People not congratulating you out of spite

There is a member in our family who has not congratulated us to this day. She has known for about a month and DH and I have seen her several times at social events. This person has been known to cause drama and is a pretty sensitive person as far as feeling like she is left out all the time and just analyzes things way to much in a negative way. I’ve been trying to get along with her but it never seems to work out. I believe there is a bit of jealousy involved. If not a bit I would say a lot from her toward me. It may be that she feels my PG is me getting attention so she won’t acknowledge it at all out of spite.

I’m handling it fine. Of course it puzzles me but I don’t allow myself to get upset over it or ask why the rudeness (there are other things this person has done besides not congratulating but it’s too much to get into). I believe she wants confrontation and we have had a few in the past but again I will not subject my baby to it at all. So I continue to be pleasant with her but her actions are still surprising to me and the more we see her, the more spiteful she becomes toward us.

Have any of you experienced any kind of ill will? Would you handle this any different?

Re: People not congratulating you out of spite

Mmm no, I can't say I have -- DH and I are both the youngest in our families and everyone is more than happy that we are FINALLY here.

That being said, I would handle it exactly the way you are - take the high road and do not let her get to you.

Actually come to think of it - I have a friend who never would speak about my pregnancy for the longest time. But she flew here from Minneapolis for my shower, and was incredibly excited and generous. Maybe for some people they don't want to get caught up until you are further along...I think this was her case but at first it bothered me, so I just let it lie.

Re: People not congratulating you out of spite

Don't stress sweetie. Like you said, she's looking for confrontation and it definitely sounds like a case of sour grapes. Screw her!

Re: People not congratulating you out of spite

sounds like you are handling it graciously and being the better person. if she doesn't want to offer her congratulations... then you don't need them!

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This hasn't really happened to me but there is one "extremely important" family member I will just say that doesn't acknowledge this baby and it really hurts.

Re: People not congratulating you out of spite

Posted by Ambersmom

Don't stress sweetie. Like you said, she's looking for confrontation and it definitely sounds like a case of sour grapes. Screw her!