. Now she just asks every few minutes if he is moving. At 38 weeks movements really slow down so I can say no. But if he is moving I will take her hand and put it on my belly. It gives me some control. I really don't like it when people touch my belly either.

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I threw diplomacy out the window. I hate people touching without asking, so I have made it clear in a variety of ways that I don't like it. I put my hands up, I back away, I get mad and say stuff like "you should ask first" or "what makes people think they have carte blanche to touch a woman just b/c she is PG" etc.

DH has told people I don't like it as well, so that helps.

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Only one person touched my belly so far and it was a little bothersome since i am barely showing. In the future i plan to back away if i see hands coming towards me! I hate being touched unexpectedly.

My mom has this annoying habit of lifting up my shirt to see how much i am showing - and this has happened in front of other people. Talk about rude!!!! She is lucky she is my mother or i think i might have hurt her!

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My SIL is the belly toucher,and I wasn't even showing yet. She talks to my belly too! I agree that once I get bigger and can feel her, I would tell people to feel it.
But to touch and talk to my belly is really annoying at this point. But I just let it go.